My Mother's suspicions are driving me crazy.?

Question

Me and my boyfriend have been going out for more than 3 years.Recently,one of his aunts had surgery and he went out of town one weekend to help her out and to visit his cousins.I can't go b/c she is a very strong catholic so i can't spend the night w/him.well, the next weekend, he visits them again just to get out of town (he had been stressed/depressed for the longest time)and b/c his mom told him it might make him feel better. then, this springbreak weekend,he thought it would be good for him to go again. i honestly don't think he would cheat on me and plus i've seen him around his cousins that live there and he gets along w/ them better than any other ones. but since he just recently started going to see them 3 out of 4 weekends, my mother and granny think he's up to something. They keep asking me about it and telling me that just don't want to see me get hurt. They don't trust people easily, but their suspcions are driving me crazy. they're startingto make me wonder.whatshould ido?

i'm 20 and he's 18

well, i forgot to add that even the first weekend, they kept asking me questions. I told my boyfriend then about it & he told me just to tell them why he went up there. then just now on the phone, i told him that they're questioning him again. he said he feels bad that they're always doubting him and if it makes me feel better, he would turn around and come back home. i told him no b/c i do trust him. he then said he would come back a day earlier.

Answer 1

You should listen to your own heart in the matter. Some people are naturally suspicious of everyone and feel the need to pass those thoughts on the everyone around them. Sit down and talk with your mother about how she is making you feel. Explain to her that her concerns are appreciated, but her constant pushing on the matter is upsetting you worse. Then talk with your boyfriend about it. Maybe the two of you can sit down with both of your parents and work out a way that the two of you could spend that time together.

Answer 2

As usual, you don't state your age. If your bf is going out of town three weekends out of four, then I think you should start asking the questions your mother and grand mother are asking. They seem very concern for you and often when people can't face up to reality, they question the motives of those that can. I don't think you should be paranoid but you should definitely have a long talk with your bf. They say absence makes the heart grow fonder, but I think it might make the heart grow fonder of another. Take care!

Answer 3

This habit does no longer unavoidably aspect out Borderline personality ailment, in spite of the undeniable fact that she is unquestionably abusive. that's not regularly occurring habit to be hitting on little ones , threatening them, and tearing off clothing . Borderlines have relationship complications , are moody , self detrimental , and performance all or no longer some thing wondering. the female needs a psychological evaluation. She also may have a drug problem alcohol problem. in spite of the priority is she is emotionally and psychologically risky.

Answer 4

If you really trust him just sit your mother and granny down and tell them that you would like to thank them for their concern about you but you trust him and you don't think that he is doing anything wrong. Try your hardest not to make them angry because after all they are looking out for what they think is best for you.

Answer 5

You just need to learn to trust him. Call him and ask him what he does over there. Dont accuse him of anything just ask him like you are just talkin to him. And if he sounds suspicious just tell him that you want him to spend more time with you and if he refuses or says hed rather go to his cousins then you know somethings up. but dont jump to conclusions that hes cheating on you, just ask him why he likes it over there or what he does and if he gets all jumpy or nervous then you might want to start worrying

Answer 6

Explain to your mother and grandmother that they are starting to bother you with their accusations. If you have been dating you're boyfriend for more than three years then you should know him. I would assume he would have enough respect to tell you if he liked someone else. If you really feel uneasy about it, then talk to him. Communication is the most healthy thing for a relationship.

Answer 7

tell your boyfriend about what your mom and your granny think and see what he has to say about that and then that will put your mind at rest. if you have been going with him for 3 years you know him pretty well and can tell if what hes saying to you is the truth.

Answer 8

i do find it stange he going out of town alot and as u said u not allowed to sleep over with him i would question it alittel maybe tel him what is being said u could say hey its realy funny but mum and gran think u another woman or if ur 100 per cent that he not chearing then ok i do think its strange and if ur 3 years with him why are u letting ur mom tell u that u ca nt sleep with hi unless u do nt want to sorry i do nt know ur age just guesig ur old enough to go out with somone for 3 years

Answer 9

That is what good mothers do, get over it.

Be happy that you have a mom that cares about you, what you would rather have isn't what you will wish you had later in life.

Just put up with it, she is you mom and you are the child.

Sorry if that is not what you wanted to hear.

Answer 10

Have your mother and granny drive you there one of the days he is there to surprise him and see how it goes. If hes mad you showed up then something is wrong. if hes happy to see you then they are paranoid.