Hi everyone. I first met my fiancé when I was 14 and him 16. We had a long distance relationship and therefore it was hard for us to stay loyal (and we were young). So during that age 16 through 20, he dates other girls, and I had other boyfriends. Today we decided to be serious, we've been living together for 3 years. And I just learned that he had sex with the girls he dated during our long distance relationship (me in Florida, him in Hawaii). I had boyfriends during my teens yrs too (i'm 22 and he is now 24), but I never went further than filatio and such. I didn't have sex with the guys.
But my man had sex with these girls, and it's killing me.
I can't stop thinking about it, and it drives me nuts.
What should I do? It seems that I can't move on from his past. I wish he had never had sex with these girls. It hurts me so much.
Thanks everyone
Please give me advice on what I should do to get over his past.
2007-03-15 12:39:41 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have to sort of just stop thinking about it, its the past and I'm sure he'd take it back if he could but unforchunatly we can't undo bad things we've done so you just need time to adjust.
2007-03-15 12:45:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I kinda think oral sex is worse then sleeping with some one. I don't think sex is a casual thing that can be shared with just any one; but oral sex does seem to be something that you would do to that one RIGHT person. I've never even thought about going down on previous boyfriends but I did sleep with 2 of my ex boyfriends. I'm in a serious relationship now and we've been together for about 6 years and still going strong. I don't think it bothers me that my guy has slept with other girls because I did it too. And as much as you think you're not too blame or you're innocent, you're not. You still had sexual contact in the past also. Neither oral sex and sleeping with some one is a casual thing, but you can't be upset with him if you were doing the deed to some one other than him.
2007-03-15 19:52:23 · answer #2 · answered by devious805er 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um sorry to say but you did have sex with those boys. You have nothing over him, you were just as bad.
You make the common mistake of thinking your man wants to know about past sex partners. There is nothing you can do except forget or move on...your choice.
Oh and one more thing...you are still too young to get married.
2007-03-15 19:46:47 · answer #3 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have to get over it! unless this was somethign u specifically decided together that u would not engage in, then u cant really be mad. sex is sex. oral, manual, penetrative. you did it too. you just have to decide whether you want to be happy or not, u can dwell on this and both of you become miserable, or u can talk it out and make a concious effort to get to get over it. i have to go now, but ill be back to tell u a story about somethign that happend to me...getting over it or not.
2007-03-15 19:44:51 · answer #4 · answered by Tian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should hope that he is not as petty as you are
YOU HAD SEX with your partner's too president clinton!
You werent with him and he had sex with them
get over it or lose him.
At least he was honest enough to tell you, he could have lied and probably should have lied since you are being so stupid about it.
2007-03-15 19:44:25 · answer #5 · answered by kissmymiddlefinger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but fellatio is ORAL SEX.
2007-03-15 19:44:11 · answer #6 · answered by Nunya B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋