...that the person has had upto date?
I personally wouldn't mind, because for me it's merely a number & it does not have any bearing on how much I love the person & how much that person would love me back. But then again, I would definitely ask her to get tested before we indulge in sex.
How would you feel about it?
2007-03-15 15:03:09 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
U are definitily right! Before my husband tied the knot with me, he has dozens gf and countless sexual partners. Althought we never talked about it and i never asked, I know he is well experienced. At his ripe old age (42), he knows just how to chose a wife. He got me checked up during the first few dates and the Doctor ensured him I am 100% clean and fertile to have babies. He then, more or less, decided I am the one!
I don't blame him for that but sometimes when i think about it, he should be more open and up front about sensitive things like this. I wasn't aware the whole intention behind until lately. I felt like being "cheated" for the check up... in a way! Even though i have nothing to hide. Not that I am a virgin, I do have few ex bf(s).
Personally, u can suggest to her for the check up but both of you have to agree to do it together. I was caught off guard and don't fell the same towards him aft that incident. You just have to be honest to her. It's only fair!
2007-03-15 15:19:18 · answer #1 · answered by Troy Girl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It would make a definate bad impression on me if I was with the person at the time and the count were rising. Other then that I think it would matter if she were in a committed relationship and cheated, if so she not only disrespected the relationship but put the other person at health risk also. Not to mention would have lost all trust.
Yet, bear in mind some people's sexual apitite can be much more than others. As long as a person can be open to and honestly accept anothers right to be themself then it shouldn't matter what that persons sexual life were like before, providing they are disease free.
2007-03-15 18:07:34 · answer #2 · answered by Jimmy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you sleep with a person you sleep with every individual they have had sexual contact with.
The sex act is a love act. I don’t know but to me, the love act should be given the accordance and honour that, to date has only been given lip service. So to speak. I apologize to each and every one of you for helping to bring the concept of free love into the world. We truly did not know what we were doing to the world in the 60’s and 70’s when we.
"Merely a number" is a bit more than that, I am sorry to say. It is an indication of lack of self respect and personal value. This is not a "the more the merrier" situation. The act of love and even the word itself has generally been cheapened to the point of point of nothingness. Feminism meets playboyism has reduced the value of making love to what is frequently no more than mutual masturbation. Not always, but often enough. It is a case of quality versus quantity on every level possible.
There truly is something to be said for innocence. Once you have done it all, what is there left to compare with such a gift? What goes around comes around they say. This is an attitude that is not smiled upon in the West but it is one that is long overdue for a return.
That being said, get tested, both of you. You can even make a date of it. Put some value on the whole process.
2007-03-15 16:14:49 · answer #3 · answered by Noor al Haqiqa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well yeah, that lacks humour. But not in a bad way - there is nothing funny about messing around with sexuality and health. I would ask the same thing of my partner(s).
2007-03-15 16:32:48 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mate, I would personally be careful about having anything long term with her if she has had a considerable few. Then again, everyone is an individual and when and if you fall in love, none of what I said matters :)
Hope that helps dude.
2007-03-15 15:08:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
How serious is this? Asking someone to get tested is just being safe on your part. Of course she could get very offended.
2007-03-15 15:15:45 · answer #6 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Never. The past is the past. But testing is ALWAYS a great idea, for both of you.
2007-03-15 15:07:07 · answer #7 · answered by dannykel1 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think thats a very fair and real request. You r a smart man and you must realize her experience was a good thing for you! If she is responsible you won't have that problem!
2007-03-15 15:09:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
well unfornuiately many do jugde others but i wouldnt as long as the person loves u n only n she sexin u n not some1 esle
2007-03-15 15:07:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, the more partners, the worse it gets.
2007-03-15 15:05:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋