I'm almost sixteen and my dad doesn't trust me at all. He thinks i drink and smoke and i sleep around when i dont. In fact i've never done any of those things but he doesnt beleive me. I get good grades, i almost never go out with my friends, and i've never had a serious boyfriend. He also thinks that all my friends are drug addicts when NONE of them are, and this is all just because my older brother got into some bad stuff when he was my age. I constantly tell my parents that i'm not like my brother and i dont do any of these things, but my dad just doesnt believe me. I've only broken his trust once and that was over a year ago when i spent the night at my best friends house and we snuck out for a couple of hours to go to her cousins house down the street because she was grounded and wanted us to hang out with her. Of course her mom caught us and told my dad and that was the last time i spent the night anywhere, or did anything bad. How can i get my dad to beleve me?I need your help!
2007-03-15 14:03:38 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Get yourself together!
2007-03-15 14:06:39 · answer #1 · answered by JUDY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ehh... that's hard. I would probably just keep doing what your doing. I first would ask him why he can't trust you. If he can't because of your friends, then have your friends come over to your house when he's there, and don't do anything that would make him think poorly of your friends. If he still doesn't get it... then you just need to have a father-daughter talk with him and find out what his reasons are for not trusting you, and make sure he knows that your not into drugs &&stuff like that. i hope that helps!
2007-03-15 14:13:27 · answer #2 · answered by Britta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you can sit him down when he is in a good mood and just tell him that you need to talk to him. Tell him that it bothers you that he does not trust you. Explain to him that you have never smoked, drank, did drugs or been promiscuous. You are proud of this and you want him to know it. Swear on something you care about to stress this to him. Tell him that you have seen the mistakes your brother made and you refuse to do the same.
If your mom believes you, talk to her. Maybe she can talk to your father if they are still a couple.
Have this talk when you have no intention of gaining something, such as wanting to go out.
2007-03-15 14:12:09 · answer #3 · answered by Contessa 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Only time. Trust is earned, not given. He's been disappointed before and is trying to distance himself from disappointment again. Don't be obvious about trying to earn it. Just remember that you are 'almost sixteen' and he just wants to be a good Dad and help you have the safest growing up period possible.
2007-03-15 14:08:03 · answer #4 · answered by Venita Peyton 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its about getting hurt, he doesn't want to let his guard down and you hurt him with your actions again...saying and feeling the way he does prepares him for the worse...just stay and the straight and narrow and he will realize he was wrong about you...but mess up just once more and he will dog you for the rest of your days.
2007-03-15 14:10:23 · answer #5 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would introdues my freinds to him
2007-03-15 14:07:55 · answer #6 · answered by gjhs010 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋