Is money really so much more important than love.........I work full time ( because life has given me no choice) i'm on a serious guilt trip...it's only when the day's gone quiet and i'm on my own that i feel realllllllly bad...Does anyone else feel the same? Is it fair that (because of todays way of life) we don't, CANT give them all of our time..
2007-03-15 13:15:34 · 16 answers · asked by Susie2 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
yes , I felt that way. but my child knows I loved him, no matter what. and that I was working to give him a better life. and when I got home from work, I spent the rest of the night with him,
2007-03-15 13:19:27 · answer #1 · answered by misty blue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah i feel exactly the same, i want to spend all my time with my little boy but you're right the way things are today sometimes there is no choice. I decided to go back to work when my son was only 3 mths old and have been working now for 3 1/2 mths.
When i was growing up we had nothing and i dont want my son to go through that which is why i went back to work, i get myself through by reminding myself that i am doing it for his future so he has enough money in the bank when he is older so he doesnt end up in pools of debt like me n his dad.
I want him to have the best possible start in life and in todays society thats usually to do with money, to be honest my hubby is thinking of going to work and me being at home because as a mum i feel i should be with him.
Who knows in the end everyone does things differently and i guess some people have the luxury of not having to go to work and others dont so long as it doesn't affect the children its just something we have to do.
2007-03-16 06:12:59 · answer #2 · answered by becky t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Society doesnt make it easy for anyone to work and be good parents for their children. You're guilty for having made the choice to be a parent and want to provide for them. All you can do is be sure when you do spend time with them that its good quality time. Not easy when you have alot to balance, but make sure you keep communication between you open, you talk about everything, they know where you're coming from and you know whats going on with them. So keep on top of any problems that come up. Dont lavish them with expensives clothes and gifts, cos this clouds the real love you have for them and gives them misconceptions. Have days out when you can away from home and housework. And organise your time carefully, that valuable time isnt lost doing 'nothing'. Hope that helps.
2007-03-16 07:51:38 · answer #3 · answered by chiccigyal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just a matter of organizing one's schedule to balance every aspect of life. With bills rising, work time is rising and, in some sort of way, it might work out in your favor. Today's world, we are missing those precious times with family. Sometimes, when things settle down, we tend to feel the pressure, knowing it won't last long. Try to plan a schedule for you and your children. I'm sure you're thinking there aren't enough hours in a day for that. We all know our kids are our priority, but life tends to screw with us and make it more difficult than it really should be.
2007-03-15 13:29:04 · answer #4 · answered by Heyjay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay at home Mums also feel guilty, for not spending all their time with their children, because they need to do other stuff or take a nap, all Mothers have guilt, no matter what they do !!!
M : )
2007-03-15 13:20:47 · answer #5 · answered by mesmerized 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I used to at first and now that my kids are both in school all day, I don't so much. Ain't no hustle like the working mother's hustle..... I definitely do weekends with them, since I work only during the week--so I think it all balances out and I also try and attend most field trips.
2007-03-15 13:19:42 · answer #6 · answered by DJA30 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah , I do feel the same at times, but can't help it. But I try to spend the rest of my time with my kid that makes her feel loved , And she says I like you very much. If your child tells you the same, You may not feel guilty. Try spending quality time with your child and see the rest of the time your child spends is the way he/she likes the most.
Nothing more really.
2007-03-15 22:48:04 · answer #7 · answered by STRANGER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some other ways to look at it, too. I worked when my daughter was small, I am not well suited to being home all the time. I believe (strongly) that our time on evenings and weekends was better and much more appreciated. Working for me was also out of financial necessity, but I figure that you have to make the most out of your situation, and have a great attitude about it. Make your child proud of you, and have quality time when you are together.
2007-03-15 13:22:27 · answer #8 · answered by Nanneke 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont know about you or the other mums out there but i feel guilty for everything. for when i was at work, and when i was at home. for spoiling them. for not giving them enough. for not being there enough, for being there too much and not letting them stand on their own 2 feet. everything. i think it comes with the territory. but now they have grown, they all turned out ok. so, maybe i wasnt too bad after all. im sure you will feel the same.
2007-03-18 21:47:01 · answer #9 · answered by fat momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as single parents we do what we have to do for the sake of our kids. But keep them informed, talked to them -- trust me they will understand. But remember this Family first -- do all that you can when you can for them -- because there is not enough money in the world that can measure up to there love, and there time.
2007-03-15 13:22:16 · answer #10 · answered by Quest 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋