I see on this site women asking if there are any nice guy's left, yet, if they are really interested in a nice guy why do they keep making the same mistakes? If you don't learn from your mistakes you are doomed to repeat them.
Here's a few hints for you if you want a nice guy; he opens doors for you, he gives up his seat for you, he speaks to you with respect, he loves his mother, he doesn't speak down to you, he treats you like a person and not an object, and there are many other subtle signs.
I find it very hard to meet a down-to-earth women who isn't into herself or my bank account. The next time a guy gives up a taxi cab for you or holds the door open so you can enter first, don't just ignor it, try striking up a conversation, he may be the "nice guy" you are looking for. Ask the guy if he'd like to share the cab ride or if he'd like to have a cup coffee at Starbucks, get an email address, something. Don't just pass like 2 ships in the night.
2007-03-15 13:46:49 · 13 answers · asked by cireengineering 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You seem very wise. And very right! I think next time a guy does that for me, i will strike up conversation! It's just hard sometimes because the good guys, sometimes feels too good for us. Not me, I understand that "Bad boys" are the type that hurt you in the end. But are fun for a while, right?
Thank you for the help, I liked this question/answer :]]
have a great one!
2007-03-15 13:53:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Look man, most women want to come off like they are mature but i truely feel most arent mature at all. This is why they go for the jerks.I dont mind talking to a girl thats been burned once, but burned twice ???? I would ignore her just for that.
Trust me man, there are some nice girls around(around 5%) with the brains to see right through that crap. Another problem these days is that women want their cake and they want to eat it to. If they want their rights then they should also be expected to take the initiative and strike a conversation with a guy.
Ok just saw lilys answer. Lily sorry but being a nice guy isnt about opening doors and paying for dinnner. Any jerk can do that also. Being a nice guy means u are there for your girl not just as her bf but as her best friend as well. Its about communication, honesty, kindness, compassion.
I think i need to open a class on this just for women lol sheesh
2007-03-16 13:53:40 · answer #2 · answered by virgin 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think most girls like a guy who is very forward with how they feel. They also like guys who can stand up for themselves when it comes to to other guys. Like most animals, the ladies want the strongest male. Looks is also a thing too. The "jerks", play girls, sweet talk them, tell them what they want to hear, till they have them. Its not until later that the girl realises what a prick he is. I find that many sincere nice guys, are too nice, arent forward enough and stay away from getting into fights...which is probably a sensible thing to do, but many things dont make sense in reality.
2007-03-15 20:58:00 · answer #3 · answered by louise 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, speaking from experience, I thought I had married a nice guy, but turns out he kept a lot from me. I was married for over 7 years, and finally couldn't handle it anymore, so of course we are no longer together.
So, again, I'm looking for a nice guy, I don't like all the drama that comes along with a "bad" boy, it's more trouble than it's worth. Good luck to you!
2007-03-15 21:37:56 · answer #4 · answered by dnsnowden 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
only problem is... yes we want a nice guy... and we think we found one... when it turns out the guy we start to date is really good at pretending to be a good guy, but slowly starts to slip up... and we don't realize it right away because we are blinded by the feelings we have growing for this jerk.. hopefully we finally see the truth...
i lied, there's another problem too.. nice guys see that we're dating a jerk, but are such good guys that they don't want to talk to us about it, because they are scared that they'll be the one hurting us,... and they wait until the jerk does something awful (like cheat) and we're crushed, and want nothing to do with men for awhile.. then when we are ready to try again, we feel we only deserve to be with a jerk, because the last guy we thought was good, treated us so teribly, that we think thats all we're good enough to deserve.. not to mention we get used to a guy not opening doors, not paying for dinner, only getting compliments so he can "get some", etc etc etc...
so please, be a good guy, but don't be so nice that you won't approach the lady you want to love/protect/be true to, when you see how she's lying to herself by being with a total loser...
we might be upset with you at first, or not understand that same day, but say it, let us mull it over... we'll figure it out if you break it to us gently... then when we finally get rid of Mr. Ego, take our hand and lead us down a new path (even if we say we're not ready, we're totally lying, we want you because you were the first one to say something, and show how much you care about whats inside of us)... the one where you hold our hand, wrap us in your arms, kiss our foreheads, open doors, give compliments because you want to make us fel special not because you want some action... all the good stuff...
and I will definitely take your advice... the next man who opens a door for me, I'll smile and try to say something... Thank you... for letting me drag on :)
2007-03-16 08:57:45 · answer #5 · answered by lily 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my god, buddy do you know how much we are alike i have the exact same problem do u know how many girls i've liked that rejected be for some jerk like lets say a jock, gangster, prep, skater, stoner... and i'm just like u i'm just an average simple nice guy and all the girls don't see that in us u know what i mean because do u want to know what i think, i think that girls these days are just plain stupid because they go for these idiots and u know what happens they get there heart broken or dumbed or cheated on or pregnant and all for what huh?? nothing all it was is a big waste of time but if they went out with a nice guy we are one of those guys who won't do anything bad to her or cheat on her and respects her and will treat her like a queen every single day of our lives and after all the rejections i had to go threw i just think to myself F U C K chicks cause us nice guys actually care about them but for some stupid dumbass reason we get NOTHING does that make sence to you? i don't think so, so let them get heart broken by the biggest a s s h o l e s in the world and maybe one day ma brotha us nice guys will finally catch a f u c k i n g break eh
2007-03-15 21:07:47 · answer #6 · answered by Alex 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Spoken wisely. Thank you for the advice.
I think that women go out with jerks simply because the jerks often fool us. They act kind at first... spend enough time with us, buy us things, etc. So we're fooled into thinking that they are genuinely nice guys; when in fact, they are only using us for their own emotional or sexual benefits. It takes a lot of examination and time with a guy for us to realize he really is a jerk.
2007-03-15 20:52:20 · answer #7 · answered by emmabee2203 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean.
well basically when women goes out when a jerk they always expect that they can make them change which is better dumb because most of them arent gonna change anyways.
but its worth a try when you really like that person. They just wanna be treat good by the guy they like. Thats why even if the guy is being a jerk all the time they still stay with them cus they love them.
2007-03-15 20:51:01 · answer #8 · answered by honeyy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i will probably spend my life on this on bud. people have evolutionary explanations for this kind of stuff. i think it's probably
a) the type of girls you are looking for
b) society. there is a lot girls, like guys, absorb from society. damn Disney movies lie. our society is pretty messed in the beauty/relationship area. it's no wonder the individuals in it are messed to. don't blame yourself.
even if i can't get any girls, i am who i am because i believe this is the way to go. maybe my belief is formed by the messed up society, in which case i'm just another cog in the machine. hmm...k, basically **** everyone who abuses your kindness. people don't know what they want....
2007-03-15 20:52:18 · answer #9 · answered by OrangeBunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women want a man who's involved and interested in their emotions.
Frankly, the guys who want to and can push them around a bit often give them more of that than the guys who think it's all about following a set of rules for manners.
It's easy to see how they could mix up good-guy dominating types and real jerks.
2007-03-15 20:51:53 · answer #10 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋