Do yall think dis is normal?

Question

Ay yo, I am 17, I am on da varsity basketball team at school, and I have no friends at all (I don't know anybody at all neitha). At lunch, I just eat wit my back against da wall as I look at other people socializing and lookin happy (and dis makes me feel like I am useless, and it makes me feel like I don't have a life) And I have neva gotten a kiss, kissed a girl, I have neva had anything to do wit kissing anybody, I have neva been hugged, I have neva held hands, and I have neva even known a girl eva. Do yall think dat dis is normal fo a 17 year old guy on da varsity basketball team?

Answer 1

I am going to ignore the way you have written your question (try using the correct terminology- THIS, THE, etc.) Everyone is different with their relationship progression, some people go for years (as in until they are in their 20s and 30s) without experiencing what you have mentioned. It's nothing to be ashamed of UNLESS you are intentionally putting yourself in that position. Always make and effort in life, because it seems to me you are missing out on great opportunities. Disregard the fact that you are on the varsity basketball team for a moment- during lunch go and sit with sombody from one of the many classes you have in the day and say hello. I'm sure you've worked on projects and had to communicate with members of the opposite sex at some point. Taking into account your athletic status- why don't you sit with your teamates? I'm sure you guys spend hours communicating on the court- you might as well make the effort off the court, this could lead to party invites and more opportunities to communicate with girls. Being a wallflower will only hurt you in the long run. it sounds like you really want to hang out with the ladies so go ahead- whats the worst that can happen? They ignore you? There are more girls than boys (especially in our generation) so sooner or later you'll find the right one- good luck

Answer 2

normal----what is normal anyway! If you think its all about being on the basketball team and being popular you got another thing coming. When you get to the time in your life when high school is over ,none of this will be important because you will find that there is more to life than being someone THEY want you to be. So be yourself,relax and try to come out of your shell and have fun!

Answer 3

i'd devour form foodstuff considering that I had no urge for foodstuff. i'd get slightly of bread with butter, slightly of cheese (no longer a slice, a real piece from a block of cheese), a fruit and some style of veggie on the area. This replaced into my lunch daily. For a snack i'd devour veggie dip and broccoli or have a yogurt and a fruit. i could not abdomen meat a lot of my being pregnant, so i'm sorry i visit't grant you with advice on that. i'd have a starch, a meat or fish and veggie for dinner. I were given one risky snack an afternoon if I craved it. for sure this replaced into like exceedingly a lot 5 years in the past i replaced into pregnant and that i'm particular they have come out with new lists of 'don'ts', so examine those out, too.

Answer 4

It is absolutely normal for people on this site to write like extremely uneducated adolescents.
As for your real question, some people are late bloomers. You have low self-esteem and are a shy type. Think of a relationship like a basketball game and the girls are the ball.
GET THE BALL !!!!! (but don't steal it from someone else. That would be bad.))) :)

Answer 5

Normal is as normal does. If this feels normal to you than it is. If however you are unhappy it might be time to make some changes in your life. Have you ever been invited to hang out with anyone from your team? Why do you think no one hangs out with you? Is it because they don't like you or because you've pushed them away. Those are the questions you should be asking yourself.

Answer 6

First of all if you knew how to talk properly you would get a date.!!. U sound like your a little slow. Second, U need to focus on school and not girls.. Girls and books dont mix. I hope that the way you speak is not the way you act!!. There are actually girls out there that like guys that know how to talk and carry themselves like adults.. Maybe you need to focus on who you really are and make some changes to make yourself a better person to become a productive adult.

Answer 7

this is normal...
i meet people that are older then you but the same problem, but they turned out ok...my friend nancy works for GUCCI and DOONEY AND BURKE, and my other friend jason is now a doctor...so its normal to be isolated from the social world but its bad for you social health...everyone needs people in their lives so since you're on the b-ball team, you can make alot of friends just by talking to them...i used to be like this too until i started talking to people and now i'm preety popular at my school... talking to a couple people will lead to more and more friends and who knows...maybe theres a girl out there for you...[:

Answer 8

there are many reasons for hang no friends. you could be nervous to meet people, you could decide not to have any friends. it sounds like u just don't know how. you could start talking to the guys on your team, start being friendlier, and then gradually become friends. i met alot of my close friends by having lots of acquaintances. i think u just need to be a little friendlier, and take the initiative to make friends.
you have to be a friend to have a friend.

Answer 9

dont take this the wrong way, but it may be because of your language? I hope you dont talk the way you write. I am not trying to be nasty or anything, but you may be coming acrossed as nasty, conceeded, or just plain unfriendly. Try opening up to others, and TALK NORMALLY!! da sounds like homer simpon talking, you get what I mean? Dont try and be cool, just be yourself and you will get friends.

Answer 10

I don;t think its normal for anyone to use "yo", "da" and "neva" in the same paragraph.