WOMEN: Why are some of you so stupid?

Question

They will bend over backwards to stay with someone who treats them like garbage, cheats, is physically/verbally/mentally abusive, controls their every movement, and runs their lives. On the other hand they will take advantage of someone who treats them better than they have ever imagined.

Don't you realize that there are guys out there who would treat you like a princess instead of a pauper? Do you understand that there are men in the world who believe in the sanctity of marriage, fatherhood, and a loving relationship?

I would love to just spend one day with each woman who gets treated badly and show them how a real man treats a woman but from what I am seeing here ono Yahoo! Answers that would take the rest of my life and almost all of my afterlife.

Why won't you get a friggin clue and dump the trash you are with and find yourself someone who will treat you with a soft hand and a warm heart? We all have flaws but not all of us are @$$holes to the women we love.

OK, clarification time: Yes, I have recently been treated badly but when I realized it I cut and ran. I am not going to let a woman treat me like garbage when I know that there are better women out there.

To me it seems like women don't think that there are guys out there that will treat them better than what they have and that is not true. I just don't uinderstand why they look past the nice guys to find the litterbox full of jerks.

I am not trying to seduce anyone or make anyone feel small or worthless but I think that it is stupid to stay with someone who doesn't respect a woman the way that they should be.

I just want to understand why a woman would choose to stay with someone who treats them like trash instead of like a queen.

Answer 1

You sure got a lot of responses with this one!!

I totally agree with you. But the answer can be complicated if there are children involved. Also the pressure not to divorce from family members. I finally got out of my abusive relationship and received a lot of bad treatment from certain family members because I was so GOOD at covering up the abuse when it was happening. Some people just need the courage to leave and I finally found mine. Now I am in a great relationship with a man more suited to my personality. The best thing I ever did was to leave the @$$hole and I am glad there are men like you out there available for other women to wake up and see the good ones. My husband was one of you!

Answer 2

Well, there are some women that do the things you said above. I think that some women get in a relationship and may have low self esteem before hand. They get so engulfed with putting themselves into the other person that they forget their value; that is if they even knew how valuable they were.

But, I must say there are many examples on the flip side of confused relationships. Men can do the same as the women in your examples.

I just think people forget to step back and look at the big picture. Some do and see they are terrified to be alone; to deal with the hurt is better than feeling emptiness. Some I think get obsessed with another person and no matter what, they have to be with them; painful or not.

Some of it could be because of their raising. How their mom or dad treated them as a child. They may have not got the Love and Respect they deserve. Then again, they could follow example aka "mom got abused"

Then again, there are the others you speak about that would stomp a good man (or woman) to the ground just cause she could. I like to look at those girls (or guys) as hollow, ignorant, spoiled and greedy.

I also like to think they will have Karma bite them in the backside and they will get what they have been giving.

Some girls (guys) that act that way could also be "protecting" themselves, maybe they got so hurt from a guy (or girls) doing that to them that they couldn't take it again.

All in all who knows, I belive to be true to yourself, love yourself, be honest, respectful, have empathy for the fellow man (or women..lol)

I wish everyone could follow those simple things. Well theres my 2 cents.

Answer 3

I understand what you're saying and I used to think the same thing when I was younger but it's really not as clear cut as that.

When I was younger there lived a chick a few doors down from me. He boyfriend would beat the crap out of her and she'd come to my place asking for help. One time she came running down the street bloodied and bruised and holding shreds of clothing onto her. I tried to help her leave but she kept going back to her abusing boyfriend. It was then that I realised that there wasnt anything anyone could do but to be there when they need it and and offer advice.

See the problem is that it's usually the only thing they know. They have had their self confidence and self respect beaten out of them and it's actually easier for them to go back than it is for them to face the future on their own.

It's sad that there are people out there that dont treat their girlfriends/wives the right way and that there are guys out there that would treat them WAY better...but it's not for being stupid. Out of this situation these women are very smart...it's just the fact that they feel as though they arent worth anything better.

And oh, it's not just women that get into these positions, there are the occasional man that gets beaten by their wife/girlfriend too. So it has nothing to do with down smart/stupid someone is....it's all about confidence and self esteem.

Answer 4

Wow, if you're an example of how a real man would treat a woman I guess I don't want a real man.
Hasn't it occurred to you half the reason women stay with men that are trash is because people like you tell them they are stupid and degrade them to the point where they have no self-confidence? Instead of blaming the women in the relationship and asking them to change why don't you take a hard look at your fellow "men" and encourage them to change because their woman isn't stupid and doesn't deserve to be treated like trash, she just doesn't know she desrves better.

Answer 5

I wish I knew the answer to your question. My husband hasn't always treated me as well as he should. I've been married to him since I was 18 so he is the only man I have ever loved & it's hard to imagine myself not being w/him even though he treats me the way he does. He even tells me he thinks I deserve better. The thing is, I'm afraid that I wouldn't find better. What if I only found worse? I wouldn't take advantage of a man that would treat me like a princess b/c that's how I want my husband to treat me. I want him to love me as much as I love him,to be faithful to me & always be here w/me & our son. It's hard to think about walking away from him b/c he's all I've ever known & loved.

Answer 6

WHOA. BTW: THANK YOU for saying "some women" because I hate it when ppl say "all".

To answer your question: I don't know why some are.. then again i do. They have low self esteem and they don't love themselves. They will take anything, accept anything, just to say that they have a man. As for me, I LOVE MYSELF and I love Jesus the ONE GUY that will never treat you wrong! I've had some low days but I will NEVER settle for jerks [even the "cute" ones] or any guy that isn't for me.

One day someone will love you so you don't have to worry about that. But I respect ppl like you that are willing to treat women with respect. Thats awesome and that will take you far in life [not just love life] but just being polite in general. A good gentlemen with a great personality will make it far in life.

Have a great day! =P

Answer 7

I totally get ur question, i hope u didnt mean to put our sex down, neither do i, but i think u are totally right!, girls fall in love with guys that are not what they want, and ingore those who would do anything for them. Now, not ALL of us do that, but most of them at certain point do ignore ppl who are willing to make them happy, because we are naive, and we believe in fake promisses, we have hopes, we trust that things will get better, when we really no they wont, and also, some guys are very smart and know how to twist our thoughts and change the way we think. They make us belive everyword they say and they crush ur slef steem to make sure u dun get away from them , because u think u will get no better than that. It is a matter of gettin out of a relationship like that in time, once ur too far into it, then u will be one of those stupid women. But if u repsect yourself and u are strong minded, then nobody will make u think diferent.

its a good thing that u would like to change this. but unfortunally we all no u cant
i just thank God he gave me a nice, good, hard working man. who loves me and shows it to me. everyday

Answer 8

Okay not every women are like this at all. Men do the same to women too, so its not just women. In reality, its not easy to get over the guys that have treated them bad because they feel like if they leave them, they wont get another guy. And nice guys are hard to find.

Answer 9

hmm... calling women stupid is not exactly the best way to treat them either.
I agree that some of them are stupid, but then quite a few men are stupid as well. I have a sister in law who is like a jerk magnet or something. She divorced one abuser only to marry another one. He recently tried to kill her (for real) yet she was stupid enough to stay with him AND have another baby with him.
People do things for different reasons. I guess some of us men are just too boring, predictable, too laid back. We're just not exciting enough for these types of women... maybe they get something out of getting beat to a pulp... the thrill of comming close to getting killed and yet surviving it.
The weird thing is they keep believing that somehow if they kiss that frog long enough it will turn back into a prince and treat them nicely... but then the prince would be too boring so they would have to dump him in favor of another frog to "save".

Answer 10

Ypu want the truth ok these women saw their mothers treated badly and nothing was done so they figure its ok for me to be treated like that well my @#$$*@* of a father treated me and my mom like $$$$ ok and well im not gonna take that and no other women should im only a teenager i wonder if a guy will ever treat me nice but i dont know.