Been spending a decent amount of time with this girl for the last two weeks..seems like its going VERY good.
Here is my problem..
Shes so nice. I ask her to do something with me, and shes always asking me if I still want to do it later. Idk. Initially I thought this was just an awful thing. So, I decide to talk to her about it. We were sitting in her car (and just had one of those quick silent stares and a smile) then I told her in a very nice way that it bothers me when she does it. She said she is being honest, and that if she didn't want to spend time with me, then she wouldn't.
This would be her first relationship..ever. Probably the first guy she's ever even like flirted with or did anything dateish with. SO yea..thanks.
Haha..heres the question..
What do you think about this? Is she just being nice, or is she insecure? She mentioned to me one time how girls are not very self-confident..which was a surprise to me haha.
2007-03-15 12:32:20 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, i think that she is insecure. i mean if it is her first relationship, then she is kinda new and doesn't know what to do. Or maybe it is her parents. Maybe she really isn't allowed to date and always has to find a time where her parents aren't home or when she is for sure that they won't find out that she is going out with you to the movies or w/e. All i can say is good luck and if you really do like her, give her some time, don't just leave her like other guys who are jerks.
And, btw, if she said herself that girls are not very self-confident, maybe its just her excuse for being insecure. Because i know a lot of girls who are self-confident.
2007-03-15 12:44:31 · answer #1 · answered by Emmya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confirming a date does not equal insecurity. You have to understand that women are very detailed and we speak 5 times more words than the average man in a day, if not more. She may just want to make sure that the plans have not changed...that's all. You should appreciate her for being a nice person, because you could be dealing with the opposite...a drama queen.
2007-03-15 12:38:06 · answer #2 · answered by Fireanddesir 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay Dont worry she really does like u I been there, and Girls are a little afraid with there first real relationship especially when they really like the guy trust me she does like u alot. So she doesnt want to mess things up just take it slow and have fun shes a keeper. Dont Worry
2007-03-15 12:39:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a winner..LOL Not really. A girl who is self confident and independent will not always be a "yes" girl and cater to your every need. She is probably going to bug the hell out of you with her neediness and constant "niceness". Go find someone who isn't your doormat.
2007-03-15 13:04:16 · answer #4 · answered by asiansmile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay I was one of those girls. Basically it's insecurity because she's not used to somebody wanting to be with her the way you do. She wants to make sure YOU want to hang because she doesn't want to push you into something you don't want to do. This girl isn't just being nice. She likes you and doesn't want to push you away by being clingy.
2007-03-15 12:39:47 · answer #5 · answered by bhanphrionsa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋