Help! I want to talk to a shy guy but I'm shy myself.?

Question

hi, well im in 2nd term and 1st term i met this guy in my math class. he's smart and very nice (so i've heard and seen) i've talked to him once and i want to talk to him again. i think i kinda like him. have any ideas for conversation starters? i've been trying to think of a topic related to school, but i dont have classes w/ him this term so im out dry. i don't want to sound too weird like.. random or upfrount or not. so any help is appreciated.. thanks ^^ (lol im a girl that doesn't know how to talk to guys and this is like the first guy i've ever considered to be a friend and talk to them... usually my friends i meet are from other friends or they talk to me.)

hi, well im in 2nd term and 1st term i met this guy . he's smart and very nice (so i've heard and seen) i've talked to him once and i want to talk to him again. i think i kinda like him. have any ideas for conversation starters? i've been trying to think of a topic related to school, but i dont have classes w/ him this term so im out dry. i don't want to sound too weird like.. random or upfrount or not. so any help is appreciated.. thanks ^^ (lol im a girl that doesn't know how to talk to guys and this is like the first guy i've ever considered to be a friend and talk to them... usually my friends i meet are from other friends or they talk to me.)

i have him on my msn

the last convo i had w/ him was because i added him on msn a couple months back and he just asked "who are u" just recently.. give or take a week.

thanks guys..
lmao after constant yelling at myself i was able to start a convo w/ him

Answer 1

You don't need conversation help you need confidence help. You need the confidence to tell this guy that you really like him and want to hang out and get to know what he's like. Who knows, maybe you'll learn that you don't really like him after all once you get to know him. That's what happens lots of times.

Answer 2

A good conversation starter could be something along the lines of, "Hey, we were in a math class last term and I have one this term and was wondering if you could help me with one of the formulas/topics/problems/functions that has me a little confused." If you can work up the courage to talk to him, this is a harmless and easy question to ask and is also easy for him to positively respond to. He will probably say sure and then you must do the hard part and shift the question. By this I mean you simply must suggest meeting somewhere to go over the problem, say for example a coffee shop or Internet cafe. Once you are there and have gotten past the math problem, try using simple conversation starters like hobbies interest or other nonthreatening subjects. From there its about your personality's meshing. If you are not in a math class right now, you can still use this method with a different subject.

Answer 3

i didnt read the whole question at first, so this is starts out irrelevant but i get back on track. read my whole answer:

mmm. yummy. ur cooking some manufactured outgoingness. that's ok.
Use, common classes and academic stuff as the starter. but that stuff generally burns out fast, you know. "the quiz was hard today""yeah". but once you've said something that's always ok, u can say things that would seem random to say at first. ask him about his kind of music, sports.. etc. show interest in him first. after you have done that, tell a story. u simply cant go on asking him questions about his interests, he'll feel interrogated. Generally it's good to go with a related story, but if you've already started the conversation with something else, it can be a totally random story.

oh, dear, no common classes, i just read that part of the question. what a tragedy. ok, that's pretty hard. ur problem is, altho u may not identify it yet, is that some topics are appropriate with people you don't know very well, some aren't, some topics can start a conversation, some can't.

And you only talked to him once? so u don't know him very well, and you don't have common classes. that's pretty rough. generally, conversation starters are limited to SHARED experiences. i am not condemning you. i am showing you the problem so you can more quickly remedy it.

once you know him a little bit, you can start with random stuff. but not yet. until then, the best thing you can go with is "How is (insert something) going?" or "where are you going for spring break?"

Answer 4

Ok if you are abit shy and you like this guy but are not sure how to talk to him. First thing to do is to find out alittle bit about him and the kind of things he likes. What kind of sports he is involved in or extra curricular activities he is in at school. Then, think about what you like and how it may relate to his interests. Sometimes a creative mind can see comparisons this can make for a interesting joke that can break the ice and lead to more comfortable topics. But, definately be familar with some of his interests.

Answer 5

First of all, make sure that he notices you without you saying anything. Then when he does, just go up to him and ask him about his background and his life. He will like the fact that you are intesrested in things related to him. Starting simple conversations like this will lead to more intimate things as time goes by. I became really good friends with my boyfriend before he asked my out. It just takes a simple friendship to blossom into a beautiful relationship.

Answer 6

Well, you can ask what he does in his spare time. Ask if he has other siblings and where he fits into that. If he watches sports and if he does then who are his favorite teams and players. Talk to him like you do anyone else...fav subject he's taking, fav teacher, what he thinks of such-and-such teacher or song , etc. Tell him he seems like a nice person and ask if he'd care to join you and your friends at break or lunch. I bet he'll be happy you make the effort to get to know him. When you walk away say something like, "Don't be a stranger." Good luck!

Answer 7

If you've been on any breaks from school recent'y, ask him what he got up to on his break, see if there was anyting interesting he did. Use it as a start. Or, just go up to him (swallow that shyness, girl-as a woman you're in control!) and say "hey, how's things? We were in the same class last term..." He's only human, and who knows could be as shy as you feeling exactly the same way. Of course, if he gets obnoxious or rude to you, you know he was a total dooshbag and you're better off without him. It happened to me countless times, Each time it did, I just thought to myself "You know what, it's your loss, mate." Good luck!!

Answer 8

if your both shy,there is one thing you guys have in common.go up to him and introduce yourself again.start asking him what are your favorite sports or compliment him on something he did.usually guys compliment you but its alright to break some rules.i had a guy who i liked and i couldn't tell him that because i was so shy,but the first week of school we went out.my friends helped.ask a friend to check him out for you if you need to.

Answer 9

Give him a note from u and see if he will respond. "Meet me in the library i will be wearing ????" Studing and getting out of school is so much more important. When u keep yourself occupied with all of the above things will come to u.

Answer 10

I know what you mean im the same way thats why its hard for me to just walk up to a girl and talk to them. what you could do it just gently walk by and put your number on a small piece of paper and wait and see if he calls thats what i usually do or i try casual flirting