I have never cheated on him and I have never thought about cheating on him....He did cheat on me last year and we broke up for about 5 months after that.
2007-03-15 12:35:12 · 35 answers · asked by Becky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Usually when they accuse, it's because they are doing it themselves.
2007-03-15 12:38:13 · answer #1 · answered by Speedy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U really want to know y he is accusing u cause he never stopped cheat n on u Im sorry to have 2 say it that way, But the 1 that is a accusing is usally the 1 cheating. I know from first hand trust me well good luck in all that happends with u and ur Boo!
2007-03-15 12:40:20 · answer #2 · answered by nicole_252006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband did the same thing for a long time....I was shocked because I had never even thought about such a thing but since he talked about it so much it almost got to the point where I was suddenly thinking about it. Not that I would cheat but it got me thinking that since he thought about it so much maybe he cheats...I explained this too him and it helped a whole lot. It is a huge insecurity thing for guys especially if he has been cheated on before. Its a real tough thing and if your strong enough to wait it through it will get better...its gets very tiring though. Good luck!!
2007-03-15 12:41:14 · answer #3 · answered by Ria B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have answered your own question.
Because he cheated on you.
Before he cheated on you, did you think he was capable of it? Most likely not.
We tend to put how we see things on other people. Since you NEVER thought of cheating, it may not have crossed your mind that he might.
He knows what it's like first hand. He expects you to do it because he's done it, and he knows how easy it is to pull you in.
He may also think that his infidelity may give you "Permission" to do it back- since you are still "not even"
Cheating is still a possibility for him (on you) as well.
When it no longer becomes an option for him to cheat on you, then he will no longer believe it an option for you.
He needs to get his own priorities straight, and then he can see straight.
Maybe pointing out every time he is accusing you of cheating, he is really just thinking about doing it himself.
It might shut him down.
2007-03-15 12:43:53 · answer #4 · answered by There you are∫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might just be insecure. Or maybe he feels like if he cheated on you, you might be like "What goes around comes around" and will end up cheating on him like he cheated on you. In my opinion, any man that is insecure like that and accuses someone of cheating all of the time, they must be pretty durn insecure. Try to have a sit down talk and chill with him and ask why he feels that way. IT may help. Best of luck!
2007-03-15 12:38:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, in his past maybe he has had cheating experinces and has built up insecurites. You should ask him straight out what is making him feel like you are cheating on him. Explain that you love him and how you would never cheat on him. If he can't trust you then the relationship won't work. He needs to be able to trust you 100%.
2007-03-15 12:39:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will usually find that if a man is constantly accusing you of cheating on him, he is actually cheating on you - he has a guilty concious. This isn't normal for a healthy relationship. Let me hastle someone else - why did you take him back after he cheated on you - you deserve more than that
2007-03-15 12:38:57 · answer #7 · answered by Bexs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, honestly if I were you I wouldnt have given him a second chance. He obviously doesnt want to be with you. In my experiance he is looking for a reason to get rid of you. Like you said you havent given him any reason to believe that you have cheated and if you havent then you have no reason to worry. So ask him why he is so insecure. Just because he made a mistake doesnt mean your going to make the same one.
2007-03-15 12:53:44 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Becky? Can we talk, Sister? Clepto, has made the mistake? And he's too insecure for you? Get far away from Disrespect Blvd. Clown has you too tied up to be as pretty as you are. But you can go move into Happiness Lane? `Cause this guy is never gonna live there. How would I know? I'm Old School.
2007-03-15 12:41:20 · answer #9 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is doing what is called transference. He thinks you are going to get even or are getting even because, after all, he owes you one.
This is no way to start a long term relationship. Think of the reason you first broke up with him and realize you have allowed him back into your life despite his behavior. Think about the fact he is now trying to make it your fault.
Put your walking shoes on and never look back. You deserve better!
2007-03-15 12:47:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be 2 reasons why he's accusing u...1) He's up 2 his old cheat'n ways again or he's falling in love with u. Guys act weird when they start falling in love. Or maybe he's cheatin' or thinkin' about doing it and accusing u because he's feeling guilty.
2007-03-15 12:41:16 · answer #11 · answered by A Smart Chick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋