what can i do to stop myself from calling, emailing, and crying over ex bf that dumped me 2months ago?

Question

aside from getting a new one

Answer 1

I'm sorry you're going through a tough time right now. From experience, the best thing that I can suggest to you is to focus on yourself, and hang out with your friends. They can take you places and do things with you. I don't think you necessarily have to all together STOP crying like RIGHT this very second, because it's good to cry sometimes to grieve over a loss, especially if you were with your ex for an extended period of time.
I was with one of my ex's for three years, and we broke up - decided we would - and it hit me way hard later, and I was just a mess. I found a really good friend in my mom. I never told her anything about what I was feeling or got all mushy and sappy or anything, but she was there to hug and squeeze me. Moms know when you're hurtin, and will be there if you let them.
And... I hope that you do know that you're a great girl. That if some fruitcake dumped you, that it's his loss, and that whoever you end up with next will be the lucky one to realize it. The ex might even get jealous. Or, he may realize that he lost a good catch, too. Not to say that you have to get with someone else right away - that's not at all what I'm saying. I hope that you take time for yourself and to cry... think about what you've been through with your ex... when you think it through carefully, you will realize what you want in a relationship... what could be better next time.... you'll ultimately learn about yourself really.. what you will and will not tolerate, what you like and dislike... I try to focus on break-ups as a positive thing... because obviously something wasn't working out and if he wouldn't have done it, sooner or later I would have, yeno?
Appreciate yourself, though... go get a manicure. Ever had one? I never did until I broke up with my first. I went with my sister. It was silly, but fun. Anything really... the happier you are, you end up realizing that you DO have a life and you REALLY don't need that guy to make you happy all the time, even if he DID make you happy and one point. Make sense?
Sometimes the old saying "You don't know what you've got til it's gone" really fits though, and usually for the guys that hits home a lot harder, cuz they sure do screw up a lot don't they?

Anyway, I hope you manage okay :)
Keep you head up. Don't forget that it IS okay to cry.
And try to busy yourself with your family and other friends, and do the things that you like to do for a while. Before you know it you'll wonder where all the time has gone that you were happy without him, and you'll realize that you're a-ok by yourself.

hugs,
miR :)

Answer 2

accept the fact that its over...accepting it is the hardest part...my last relationship was almost 6 yrs and in that amount of time i realized that sometimes you just have to let go...when people break up theres always a reason behind it..something went wrong and it cant be fixed

try reading a book called "its called a breakup because its broken " by Greg Behrendt ...it might sound sillly but it really helped me

its normal to wanna go bak to ur exboyfriend bc ur comfortable there and comfort is always more acceptable then change...but remember, when this is all over and done with you will be a better person bc of this, ull b in a better place and ull thank urself that u finally let go

theres other people out there....and one day ull find one that treats u better and ur happy with n ull thank ur lucky stars that u let go when u did
surround urself with happiness and positive things as well as a wonderful tight knit group of friends that can b ur support system...the first 4 months are the hardest, after that its smooth sailling

be positve
good luck n congrats on a new begining

Answer 3

STOP doing all this and look at what life has to offer you...why do you have to even do all this for someone who obviously never even thought of you while dumping you.Have some pride girl and get on with your life.Get a new boyfriend if it will make you happy...Get into some new learning for your self .

Answer 4

he will consistently be demeaning in the direction of you considering the fact it is a factor of who he's and additionally you are able to no longer replace or fix him. Now, he additionally beverages and if he speaks propose to you whilst inebriated which will finally develop into beatings.He already has a sparkling g/f so it did no longer take him long to recover from you probably did it? Crying?I guess he wasn't crying plenty whilst he replaced into doing his new g/f. overlook him.If he discovered you pleasing so will different men and in case you questioning picking somennedy loser will insure which you survive top of problems with the relationship, nicely the final one proved that doesn't paintings.a first rate guy will choose you in case you behave decently.

Answer 5

Get your friends who care about you involved, get their support.

It is hard getting over someone you cared about, you will need support from anyone who will give it. Share how you feel with one close friend of yours you can trust, who can share what you are going through and help you until you are strong again.

Good luck!

Answer 6

ummm try shoopin or ur friends..or go running pick up a hobby ..look to the future ..school..a new job girl the world is full of people ..no matter ow small it looks right now :-)

Answer 7

reinforce to yourself that you are a beautiful person. Then let go and accept it.You can't keep someone that doesn't want you.Find a hobby or activity you like to keep you busy.Time heals all wounds.

Answer 8

Just picture him sitting on the toilet with bloody diarreah, spraying the porcelin !!

Answer 9

best advice.. is tell your freinds you need help.. they will make sure you are busy and get you out!! They will make you accountable if you slide the wrong way! :)

Answer 10

get a new one