Single Dad and I stole my daughters best friend's thong...?

Question

I'm a single father who is completely infatuated with my daughter’s best friend. Two months ago I stole her best friend's hot pink thong that I dug out of her over night case.

1) Should I give it back and if so, how?
2) Is it disrespectful If I asked her out on a private date without my daughter knowing?

Can I loose my daughters respect/friendship over this?

All - please not that 18, 19 is still considered teenager. Don't jump to conclusions..... Think before you respond.

All - please note that 18, 19 is still considered teenager. Don't jump to conclusions..... Think before you respond.

Answer 1

if you're serious, you are headed for trouble. no, don't give the thong back. get rid of it before your daughter finds out you took it. it is so creepy that you looked through her best friend's overnight case in the first place.

do not ask her friend out on a date. again, very creepy...and what, her best friend isn't going to tell her? not only will you lose your daughter's respect, you will lose her trust and much more. what would you do if the situation were reversed, and her best friend's father was after your daughter?

your daughter needs a mature, mentally healthy father as a good role model. you are her first protector in life. she doesn't need a friend or a predator for a parent. you're the one who needs some friends your own age.

seek some therapy before your inappropriate thoughts and behaviors develop into something you begin to act upon.

Answer 2

Ok, all this advice is assuming this girl is an adult, at least 18 but hopefully well over 18!!

No, don't give it back! Throw it out and pretend you never took it-she will think you are a freak!! Don't go through her stuff anymore. Don't tell your daughter. No girl needs to hear that about their dad!
No, do not ask her out without your daughter knowing. talk to your daughter first to see if she is ok with you asking, if she is not ok with it then don't ask!! The relationship with your daughter is more important. If you are old enough to be her father, she probably wont be interested anyway. Sorry

Answer 3

Infatuation is one thing. I know that my best friends Dad(he's married though!) is infatuated with me..and I just continue to flirt.
Acting on it, is another thing.

Do NOT give her back her panties, get rid of them- if that will help!

Also, how old is your daughter, how old is her friend?
Its best to NOTact on these feelings, unless she is at least 20. You don't want to embarass yourself if she gets freaked out, and if she's okay with it, you don't want to hurt your daughter. And finally, if she's not okay with it, your daughter could lose her as a best friend.

It is disrespectful to ask her out w/o your daughter knowing. IFyou are 100%serious about this though, try hinting around and flirting (not creepy old man style) and see if she reacts. A girl who feels the same way and is intrigued by an older man will most definately react. If she doesnt, drop it.
If she does, then hint to your daughter that you are ready to be dating and ask if she'd ever be weirded out by you getting involved with someone she is close with..
Honesty is the best policy.

As long as she is of age, and open minded, I see no problem with the situation!

Answer 4

Prepare for humiliation for both. That's pretty sick that you stole a girl's panties. I don't care how infatuated you are, that's twisted. I don't know how old this girl is, but if she's a minor, then you're only asking for trouble. Pretty much no girl will ever want to date a guy that's old enough to be her father. It's just not appealing. And more than likely, your daughter will be peeved beyond belief at you if she finds out any of this.

Answer 5

Don't give it back cause she may think that you are sick. Don't tell your daughter either. There's no reason for her to know. She may even start thinking that her dad is weird.

My suggestion is that you talk to your daughter and let her know that you really like her friend and let her tell you how she'd feel about you dating her friend. If she doesn't mind, then she may even help you by telling you the best way of approaching her friend.

If your daughter minds or her friend does not like you back, then suck up your pride and let it go.

Like I said before, keep the underwear thing a secret. What they don't know can't hurt them. But what they know can hurt you.

Answer 6

You were thong in taking it and maybe it was somehow dislodged from her bag and found its way somewhere like under the bed or couch. I think I would try to engineer a chance meeting with the girl and then approach the date bit keep in mind she is most likely aware that you have some awareness of her and show I like you tendencies.

Answer 7

dont give it back....she will think your gross....tell your daughter about what u did...then apologize...how old are you if your 20-30 then go for asking her out just if your 30 dont! 20-25 is the reasonable age...it will be wierd but if you have seirous feelings for her...then i guess go

but i would say no because if my father asked out my best friend and took her thong i would move out....im just that type of girl....what you did was disgusting...and you cant change time!

Answer 8

You're sick and I hope the girl is at least of appropriate age. No wait it's still sick. How can you look at someone the same age as your daughter and think of her in a sexual way!! You're sick and if you were my father you would completely lose my respect.

Answer 9

THIS MUST BE A JOKE!

How come on another question of yours you said that you were a SINGLE MOM, and now suddenly on this question you are a SINGLE DAD?

Are these just scenarios that you are asking just to see what people have to say?

Answer 10

no i dont think you should give it back. Put it at the bottom of a really stinky bag of trash. Then throw it away out side....dont tell your daughter or her friend. They will just think you are weird.