Will you ever date your Ex-boyfriend or Girlfriend again? (When the both of you are still single)?

Question

Hey guys, we used to be a very happy together..we really love one another.. we broke up 6 years ago (15 years old) because we are both too young to our parents and elders... so we decided to wait til we grow older and see how things goes...

i still got feeling with him and have no bf since i broke up with him... i dun think he is attached as well.

Throughout the 6 years, we have little contact with each other...only communicate through msn messenger once in a while..now we are just normal friends.

How do i know does he still have feeling for me or not? DO i ask him directly or ????

I am meeting him next month to catch up! Pls advice.......thanks!

Answer 1

Don't ask directly; she how he is with you, try to find out (based on his body language, his tone of voice and the way he looks at you) if there are clues that can lead you to think that he is still interested in you. You can ask questions that give you info about his love life; if he is still single, how does he remember the days you both spent together, etc.

At the end, if that doesn't help you, and the date is almost over, well, tell him that you still think of him as a very important person in youu life; let's hope he says the same!

Most importantly, if you see that he is not that interested anymore, decide whether you want to try to win him back or decide to move on. Six years is a lot of time, and I'm sure there is someone out there waiting anxiously to find you!

best of luck!

Answer 2

Wait until you see him..... maybe You won't have feelings for him like you once had. You may find out that he does some real annoying thing that you either didn't realize when you were younger because you were in Puupy Love, or he started it while you two weren't together. No matter what the whole moral of the story is, " A friendship can last a life time and if you love that person unconditionally like you say, then you should be satisfied with a lifetime friendship rather than a 1yr., 2yr., relationship and suffer a horrible breakup and never see or talk again". Have you ever heard of that saying, "Let it go and if it comes back to you then it's meant to be forever."? Just let things flow and everything will fall into place. Things happen for a reason, they don't just happen.

Answer 3

I think you should just see what happens when you meet him. You'll know if he still have feelings for you during your meeting. Hang out and just relax. Have fun! ^^ Have more dates. :D

You don't have to think about it right now. High expectations cause disappointments and you definitely don't want that. Take your time catching up with him and see how things go. Let him express himself for you to know his feelings. ^^ Have this thought... "You'll cross the bridge when you get there." ^^

Things do change, as well as feelings, most especially when the both of you are away, having few communications with each other. Online communication doesn't beat personal touch and care. ^^

But if you want to be straight forward, I'd say ask him during your conversation. ^^ It doesn't hurt to ask, but be sure that you are in good timing and the mood is right. ^^ Ask when you're talking about your past, flashbacks. :D


SIDE NOTES: I was almost in the same position as you are right now. Both of our feelings changed, though we are still good friends. ^^ Along the way, due to distance, he met his girl. But, mine is a little different though in your case 'coz I was thinking of reality. I certainly don't want to have a long distance relationship because things do change when you're both far away from each other. It's so different compared to having the person beside you and feeling his/her care personally.

In my thoughts, "Why would I choose a guy who is far away from me when I can have someone closer, taking care of me?"

Though, guys are all different from each other based on values, personality, etc. But based on personal experience, the feelings I had for him was simply a longing of the friendship and closeness we had before and the what ifs feelings. ^^

Answer 4

If its been that long and you are both single, sure why not. I've never had the opportunity cause mine never stayed in contact. And yes time can and will change people. They see what a nice person you really are after years gone by.

Answer 5

If you want a good relationship with someone you have to be able to talk about these kinds of things. It's called communication and that's exactly what communication means. So if you want to know, ask him directly. It's hard to do, I have a hard time myself asking questions like that, but really, it's much better to be direct. Then you know exactly where you stand.

Answer 6

He will have changed a lot in the past six years so maybe you should just go and catch up maybe talk on the phone for a while and get to know the new "him". If he likes the new you he will let you know! Goood luck!

Answer 7

Sure why shouldn't you date an Ex I still date my Ex-wives from time to time. Just because they may not be the right person for you doesn't mean you can't be friends and go out and have dinner together. Who knows you might find out they are the right one.

Answer 8

You should talk to him about when yall use to go out and if he remembers what yall said about try'n it again. That would be better than just saying it. I think talking about the past with him would bring up any feeling he has with you.

Hope everything goes well!

Answer 9

Don't try to get back together right away. Just spend time as friends for a while, and if you do still have feelings for him after you have gotten re-acquainted, then try talking to him about it.

Answer 10

peeps like you really have to start over, just like strangers for the first time. don't hang on to the past, if the chemistry is still there , you will do fine, if not, it wasn't meant to be. no one wants to hear they gotta start over, but that's the way it works. get to know each other all over again.