My boyfriend and I hvae been seeing eachother for about a month and a half, I am falling in love with him but today I started to think about whether or not he should really move in with me. We are doing it because I am having financial difficulties and he would be sleeping in the other room not with me. Please give me some advice...Btw I'm 21 and he's 27...Thanks
2007-03-15 13:54:22 · 13 answers · asked by pasofinosweety 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes he will for sure be sleeping in the other room,
2007-03-15 14:00:14 · update #1
It was my idea for him to move in with me not his, and trust me he doesnt want anything more then to help me, he hasnt even mentioned whats on most guys minds and i know he isnt cheating on me
2007-03-16 09:03:36 · update #2
I think you should look for a more affordable place to live rather than letting your boyfriend move in. I'm sorry but you don't know too much about him to be that comfortable just yet. Ok he is willing to help out financially that is great but why does it come with a stipulation of him moving in. Sleeping in another room sounds like hidden agenda to me don't be so trusting go with your woman's intuition and tell him you had change of heart and he can't move in. You are young and we all struggled at one time or another. My advice is to get organized, budget, buy things you need and always remember to save for rainy day.
2007-03-15 14:24:41 · answer #1 · answered by Aphreakywuman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How long have you guys actually been friends? because a month and a hlf is not that long of time. I think that you should wait a little while and get to know him better. You probably need to be able to trust him more. But if there is no other way around it then I guess he has to move in with you. Also another reason for waiting is that sometimes when people are constantly around eachother the seem to become irritble. Also when paying for the house/food/electricity/cable may start fights and problems, your relationship is not very strong yet because you have not been going out for very long but after a couple more months or a year I say go for it!!!
Good Luck!
2007-03-15 21:01:31 · answer #2 · answered by lilly s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would he moving in help you with your financial difficulties? Have you ever thought about chores and responsibilities around the house? Even sleeping in other rooms can lead to very sexual temptations. Are things sure to work out? Would he bite back at you if things dont work out? Some guys are jerks, "Dont u remember i pay for your clothes?" "Who pays the bills?" I sure hope he is not such kinda guy especially at the age of 27. For that one and a half month, u dont know the person as well. I suggest not to move in. It is definitely too rushy. If you are financialy unstable, you should consider a job. Things can surely work out. Ask God to help you.
I will pray for you.
2007-03-15 21:07:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people have found that this sort of arrangement sabotages any future committment, and breeds a lot of confusion and resentment on both sides.
If you start with this sort of set-up, he will probably assume you will always pay your way, be a live-in servant, and make no demands at all on him.
Society and tradition already gives him advantages in the relationship---why give him any more?
If you are serious about him, and think he's the one love of your life, you should follow a more traditional courtship, engagement, etc. and only live together after you are married.
2007-03-15 21:04:41 · answer #4 · answered by papyrusbtl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A month and a half?????? Hell NO!!!! Yeah, he'll sleep in the other room for about 2 or 3 nights then before you know it, he'll be in bed with you and you'll end up pregnant and he'll be so outta there. Wise up girl...get the clue book and read it from cover to cover as many times as necessary.
2007-03-15 20:57:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, dont let him have the milk without buying the cow! deep down they disrespect you for not respecting yourself. I did this for 6 months, and I fealt guilty because I knew it wasnt morally right. I gave him an altamatum, so he married me. He told me later he would have went on like that forever if I let him. People shouldnt play house, just commit all the way.
2007-03-15 21:02:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only seeing each other for 45 days is not long enough to live with someone.
What about a female friend to share expenses with.
2007-03-15 20:57:54 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be so carefull!!
Before you do, make sure everything is in your name. because if things do not work out, then you have all the power in the world to get rid of him with no problems.
When you move in with someone they are SO much different then you thought. Everything about them changes. its so hard to find the perfect match!
So if you decide to do it! do it smartly. Just so you can keep yourself safe!
2007-03-15 21:00:04 · answer #8 · answered by jiggamaboo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never move in with sum1 just for fanancial reasons, especially if youv'e only been dating for a couple of months.get a second job and give that relationship time to develop. don't do it !!!
2007-03-15 21:01:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
is he going to help you pay half of everything. sure he is going to sleep in the other room.
2007-03-15 20:58:50 · answer #10 · answered by Ms. Angel.. 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋