she dont think i care?

Question

Getting right 2 it. My ex g/f is like very upset with her self right now I dunno why tho. she thinks shes ugly and shes not I keep telling her that and she keeps saying no. I kept saying how beautfuil she is and how she has very nice eyes and a nice smile and most of all she has very nice nice hair..But still shes upset with her looks and how she acts..I told her shes smart and nice..But she said "no im not" I told her its the truth and that if somthing is wrong I am here for her and will listen and I still care for her to..But I dont want her to hurt her self..Because she is a vitcom of rape and I keep on thinking that somtimes that can be whats wrong..I love her still to death she knows that to..Why wont she belive me that she is beauiful and all the other things? she said she didnt deserve all these sayings from me..But I was telling her the truth and it is the truth and I am here for her...But how can I save her from doing somthing dumb n show her I care and that she not ugly

Answer 1

Take her to a counsellor

She needs to be helped in the right way to make sure she can rid herself of the ugliness she feels inside after being raped

Sometimes it is easy to feel ugly on the outside when you have a whole lot of turmoil on the inside.

Please get her some help

Answer 2

Dear "I Care,"
Firstly, if your ex was a victim of rape she might be having identity issues relating to the rape and nothing you say is going to help, although you should keep telling her that she is beautiful and a good person as this is important for her to remember at this time.
Secondly, she really needs to talk to someone professionally, either anonymously on a hotline, a school counsellour or a support group of similar women. It is likely that she blames herself for the rape and feels like she brought it on herself and is "dirty" or "ugly" because of it.
The best thing you can do for her is encourage her to seek out support services geared towards women who've been raped. They can help her rebuild her confidence and work out her issues because of their specialized training in a way you can't because you are involved with this woman and you are not trained in rape counselling.
Just as a sidenote, and I really hate to mention it, but it is possible she is doing all this "ugly" talk about herself for attention. This still needs to be addressed in the above-mentioned manner as it is not a healthy way to get attention and is self-destructive as well.
This is not to say that you shouldn't remain supportive to her, you should, but don't get so tangled up with her, it doesn't help either of you.
I hope this helps you both. Good luck.

Answer 3

sit her down and have a long talk to her and tell her how u truly fill ask her out or give her a kiss show her how much u truly fill about her. find somethin that know one else has done for her and do it.
good luck

Answer 4

go buy her some flower,tell her again how beautiful,that should cheer her up.

Answer 5

i don't get it