How do you fall out of love?

Question

My guy can say the most hurtfull things to me and make me cry and he still doesnt forgive me even though i say im sorry but no matter how bad he hurts me or how much he makes me cry i cant leave him because he took my virginity and im in love with him but i cant take the way he treats me anymore but i cant leave him because i love him too much. And my mom has always told me to have respect for myself and to not let any guy treat me like s*** but i cant forget about him. please help me out i dont want to love him anymore

Answer 1

There are a few things that work:

1. focus on his negative behaviour, listen to what he really says and does, how does he treat other people? Say stupid things?

2. look at his body, does he sweat a lot, hairy back, hairy ears, nose hairs, dirty, etc. Really, really look at him - big nose, pores on his face, pimples, greasy hair. Does his skin feel clammy after making love.

If you can start finding him physically unattractive, you are 3/4 of the way there.

3. look at the way he treats you - like a snivelling little girl, he is controlling you, how do you think he will treat you in a few months, start hitting you?

4. surround yourself with really good female friends, go out a lot with them, go to movies, cafe, walks, talk with them about how he treats you, you will get an earfull of advice, tell them he makes you cry.

You deserve someone that respects you (forget about the viginity part - its over) that treats you with great care and love. Respects your opinion and wants to please you. Go out with you, meet your friends, have FUN.

You are worth so much better than this pig.


Good luck.

Answer 2

Love isn't one-sided. Granted, losing your virginity to a person can make a person feel more for them than they should, but you can't expect to be happy loving someone who clearly doesn't love you. If you want to fall out of love, you have to think: (1) This man has hurt you so much without a single sign of remorse. (2) If you stayed with him, what would be the good in it? (3) If you had children, could you let them suffer and be forever damaged? Just think of all the pain and anguish. Think of how much better off you were before. You're a woman, not a doormat. Stand up for yourself and be independent. It won't be easy, but when it's all over, you'll be a happier person.

Answer 3

if i recall once i misunderstood what i thought was love for fear , the fear of being alone the fear of the person or whatever but be reassured u r allowed to be hurt and u deserve better than that,, that is a form of abuse if your not careful things could get real bad ,,,there are people out there that can help you all you have to do is take the first step and then thats how you move on ,,,i had a saying it helped me i can either live with it or fix it ,,,and i fixed my problem memories still sometimes linger dont get me wrong but life is so bright and beautiful now

Answer 4

Yes, you do, or else you would do what you need to do for yourself. If you don't want to love someone anymore, then you don't and it's easy to leave.
You really need to figure yourself out, and probably away from this dude, cause he sounds like an abuser. Get out while you can, before you become a victim of physical abuse on top of the verbal.

Answer 5

The same way you fall in love is the same way you fall out of love, only you are more aware of just how much hurt you can stand, having respect for yourself is not staying with someone who mistreats you....but you are the only one that knows the limit that you can take , before you really respect yourself enough to leave him. Hope this helps you. Good Luck and hope you regain your confidence soon.

Answer 6

You can't fall out of love with anyone, but still love them because even if you leave him, you'll still have feelings for him. But no one can really help you. This is up to you, but you can only take so much. Verbal abuse is a lot worse than physical abuse though because if you report him on physical abuse a ot of times, when you knock him out, the police can't really say anything, but verbal abuse is different. You have to decide if you want to leave. No one can make you fall out of love with him but you.

Answer 7

first of all,, he shouldnt be treating u like that,, seems like he treating u like a door mat,,, i know u prob do love him,,, but dont let anyone treat u like that,,, tell him to leave or u leave,,, breaking up is hard to do,, and will take a bit of time to get over,, not gonna happen over nite or a week perhaps not even a couple months or so,,,, theres more fish out in the sea,,, get out and get looking

Answer 8

ok, he took ur virginity , he say the most hurtfull things to u and he does't forgive u.... how can u love him??? u think this good man... u have big mistake if u love this man because u love man he hate u but he does't say that and u live ur live alone, unhappy and he incurious adt u.... how can u live with him???
listen ur mom she correct...
i hope help u....
i wish nice live to u ...
good luck.
take care.

Answer 9

first, decide why you want to. second, decide how to do it. most likely you should create a gentle but aggressive speech to tell him/her. last, if you still love that person then maybe you were just meant to be.

Answer 10

You force yourself to realize you have to do what's best for YOURSELF and get out of that abusive relationship!