I want to start going back to church and stop drinking but my husband is at a different point in his life and he has no intentions of stopping partying or drinking anytime in the near future. We are both 21 years old and have two kids and I want to start living a better life now and I know he is nowhere near that point yet. I know I can go to church myself with my kids but I don't want to have to go at it alone. I want someone to be there to support me and bring me up when I fall and I would like to do the same for him. I love my husband very much but he is going through a stage right now that I have already gone through and would like to put in the past. I don't want to be living two totally seperate lives. I asked him to go to church with me and he doesn't want to...I know I can't force him and I am not going to try. I just don't know what to do. I am afraid if I go back to church it is just going to pull us apart.
2007-03-15 12:13:02 · 8 answers · asked by wifey 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
What you have to do is focus on YOU.
Trust me. I'm a Christian, my husband isn't. But because I've become so sweet and loving towards him, and have been so patient with him, he's coming closer. AND he sees how happy I am after I come home from church.
So go to church if that's what you want to do. Focus on YOUR walk, not on your husband's. Let him see the change in you. Lead him to God with love.
I'll keep you in my prayers. I know exactly how you feel!
2007-03-15 12:18:30 · answer #1 · answered by The_Cricket: Thinking Pink! 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you continue the lifestyle you have chosen so far, you are much more likely to pull apart, not only that you are much more likely to wreak havoc on your children.
Going to church is meaningless unless you are going to really learn about the great things God has in store for you.
This can change and you may just have to be very strong to get this ball rolling.
Start, know that God will honor you for it. Gather some believing women around you and let God worry about your husband.
2007-03-15 19:21:52 · answer #2 · answered by thankyou "iana" 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a really hard question.
Jesus tells us that we shouldn't divorce our spouse just because they are an unbeliever, if they are happy to stay. However, if they choose to leave, we are no longer under their burden and to remarry wouldn't be committing adultery.
My best advice would be to follow your heart. If you put God first, everything else would fall into place. If it was me, I would start going back to church and try to be an example of Christ's love to my husband. Show your husband that there is more out there than just drinking and partying. Best of luck to you!
2007-03-15 19:19:17 · answer #3 · answered by ◦Delylah◦ 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you're at different points in your lifes (gosh you're young!!) and you (and him) have your whole lives ahead. Don't force him to go to church but attend when you feel you need a little food for the soul, pray for him but don't pray expecting him to change overnight, pray that you continue to be a strong woman and mother while he maintains this struggle and once he sees the change in you , he'll be more inclined and inspired to change too. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-03-15 19:19:38 · answer #4 · answered by LIVINGmylife 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
convert to a religion that does not accept drunkenness or any alcohol. To prevent situations like this.
And to protect yourself and the people who cannot control their drinking..like your husband.
peace+love=happiness
2007-03-15 19:22:17 · answer #5 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are relying an awful lot on what YOU think and not so much on what GOD thinks. Pray. Ask God to give you guidance.
2007-03-15 19:18:54 · answer #6 · answered by gtahvfaith 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cannot and should not force him to go to church.
You should go to church and take your children.
Be a good example to him. do not nag or complain.
2007-03-15 19:23:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
or, maybe you will be an example to him and he will eventually come with you. Besides, you need to go for you, not him.
2007-03-15 19:18:21 · answer #8 · answered by Gardener for God(dmd) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋