my 16 year old daughter?

Question

my 16 year old daughter feels she shouldn't have to go to bed at 10:00pm on school days because of her age .she's stays up late on the weekend what do you think.

Answer 1

u r the mom and u make rules not her. my kids go to bed 8 and they r 13,12,and8. 10 is a good bed time for a 16 year old. tell her it could earlier and if she wants to argue about it. it will be earlier.

Answer 2

It depends on what time she wakes up. If she has to wake up at 6 a.m. for school, then yeah, she should be going to bed at about 10p.m. to get her full 8 hours of rest. But if you're enforcing it as a "bedtime", she may feel that the practice is a bit juvenile. I'd let her stay up a few nights, and she'll feel how tired she is thy next day. It will probably cause her to try and adjust her schedule on her own. If not, maybe she's a person who doesn't need a whole 8 hours- maybe only 7 is enough. At 16, she should be responsible enough to figure out when she needs to go to sleep to feel refreshed for the day.

Answer 3

tell her that she needs her rest. Let her go to her room at 10, and let her have a trial for the next couple of days. Try her out on different times and if she doesn't get up in the morning or complains of being tired send her back to bed at 10. I had the same problem when I was 16. My mom did what I just told you and I went to bed at the time I thought was right and I started staying up til 11, and I was fine.

Answer 4

well what I would do, is let her stay up however late she wants to, BUT make it very clear that she has to get up for school in the morning, and that if she falls asleep in class, there will be consequences, and stuff like that. Also, on weekends, let her stay up till whenever, but dont let her sleep in to late, wake her butt up, and dont tip toe around the hourse trying not to wake her. I think that it is just a phase, and that she will grow out of it, let her have some freedom, it will be nutso at first, but then she will probably go to bed at 10 anywho on her own. She probably wants to feel like she has more control over her life.

Answer 5

I was 16 not to long ago... laughs. Well i think a mix of the advice you were given should work which is make her go to her room at 10 so as not to disturb anyone else in the house but allow her to stay up as long as she wants until she shows that she cannot handle that responsibility such as she's not getting up on time the next day and stuff.

Answer 6

well U gotta let your daughter know that staying up late at night and waking up early will effect her beuty she will start having dark erea's under her eyes specially arround the eye lids and if she will try to cover it with alot of make up that will damage her skin and evintually she will need serious skin treatment at profissional beutician and that will cost alot of money starting from $4500 and up depends on where do you live, and in some rare ocasions it will cause cancer ...and thats for one .

then she will start gain wait faster that she can inticipate because staying up late and eating snacks and soda ets.. and then when she gonna go to sleep her digestive system wont be able to digest the food properly because ther is no energy worth digesting for , for that her system will translate that messege to stord away fat and it will keep building up through the days ... and over wait females more likely get pregnant even if they are on birth control (thats health wise )

being 16 is wounderfull era in human life wether if it was male or female in that age there is alot of responsibilty above the prevlages its the moment that this person will decide the way of his/her life and how it will be .... is it the nice cute house with loving spouse and 50k year job ? or is it poor living and lot of beer and four kids and there dad in the rehab ?and there is alot living this way ... and the money that they get its not free ts from our taxs ... its not nice way to live.. i feel sorry for some of them i really do ... they made some stupid mistakes in the past and they are paying for it now ... but who i dont feel sorry for are those people who dont want ot over come those mistakes i see them every friday i come back from work and i stop by the store to get some milk or what ever and i see some of these people buying with $50 beer and another $50 lottery tickets ? wow!

you have to let her know all the doors in front of her are open at this time and in this age and as she get older they will start getting shut one after another and the chances are trying to get them open again is harder than what it use to be .

its her future, going bed early is not because you want her too!its her health and her beuty and how the deturmination and modivation will help to make her living easier and her dreams closer.

Answer 7

The decision when to go to bed is a personal health issue which should be turned over to children at the same time they assume responsibility for their own dental care, about 7-8. Your daughter is old enough to get married in many states and nations. Bedtime is her responsibility. And, as she catches up with that, and as she makes mistakes, the consequences of her good and bad decisions are hers as well. It is wiser for children to learn, make mistakes and suffer the consequences of their poor judgements while they are still in the nest. It is amazing and nearly child-abuse, in my opinion, the way parents ship children off to college pathetically hobbled and unprepared for adulthood. College is not the place to be learning when nappy time is. That's why so many young adults fail. College is 24 months off for your daughter. Is she ready?

Answer 8

My mom made me go to bed at 7:30 until I moved out! 10 o'clock? Man, I only wished - if you think that's a good time then don't let her tell you otherwise - give her some freedom on the weekends (cause either way she's gonna do what she wants) then during the week, let her know there are limits - but stick to them!

Answer 9

I think you should allow a compromise, she can stay up as late as she wants in her bed room after 10pm but she has to go into her room by 10. She should be able to know how late she can stay up and still be able to get up in the morning. Let her decide and make it clear if she fails to get up or acts un responsibly then she goes back to the 10pm bed time.

Answer 10

Your 16 year old is not an adult but an adolescent. She may not like the rules but she should have to abide by them. You should try explaining to her that you only want what is best for her, Lack of sleep leads to lack of concentration, leads to porr grades etc. She may not realize the consequences that can result from small rebellions now. Also, you may want to consider listening to her side and maybe a compromise...say 10:30 or 11:00 pm.

Answer 11

i think that you have bigger battles than bedtime for a 16 yr old. school nights should be 11-12, unless school work suffers. you can always compromise by saying "in bed at 10 pm". why limit the weekends? as long as her curfew is not past midnight, she can stay up as late as she wants. just make sure she gets her chores done.
teens bodies require more sleep, but at odd hours. this is normal.