I need some help...I want to know what should I do...Please help me!!!!!?

Question

Okay...so I got a big problem. I am 14 and in 8th grade. And I am shy. I have a guy that I like so bad and we flirted with eachother for like 4 or 5 months then he was taken out of the one class I had with him. So we just kinda never talk any more. Well, I still like him alot and I see him at the libary every wednesday and neither one of us talk to eachother. But in this process I have had two other guys ask me out but I just sayed no cause I really like the first guy. I guess im just afrade that if we just stop talking then I will never be with him. He has my number and e-mail and myspace but we dont talk. Oh, and when I messaged him on myspace he didnt even reply...but seriously I dont care if you guys just tell me that I dont need to worry about him cause im still young but I cant sleep at night cause im up all night thinking about him! What should I really do about this cause I need some real help...and I dont wanna write him a note telling him I like him cause that isnt really me.

Answer 1

well let me tell you a true story,There was a old man who lived by himself,an across from his apartment lived an old ladie.every time she went out,he would look at her through his peek hole.She would go to the park an spend all day there. One day the old man heard some noise out side of his door.As he opend the door she was being carried out of her room in a stretcher with a white sheet covering her face.The old man broke down in tears,an told the police officer,her family must be waiting for her at the park,U must go tell them.The officer turned around an said ,sir this old ladie doesnt have family,she spends all day by herself.As they took her away,he felt on his knees an cried out i spend all day by himself too.,if i for some there are no if or maybes.so dont be like this old man tell him straight out how u feel.an if he doesnt respond the way u want him to,dont worry,its not the end of the world.Plus guys ask u out 2 of them.Or maybe the guy u like is like the old man.

Answer 2

It sounds to me like "he's just not that into you" which is the title of a book that came out a few months ago,

I suggest that you accept friendships with other guys who you also like so you can practice talking and socializing with guys. You should also continue to be friendly with this guy you like, but don't be clingy. You will no doubt find that other guys are great also and without a doubt you'll find more than one you like even more, once you get to know more guys better.

Trying to be exclusive at such a young age is just asking for trouble and breakups hurt more when things don't work out. Becoming friends with many guys will teach you a lot about different guys and dealing with them. Going with one teaches you almost nothing because guys are all different.

But be careful as some guys can also be dangerous, so I suggest you be careful and selective with whom you become friends.with.

If you don't like my advice (you're young, so good advice from older men always sounds like a real drag) you can always get a guy friend whom you know and trust who also knows this guy to do some subversive checking for you to find out how he really feels about you. You could also maybe ask him to relay the message that you like him and see what he does afterward, but knowing guys the way I do, I really wouldn't advise this because both could lead to trouble in the end, like using your feelings for him against you (very possible if I'm right and he's really just not that into you).

Best of luck.

Answer 3

i know what you mean im the shy type to and some times the fear of rejection that is the worst. i would just ask him straight up on my space do you still like me and if he dont answer in a day or two then you can right his name on a peice of paper and frezz it in your freezer and wait to see what happens. That or you can get a book and do a love spell on him if the name on paper doesnt work and freezing it but give it a few weeks

Answer 4

Well I think you said it all in your question...
"He has my number and e-mail and myspace but we dont talk. Oh, and when I messaged him on myspace he didnt even reply"

Is this really the person who you should give your time, loyalty and love to? Who doesn't even care to or have time to respond to you now, when you aren't in a relationship? What's it going to be like when you are dating and he doesn't respond....

Answer 5

ok girl Relax and get some sleep my sis is ur age and she feels like this about evry boy she sees and then she moves on its ur age beleive me.. of course people r gonna tell u to move on or just go talk to him we have probably all been through this :-) dont worry and get some sleep ur school work is probably more important than some boy.. and if u reallly like im then just go up to him at the library and say hi and ask him if he wants to hang out or sumthing ..ok

Answer 6

ok so i kno where ur comming from. im 15 ppl are always telling meh wait for the right time.blah blah blah. the way i see it we need practice (im not tlkin sex) b4 a real relationship.

go ask him if he wants to hang out sometime.

and if he says yes. and u guys start hanging out more. ask him out. dont wait for the guy to make the first move. it takes too long.lol

hope i helped yew.

<3 meg

Answer 7

what you feel now is just part of growing up, all teenagers passed that stage. It is just alright to think about him but do not neglect your studies, make it your priority. In that way you are deviating your feelings, besides the guy I think is not really interested in you because he do not find ways to talk or reply to you.

Answer 8

Well you are young but if you really want to know make the first move and talk to him face to face. If he doesn't respond and still won't talk to you it's time to move on!