2007-03-15 15:12:35 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My dad had a sibling who did that. In reality I think it hurts the family, but it hurts the person who made the choice more. You could always extend the olive branch, but you can't force the sibling to take it. I have a co-worker whose estranged daughter just came back into their lives, but it had to be her choice. I'm not sure what you can do except tell the person that you're there for them if they ever need to talk (if that's what you want, of course). I would likely still invite them to family functions and whatnot. Eventually he/she might just swallow his/her pride and apologize. I'm sure there's more to this situation than I know, but based on the information, that's what I would do.
2007-03-15 15:19:02 · answer #1 · answered by swordarkeereon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having done this with my family years ago, the best way to deal with this situation is just stay away from the person. The person must have a really good reason for taking this drastic action, I know i have a good reason for doing so. I don't like it when family members contact me for any reason. So just stay away from that sibling and maybe in the future they may change their mind and forgive the family. In my case that isn't going to happen ever.
2007-03-15 15:21:33 · answer #2 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like everyone has said, they have their reasons...so just let them be.
I am actually IN this situation, and here are some things to NOT do, becasue it will make them not want to talk to you even more.
*Dont badmouth them. When people ask about your sibling, say that they are doing well, and drop it. If your sibling finds out your talking bad about them, thats going to strain the relationship even more.
*Dont be judgemental. They are doing this for their own reason. Let them do it. When they are ready they will come aroud....
*Dont bombart them. If you happen to run into them, or have a conversation, dont give them the thrid degree. If they want to talk about whatever problems they will do it when they see fit.
Basically this is a 'them' problem. There isnt much you can do except continue to love them.
2007-03-15 16:15:07 · answer #3 · answered by Mz♥Jade 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They have their reasons which I am sure you are aware of. I would keep in touch by sending cards at birthdays and holidays, just to let them know you are still around and thinking about them. Other than that, I would keep my distance. If and when they are ready to come back into the family fold, they will.
Good luck
2007-03-15 16:01:19 · answer #4 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is easier said than done but, we have been through this in our family and it works. just leave the sibiling alone!! Sooner than later the sibling will realize what and who is important and come around.
2007-03-15 16:13:10 · answer #5 · answered by melissa_4573 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am doing this right now for my personal reasons and trust me.. I havemy reasons. The thing you have to do is give them their space because in their mind they are doing the right thing. When they wanna come around, have your arms opened for them.
2007-03-15 16:29:57 · answer #6 · answered by Tjsmom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Respect his or her decision. Anything else will probably make the person even madder. Pray that he or she comes back around. Just let go and let God.
2007-03-15 15:18:24 · answer #7 · answered by shmoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave them alone and quit bothering them.
2007-03-15 15:16:32 · answer #8 · answered by Sunkist3599 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tel ur sibiling that he/she does not fit to live!!
2007-03-15 15:28:49 · answer #9 · answered by sUnseT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋