2007-03-15 15:33:49 · 4 answers · asked by dani.2007 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That depends on if you use the word virginity and innocence/purity to mean the same thing.
Oral sex is sex. It isn't a loophole to being able to say you are a good girl just because you haven't let anyone penetrate your vagina with his penis. If you are sexually inexperienced, and someone is pressuring you to compromise your values by having oral sex, as if it is "just" going down on you, or just a BJ, they are trying to manipulate you because it ISN'T just oral sex. If you are trying to convince yourself? You are making excuses for your behavior. Figure out what you want and do what you think is right, but at least be honest with yourself. I tried this by the way but nobody bought it. I was tramping around and being very naughty indeed but bragging about how I was a virgin so it was ok. My reputation suffered anyway and I ended up on the losing respect with my boyfriends.
With oral sex, you can get the same diseases, get into the same emotional and mental anxieties, as anyone having intercourse. Oral sex is definitely more sexual than using a tampon or riding a horse or falling on the bar of a bike, and these can tear the hymen...the physical barrier lost when you first have intercourse, if you had one to begin with, and if it wasn't lost already. And you can lose your innocence and your hymen through any act against your will...being molested, raped, etc. in which case you may feel dirty but have not done anything impure. So the hymen isn't an indicator. It is whether or not you were exploring things you are ready to explore, and whether or not you had a choice.
It isn't always negative. For example, oral sex is a great way for a pregnant woman to continue an intimate relationship with her man without causing her body distress. This is especially good to know right in the middle of pregnancy where sex might not be all that fun because you are feeling fat and having other discomforts, but you also don't want to squeeze the baby during an orgasm or induce labor with semen preparing and softening the cervix for birth.
2007-03-17 09:19:26 · answer #1 · answered by musicimprovedme 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, but if you are giving or receiving oral sex, you won't have your virginity for very long, as it is almost impossible to stop there...
2007-03-17 10:31:45 · answer #2 · answered by Boston Bluefish 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when you consummate is when you loose your virginity. Oral sex does not involve intercourse so you are still a virgin in the generalest sense of the word.
2007-03-15 15:47:10 · answer #3 · answered by leguticia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm... not physically. But i think that the mind is'nt a virgin anymore, if that makes any sense.
2007-03-15 15:45:23 · answer #4 · answered by Danny S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋