I have never dated a guy in the military. He is so sweet, generous and sincere...a guys guy! However, him being in the Navy is something I am not use to. He is an officer and on his days off we always have plans to go out, but these last 2 weeks he has had to cancel our plans. Last week he was getting deployed at the end of the month so that was just chaotic for him (now getting deployed in May) and then this week we have had plans on his days off and now I haven't heard from him. I know it's work related and he is usually really good at calling me to cancel our dates but this week he hasn't called to cancel. He always calls me and always makes an effort. And from what he has shown me so far he is a good guy. He has never been married, he has no kids and we are both in our 30's. Is this how it is when dating a man in the military? Is this behavior normal? It's been about 1.5 days since i've heard from him. I want to b supportive & understanding but is a 1 min. call too much to ask for?
2007-03-15 15:23:44 · 6 answers · asked by Sunny SD :) 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As a former naval person with 34 years active duty, I would say his behavior is normal given the times we are in. What you need to realize is this. At times while on duty or in a certain state of readiness military personnel are prohibited from contacting anyone outside their immediate command.
These instances of no contact can come with or without any warning whatsoever. They normally don't last very long, usually not more than 10 days but i've experienced as much as a month where i couldn't send mail, use the phone, email or anything to communicate with anyone outside my duty station.
A person in the military that is under orders not to make any communications outside thier command duty station can be in very serious trouble if they violate those orders.
So just sit back and wait. Remember we are in a war time situation and he is very busy with his duties especially preparing for deployment in the near future.
2007-03-15 15:32:19 · answer #1 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure he isn't living a double life...its know to be of military men. Its very convient for them to always have excuses on why they are not there.
Yes military life is extremely difficult. If you have never had one you may not be up for it or know what you are getting into. I surely didn't and mind ended in a divorced. I have never EVER in my life seen more couples cheat, lie, divorce, yell, hate and seek revenge than military marriages.
Your just as the dating stage and it already looks like you have issues with him being in the military.
Totally up to you but if you want to support your military man..you better be prepared to look the other way...ALOT!
2007-03-15 22:31:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's in the service and elsewhere in the country, that is how it is, unfortunately. If you truly want to be with him, but don't want to deal with this as much, wait until he comes back around. And having family and friends in the service, I know a phone call, even 2 minutes, is something that is not always afforded.
2007-03-15 22:28:12 · answer #3 · answered by dead_end_lies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is getting deployed, he may be hesitant to start a relationship. he may be in conflict about what he wants to do or he may have decided to cool it because of his military plans. all you can do is wait and see if he tells you what is going on. At any rate, there seems not to be an immediate future where you get to spend time with him.
2007-03-15 22:28:46 · answer #4 · answered by Over The Rainbow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn'y say his rank. Sometimes a phone call can be impossible. I'm not defending him but if you care give him a chance to explain.
2007-03-15 22:28:46 · answer #5 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you should do is thank him from all of us for his sacrifice,and service to this country !!
2007-03-15 22:41:48 · answer #6 · answered by Iceman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋