I have been going out with this guy for 11 months. I wanna break up with him because I think that we should just be friends. What should I do? I'm afraid to break up with him because, well this probably won't happen but, I'm afraid that I will start crying or feel really bad. I need help please? and be serious about this.
P.S. We're in the middle school level.
2007-03-15 12:37:44 · 11 answers · asked by ~ICP~ Rules! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweetie,
Breakups are hard, no matter who does it or the reasons why they happen.
Most likely you will cry, he may cry too (maybe not when anyone is looking) but the fact of it is, breakups are hard. They are easiest, however, when there is a clean break.
Tell him EXACTLY how you feel and why, and set limitations on your relationship in the future as friends. You may have to have multiple conversations because there are going to be a lot of feelings hurt.
Good luck, my dear.
Respect yourself enough to do the right thing.
You'll be fine. :]
2007-03-15 12:44:11 · answer #1 · answered by love anyway 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your situation...
As hard as it is, you've gotta go through with it. Just be as reasonably honest with him as you can, because the longer you hold off the harder it's going to be to go through with it. Once you get to that point, you'll just get frustrated so much easier when things bother you.
Just know that the longer you wait, the harder it gets and the more unnecessary stress you'll cause both yourself and your b/f.
Keep in mind though that us boys are pretty stupid in general let alone when we're young and don't really know any better. He may react in a not-so-flattering way because he doesn't know any better. Just try and be honest and reasonable when you talk to him, from that point it's out of your hands, and hopefully you guys can work on maintaining a friendship soon after.
2007-03-15 19:50:13 · answer #2 · answered by Critter Rocks 1014 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since you don't see him as anything other than friends you should definitly break it off with him instead of leading him on. Finish it before you hurt him by ignoring him or something drastic.
2007-03-15 19:45:42 · answer #3 · answered by Pearl D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That means you are in 7, 8, 9,TH if my math to correct, now if you wont to break up go on and do it!!
2007-03-15 19:57:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about crying. If you cry, then he knows that you don't want to hurt him. In fact, he will probably feel a lot better about it.
2007-03-15 19:43:30 · answer #5 · answered by goaliegirl87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not happy, then go ahead and take the chance. feeling bad and crying will fade away, but if your unhappy, then you probably will be unhappy forever if you dont break it off, so.....
2007-03-15 19:42:22 · answer #6 · answered by Matt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think it twice before u make that big step...you might regret it later..
anyways if u mention u dont have the feelings for him i guess its pretty unfair for him if you dont set him free...
good luck
2007-03-15 19:43:07 · answer #7 · answered by angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with him - if you can't do it face-to-face, write him a letter letting him know how you feel.
2007-03-15 19:41:14 · answer #8 · answered by reandsmom77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him... and tell him how you feel.. if you don't want to be with someone why are you going to feel bad
2007-03-15 19:41:24 · answer #9 · answered by lala15 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't tell him, just start drifting apart from him.
2007-03-15 19:42:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋