Is being a parent worth it?

Question

Being a parent isn't just about giving up your free time, it's also about giving up things you love to do. Right? So are they really worth it? I know a lot of people who are a lot less happy because of all the stress they've got upon their shoulders, but when i ask if they regret having children, they always say "never." Why?

Answer 1

Because at night my 4 year old daughter gets out of bed after being tucked in and comes to give me a hug and kiss and says "Mommy I love you". And because if I do something very little for her she says, "Great job MOM". Because she told me that when she grows up that I'm going to be little. And because when I told her that she is going to grow up to be a beautiful woman, she told me "No Mom, when I grow up I'm going to be in kindergarten."

That's why being a parent is worth it, and there are no regrets.

Answer 2

Children are beautiful beings that are made by you. Yes you do have to modify your life when children become a part of your family.My Son's are 19 and 21. Yes they are very well worth it. Everybody always says that you have to raise them for 18 years and that is true, but they don't just go away when they turn 18! Once you have children they are a true Blessing. Children live what they learn and learn what they live. I don't know what things that you have to "GIVE UP?" As children become older they also enjoy doing things and having fun. As they grow they will never cease to amaze you with thier own character, and the way they learn, and the things they come up with. I have never regretted my children. I love them with all of my heart. They are just as much fun grown as they are small. I just get to see them alot less. We have had tough times but that just comes with life. Nobody has ever said everything in life would be easy. And by far it's not! But there will be trials and good and bad in everything you do. I hope this is a help? God Bless you as you try to learn and understand.

Answer 3

It depends on what type of person you are. If you feel like you are too selfish, or you don't want to give up your lifestyle, you shouldn't have children. But, if you feel the urge to have children, then you know when the time is right. It's just a desire you have inside of you, I can't really explain it. I used to always say I would never have kids, I was too selfish of a person to share my life. But one day I knew. I found out I was pregnant, completly by accident, and I knew the Lord had blessed me. I know have 4. Sure I get stressed out and exhausted, but when one of my kids say, "Your the best mommy in the world and my best friend, I love you," it melts my heart and I thank God for his blessing upon me. Some people will never have that desire. God knows.

Answer 4

You have to weigh what in life is important to you. If you love you above all and don't think you are capable emotionally of putting some body's needs first, then don't have children. I wouldn't change having my children for the world. However, I know people who are perfectly happy without children and couldn't give the love, attention and support needed to raise a child. Lord knows the world doesn't need any more children whose parents ignore them, neglect them or abuse them. I think people who want to have the experience of having a child should mentor or work as a coach. That way, you can still be a positive influence in a children's life but when they get on your nerves, send them back to their parents :)

Answer 5

I actually love and enjoy my life far more now that I am a parent. It makes my previous life seem empty and unfulfilling. Even though we had a child earlier than planned (we were 19 and 20 at the time), it is the best thing that could have happened to us. My husband and I still do all the things we did before, but now we enjoy them even more because we have a sweet little girl to share our lives with. We even still get together with friends, and they love our daughter and are like adopted aunts and uncles. We have so much more fun in life now, I cant even explain it. Before, it was like I was only living for me, and had no real direction. Now I know exactly what to do with my life, and enjoy every minute of it! I am a stay at home mom, and run a home business so our daughter doesnt have to be raised by a stranger, and my husband has a job that he really enjoys! In our downtime, we have lots of friends, with and without kids, that we enjoy doing things with. Whether it is just sitting around watching movies with my brothers, or going to the lake with friends, or walking to the park with my best friend and her daughter. We always have something to keep us busy and happy :)

Answer 6

Although I do not have any kids, I think it is worth it. Some people are willing to give up there life so that they can creat a human being and love and care for them. I wouldn't be mad because I had a kid. Yes, you do have a lot of stress, but in the end, you will be a proud parent.

Answer 7

I did not give up the things I love, I found the things I love. I love go for nature walks, being woke up with a big kiss form a 5 yr old, playing dress up etc. Any parents that tells you that they gave up things they love are terrible parents and need to re-examine their lives. sure there is stress, but it is a good stress. I wouldn't have a reason to live without my children. what are people doing in their lives without kids? What is the point?

Answer 8

Because having a child is such a blessing. You just love them more then life itself. It's a love that's hard to describe. You would kill for them, throw yourself in front of a bus without a moments hesitation to save their lives and you find joy in theiir happiness. I don't agree that you give up the things that you love. You might not have as much time for the things that you love... but you should also make yourself a priority. I loved to read and relax before having my son... and I still get too (when he's napping... lol). I also watch him while my honey does the things that he enjoys doing. And I know he would do the same for me if I asked.

There are compromises, but they're worth it.

Answer 9

For me, yes it is. We didn't plan to have a family, but we did anyway so we decided to make the best of it.

To be fair, they're ridiculously easy girls...no real trouble spots to speak of, naturally generous and gracious and, at times, by boarding pass back on the bus that is humanity.

There are many things in my life that I do regret but, given the chance, I'm not sure that I would change any of it because it ultimately led to where I am and who we are. And THAT is something that I would never change.

It is SO worth it....

Answer 10

It's hard to explain but when you love some one you don't mind the sacrifice. This is sort of a lame example but it will work..The other day I went to the store and bought a yummy brownie. I had been craving one really bad (pregnant) and hadn't had sugar in weeks so it was going to be a nice treat for me. I pulled the brownie out of the bag and my young son clapped his hands together and was so excited. He held out his hands and I handed it over to him. Was I sad? No. You don't even care if it makes your kids happy. I felt better watching him eat it than I would have felt eating it myself. You don't even think twice about it. Your priorities change and things that you might think are a sacrifice (not going out, not making money, not looking hot) before you had children no longer seem like much of a sacrifice after children.