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I work as a nanny to a little boy and today he and I went out. Now befrore I get ahead of myself I am posting this in the parenting because I wanted to know how YOU would react.Today I took him to some activities and after them we were on our way home on the bus. I am not very familiar with the busses but I know enough to get around.so I thought. The bus number changed after we got on it which I had no indication of until much later on the trip. His father called to see if we were on our way home and I told him yes, because we were. I didn't realise that the number had changed as I said before and so we ended up on the wrong one and went about 15 minutes by car out of the way.Big deal right? Not so to his mother.She was very upset with me when we got home even though I let them know the situation and felt terrible about it, she made me feel very low because of how she reacted. She just had a baby a week ago. do you think it was hormones?Or did she have a right to be mad? what can i do

Answer 1

Hmmm...well it all depends on how this woman is normally - that is, before she was pregnant. If the mum is always a bit uptight when it comes to her son, then I guess you could say that she feels she is justified in her anger even while some may disagree.

If, however, she is usually pretty mellow and can see when mistakes happen and doesn't go into a rage because of it, then I would blame this outburst on hormones (and most likely lack of sleep!!!!)

I hope it is just hormones and not just how this woman usually is. I've had a few friends work as nannies and the stories they tell have made me swear never ever to become one so I know (well have been told!) its a hard profession and kudos to you for being honest about what happened.

As for what you should do - I think you've done all you can. You were up front and it wasn't a deliberate act so if this woman's anger towards you continues and she won't listen to reason, I think it might be time to say bye bye and take your skills and experience elsewhere - no matter what they may tell you, you can get a job somewhere else with nicer people.

Good luck :o)

Answer 2

I can understand why she freaked out. It is a scary thought when you expect your child to walk in the door and you have 5 minutes go by, 10 minutes go by, 15 minutes go by, 20 minutes go by.....you play every scenario over in your head about what could have happened.

When you walked in nonchalant it probably sent her into a rage because she was so upset. No excuse would have helped.

Having a new baby definitely doesn't help it any.

I apologize again for frightening her. Tell her that it was an innocent mistake and you love her son very much and wouldn't do anything to harm him. She'll be fine.

Take Care
SD

Answer 3

Yeah perhaps she did over-react a bit. But even though she has you to help her care for her child it is still over whelming dealing with a new baby. Us women can be a little high strung in the early days.. Could be hormones, could be she just really tired from the labour and subsequent lack of sleep now bub is here. Try not to take it too much to heart. See if she settles down over next few weeks. If she still a bit over reactive to situations then perhaps you will need to address it.

Answer 4

She was probably a little scared And a little hormonal to. But you did every thing right. Most likely mom will come around and apologize to you. After she has had time to think about the situation. Sorry about your bad day. Feel better. Just do the job to the best of your ability . And mom should be grateful that she has some one who cares about her children so much.

Answer 5

I probably would have freaked out, just because I'd have been scared. I believe that a newborn at home does not help any mother think clearly and rationally (sleep deprivation, hormones, whatever.)

Try to understand her reaction, and not take it too personally. I'm sure that they'll calm down, realize it was a simple error, and then realize how badly they reacted to you. I'm sure it will work out just fine - just give it a little bit of time.

Answer 6

it could be hormones, tiredness from being with the newborn, guilt from not spending time wiht her son, pain or discomfort fromt the childbirth or all of the above working together.

she could also be jealous. as long as u called back right away to let them know the situation i don't think she should of yelled at u or anything. she had reason to be a little upset but she could of over reacted a little.

Answer 7

It could be hormones! More than likely she was plain worried!
Being a mom, I would have been worried. I would not have belittled you or been upset. Things happen that are not in your control and she should realize this and she should be happy and grateful to have someone taking HER child out to do things!

Answer 8

How she reacted is a sign of her maturity and how you react is a sign of yours:)
Hey you ahd good intentions and did what you thought was right,why worry:)
But yeah be more careful in genral
God bless

Answer 9

If she doesn't pay you very much go ahead and say whatever I don't need the attitude i can work elsewhere. But if she pays you the big bucks kiss that *ss

Answer 10

she had every right to be mad and you are lucky the situation didn't get any worst...
it wasn't anything wrong towards you it was just the fact that she was worried about her child and what if something happened.What if you got lost somewhere very far and something happened to her kid.You just don't mess with other peoples kids.He's not your kid to do whatever you want with him.you must respect everything the lady tells you.