I am 19 and a freshman in college. While here at school, I met this girl and since then we've become a couple. She is White and I am Black, and the problem is that recently some of my friends and even my family has told me that they have a problem with it. I love her to death and we have a great relationship together but I dont understand why certain people have a problem with an interracial relationship. I understand that the vast majority of people aren't like this but for those who are, can someone please explain why?
2007-03-15 15:27:15 · 12 answers · asked by K R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's messed up and beyond logical or moral reasoning. old fashioned, messed up, prejudice, pure and simple.
I have friends that are mixed and they're awesome and they're kids are awesome. Plus, mixed kids are the most beautiful around!
2007-03-15 15:32:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As far as friends go, it is none of their damn business who you choose to have a romantic relationship with. You can ask them exactly what it is about your girlfriend that they find objectionable. Is it only because she is white or is there something in her personality that bothers them? As far as your family, that is a bit different. Many families are upset when one of the kids gets involved with someone of a different nationality, much less a different race. It is a cultural thing. Also, at age 19 whether you like it or not they still consider you a child who is unable to make any wise decisions.
Although you may not believe it, at age 19, your chances of staying with this woman forever are slim. Take it from an old guy who has been around, you will become involved with more than one woman during your university years and they could be of any race or nationality. Remember, it is your life and if your family doesn't like a particular girlfriend because of her nationality, they will get over it. You'll see, they will have less to say as you get older and they realize that you are an independent adult. By the way, my wife of 18 years died about 3 years ago and although I miss her, I have become romantically involved with a woman who is not the same race as I. I have received nothing but positive reactions from friends and family. So you see, things never remain the same. Just stand your ground. Good Luck.
2007-03-15 16:02:38 · answer #2 · answered by fg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do no longer supply up seeing him, woman! His mothers and dads are hella lame for no longer liking you when you consider which you're Black. it is so demanding to be in a relationship if the kinfolk does not such as you in spite of the shown fact that, i comprehend. yet whilst he's physically powerful and additionally you sense you're sturdy adequate, then circulate forward and shop love alive!
2016-10-02 05:01:11 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget what other people say, just follow your heart because in the log run there going to be jumping form one person to another well you two stay together. Keep your head up :-)
2007-03-15 15:36:14 · answer #4 · answered by geegeorg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be asking those people who do have a problem with it...like your family and friends. As someone who has never had a problem with it I can't tell you wahy some people do.
2007-03-15 15:33:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignorance.
Somewhere deep down, I think there are feelings of inferiority. And that inferiority is validated when someone from your race choses to love someone outside of that said race. And in some way they think you are rejecting your own color (or lack thereof).
But....
Skin is only skin deep.
2007-03-15 15:35:13 · answer #6 · answered by G.I. Jill 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't really know why people react that way. and its sad, but you shouldn't let it bother you, as long as you both are happy that is what counts. and the people that you love don't understand it, there is really nothing you can do. but tell them how you feel and it is your life. be happy . and don't worry about what others think. good luck.
2007-03-15 15:33:40 · answer #7 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see what the shade of anyone's skin pigment has to do with love, but this is a crazy world we live in........
Really, pay no mind to them. I seriously don't get it either, not am I keen on knowing.
2007-03-15 15:42:33 · answer #8 · answered by cdaae663 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its because there either jelous or not use to seeing things like this . Follow your heart and dont let anyone control your life.
2007-03-15 15:31:20 · answer #9 · answered by dmonster61 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Inter-racial relationships are kind of complex. It has issues like family background, race, religion, tradtion, culture and so on. I would not advise anyone to go into this type of relationship but friendship is always welcome. Good luck.
2007-03-15 15:31:30 · answer #10 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋