I feel like my insides are being continuously ripped out and trampled on. I want to cry but my tears have run dry. I am trying to get over someone and it isn't going well. I know I must stay busy but he won't leave my mind. He did that slowly disappearing thing. call less and then not at all. I would get upset that he didn't call then be happy when he did. it was hell but this is even worse. there are no more calls coming. Absolute rejection sucks. I just keep thinking about him and all the new girls he is probably with and why was I not good enough. What could I have done differently? I am jealous of the girls he will meet because they will have what I don't...him That sounds so bad but my brain is impaired by the pain. He wasn't perfect but now that he is gone I feel like I would settle for his shortcomings to be back with him. Too bad it's not my choice. How can I get strength? Will these weak feelings ever go? I don't want to feel this way. I don't want to care anymore. Help.
2007-03-15 15:50:57 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This weekend, go to sleep around 7pm on friday and wake up saturday morning around 9am and grab a big cup of starbucks and go shop with your best friends and end the evening with a nice dinner at carabas or chili's.
thats my two cents and i hope you feel better [=
2007-03-15 15:54:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
welcome to the club!!!!!! Stand up and clap your hands because you're alive!!!!!! Would you rather go through life and never have loved at all???? Love hurts. Love is everlasting. Love is great. Love conquers all. Love is life. Love moves mountains. Do I need to go on. So it didn't work out. Rats!!!! Is this the only guy in the world that can make you happy??? If you answer yes, then you have bigger problems. What was great about being with him?? What did you learn about yourself?? What is so great about being in a relationship?? Love is learning who you are and I can guarantee you will love again and it gets better everytime around. Don't let it control your life?? Don't you have other things in your life?? If not, then now is the time to start somethig new. Everyday is an unspent back account with limitless riches........what are you going to spend your life doing tomorrow?? Feeling sorry for yourself or creating something new and even more beautiful then who you are right now. Cheer up!!!! Write down ten things you love about yourself, write down ten things you want to be better about yourself, write down ten things you can control that would make your life better and start doing it tomorrow and I guarantee you will start feeling better about the next attractive guy that can't wait get to know you.
2007-03-15 23:05:15 · answer #2 · answered by danny_austin4 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry, hon! Here's an idea that might help... get together with your friends. (Your true friends, the people that actually deserve your love and friendship) and have a BACHELORETTE PARTY! It doesnt matter if your pals are single or not... it doesnt matter how old yall are... just hang out and do girly things. Go to a spa, watch Brad Pitt or Gerard Butler or Christian Bale movies, whatever floats your boat. Go downtown and look for cute boys to flirt with. Hopefully, that way, you can have fun and also get over this boy more easily.
2007-03-15 23:00:38 · answer #3 · answered by 1337_becky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just to let you know, I was where you are back in December. Now I have found the true love of my life, and I can't imagine how I could have pined for that loser. I spent a lot of time crying and writing in my journal, but I went on Match and dated several men (after which I would go home and cry even harder). Finally, my love swept me off my feet. There is hope for you, too. Get angry at the cad. Remember how he cruelly used you. Then go out and get laid!
2007-03-15 22:55:57 · answer #4 · answered by nondescript 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie u need 2 relax 1st i know is hard u feel like u wanna die n it suxs the 1st thing is u need be alone get ur head straight then once u do that go out with the girls meet guys talk 2 different guys this will take ur mind of him n yea u still gonna feel alill bad but as as crapped up as b4 the ppl u meet will take ur mind of ur problem n u will once again be slowly a strong women again belive me is hard but its not the end of the world u will get over it ur heart will heal n u will find sum1 really good that wont hurt u enjoy ur single life by doin this
good luck sweetie
i know u can do it
2007-03-15 23:06:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off don't kill yourself that only makes it worse. Instead of thinking about the girls he is with think about the guys you could be with. Find a new boy friend, and make the most of your life. Don't get dragged down by one relationship no matter how good it was. Hope this helps. P.S. He should have told you strait up that he didn't want to go out with you.
2007-03-15 22:56:07 · answer #6 · answered by Desert Punk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relax, look on the bright side, you now know the truth- that this dude is a real jerk....at least it did not take years to figure that out. Do not think of all the girls he will be with....think how he is the one who passed up the real thing...most guys are just round for the thrill of the ride....til it gets boring....you will find the right guy....one who, when you meet you will know is right for you. Think on the positive side of things that there is so much more to life than loosers like that who care little about feelings...One day you will find someone who will sweep you off your feet, first you must look beyond him, and occupy yourself w/ friends and hobbies....it will improve, promise.
2007-03-15 22:59:04 · answer #7 · answered by Jenblossom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time really does heal all wounds, especially if you want it to stop. Your even closer than you think. i know its hard to stop thinking about him but you have to force your mind on other things, get a hobby maybe? slowly the feelings will fade, as well as the pain. Even though right now it may seem like you might not even make it through. You will, one day this wont even matter to you
2007-03-15 22:56:42 · answer #8 · answered by Youll See 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing i can say will really help. nothing u can do will really help. u should get out, do fun things with ur friends and family - keep ur mind busy so it will be off him. i know it's hard right now, we've all been through it. i would like to say to stop asking urself what U did wrong. U didn't do anything wrong. nothing is wrong with U. it's HIM. HE's the one who made that decision. HE doesn't deserve U. just try to keep ur head up. time heals all wounds.
2007-03-15 22:57:03 · answer #9 · answered by <3 Kaitlyn* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get this book called "How to Turn Your Ex-Boyfriend into a Toad & Other Spells" by Athena Starwoman...on ebay or in a second hand book store (or regular book store). That will make you feel better...when you see him hopping around town...LOL..
2007-03-15 22:56:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋