She kind of gets made fun of a lot, because she has glasses, really frizzy hair, and is kind of overweight. I saw her crying, and it made me upset too, to see her like that. She says that if she jumps out her high bedroom window, it will all be over with. What should I do to encourage her? Please Help!
2007-03-15 14:57:59 · 15 answers · asked by ivory_plr 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
She is planning to get lazer eye surgery when she gets older. She didn't like the feeling of contact lenses. But the way she feels now, is terrible. . .
2007-03-15 17:06:44 · update #1
Read and Call here...
http://suicidehotlines.com/
1-800-SUICIDE or 1-800-273-TALK
You should really talk to her parents if they are approchable. She needs to get help and you can help her get that help that she needs. If you don't think you can talk to her parents about this then talk to someone at your school a councelor or a teacher that you feel you can talk to. There are may other people you can talk to if you feel these are not options. Talk to your parents and see what they can help you with. Also you can go to your church or any local church and speak to the pastor or preist there. Even if you don't go there they will be more than willing to help you with what ever they can.
Good luck and please get her the help she needs.
2007-03-15 15:09:50 · answer #1 · answered by foodie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother killed himself 3 months ago and you CANNOT IMAGINE the pain his family and friends went through. If only he were alive today to see how everyone cared about him. Also telling the kids that tease her that it just ain't cool, maybe not tell them what she told you, but try to get them to realize that in a few years it won't matter. I also have really rebellious hair. Maybe you can get a hair straightener (they sell them in pharmacies) and invite her to your house. Tell her you bought a new hair gadget but you'd kinda like to try it with someone else. It makes my hair so much better and maybe it can help her realize that she can be whoever she wants to be; maybe it will give her a bit of control in her life and some independence. Also, maybe you two can go into some group and help other people. Apparently the thing that helps prevent suicide is getting involved in other peoples lives, and that helping other people makes you feel needed and important and therefor suicide becomes no longer an option.
She may be depressed. A lot of chemical reactions go on in our head, our blood and even our digestive system! IF we have a lack of some nutrients or minerals or if our body is a bit deficient (can't produce proper enzymes/ chemical reactions) than this can be throwing her moods totally out of whack. Like it will make you feel depressed or super sad when a normal person would only feel a bit sad or not sad at all. It really sucks for her if this is the case because it is very difficult for these people to understand what's going on in their head and their lives. They try to rationalize why they are feeling sad and unfortunately they may come to believe it is the teasing or their hair or their parents or anything when in reality they are stronger than that: things like this wouldn't normally put them this down, but since their brain chemistry isn't functioning properly, they keep feeling depressed and even like jumping from windows. They feel so trapped by the pain and anxiousness that they prefer jumping than staying where they are.
This girl needs help, but realize that it may become very tiring if you are the only one helping her. Put your limits and help her only as much as you can. Don't get involved in too many projects or activities with her until you find out how compatible you two are and how much you too can actually become friends and get along. Cause if you help too much sometimes it can make you feel down too. So if that happens, take a step back ,tell her you need some time to yourself, to feel better.
Take care and hope this helps. Also you should call that suicide prevention number and they can probably help you more. It's TOTALLY confidential, so unless you give them any info they can't even get your phone number.
2007-03-15 22:28:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that when she gets a bit older, she can have contact lenses or laser surgery for her eyesight. There are products that straighten hair; offer to help her do just that. Refer her to http://choosediet.blogspot.com/ and say that you are thinking of losing a few pounds and would like her to have a look at them with you, and say that you have heard that you can snack on any amount of celery sticks, and the occasional carrot stick, or slice of cucumber in any vinegar, but you have to drink 8 x 250 ml glasses of water/day. Write these down and give her a copy http://teenline.org/ Phone (074) NEW-TEEN & http://www.suicidepreventionhotline.org/ Phone 1800 life net
2007-03-15 23:09:37 · answer #3 · answered by CLICKHEREx 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was probably a lot like her in grade school and highschool. I got picked a lot and I thought about suicide.
She should get an appointment with a medical doctor, medication might be needed, but it's possible that counseling alone would help. Sometimes talking to a patient friend who is willing to listen can be just as good as a professional conselor.
2007-03-20 08:05:54 · answer #4 · answered by majnun99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I can tell you to do is to be there for her. I realize the task you have ahead of you is not an easy one. Try to find others that will go with you to fun places. Maybe to calm her hair, use a straighting iron. Also, be there to talk with her, because she will need to get a lot of stored feelings and her frustrations out.
2007-03-15 22:09:05 · answer #5 · answered by chesshire 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone is contemplating suicide YOU MUST GET HER HELP RIGHT AWAY! Call 1-800-SUICIDE right now and have them talk to her before it is too late! (Encouraging a suicidal person or neglecting a suicidal person is 2nd degree murder. So Call the school right away and inform of the issue of bullying as well. The School and the bullies would be held liable by law if she commits suicide as a result of their actions). In fact a person in my high school got arrested one time for telling a suicidal person "Go Ahead Jump".
2007-03-15 22:01:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is in bad way I know I've been there my issue wasn't Glasses and frizzy hair though and I bet hers isn't either...
Maybe you could incourage her to think of the things she really wants in life. Help her to know of her Divinity as a co-creator with God and that she is in fact a child of God it is important to do so without making her feel guilty. Telling her about her uniqueness as an individual and how she helps others is very important. Remind her that it's not really what you look like on the out side but it's what is in your heart that really matters and please do tell the school.
I think I've heard that in the Eastern Religons that a courages person is one who turns off all of the bullshit in there mind and tunes in to an Eternal Joy.
Your friend need to learn how to turn off the (bull)**** that the (bull)y's are throwing her and tune in to who she really is a decent careing child of God with lots of hopes, dreams gifts and talents to be realized.
2007-03-15 22:51:24 · answer #7 · answered by screbel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk With Your School Nurse OR Counselor!
2007-03-15 22:05:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you want to encourage her to jump?
anyway, tell her parents before its too late and you wish you could do things different
guilt and regret will plague you the rest of your life
She will most likely get mad and say she doesn't want to be friends with you
but you wont have a friend anyway if she kills herself
2007-03-15 22:08:05 · answer #9 · answered by Mopar Muscle Gal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume you mean you want to encourage her not to jump and to feel better about herself. Don't let her out of your sight and get help. Thoughts become words, words become actions ... so it goes.
2007-03-15 22:10:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋