This is an odd question. A friend and I have known each other for 4 years. And I do not know how it happened but we fell in love and started dating. The problem is I am 19 and she is 16. Now we are not having sex nor are we going to. We have talked about it and, she said she will wait until she turn 18. But should we even be dating?
2007-03-15 11:58:04 · 10 answers · asked by burn409 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The question is not if it is legal or not, as long as we are not having sex it is legal. The question is is it morally right or is she to young?
2007-03-15 12:04:32 · update #1
You can't help who you fall in love with. And at those ages, it isn't that far a part. If you are serious about her then why not wait, I'm not saying break up but just wait for the sex or you'll get in trouble. When she is 18 you will be 21 and that is OK. I think go for it and see what happens.
2007-03-15 12:03:17 · answer #1 · answered by Karen A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In some states because you are considered an adult at 19, it is illegal to be sexually active with a minor. But really 3 years is not a big gap to be worried about as long as your willing to wait to take the relationship to another level. My husband and I are 9 years apart. He is older than me. I don't see a problem with the age difference as long as you are respecting her decision to wait. Since you have been friends for so long is seems you truly do care for her so I feel that dating is fine....unless her parents have a problem with it. If they do you may want to consider waiting till she's a little older.
2007-03-15 12:09:09 · answer #2 · answered by cheri_anne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i actually have had the same problem i was datin a guy that was 20 and i'm 16 and some people may think i'm wrong but i don't think it matters if u guy's arent havin sex i don't think it matters if u guy's really like each other go for it and see how thing turn out and if u guy's do have sex not sayin that u will but if u do just keep it quiet
2007-03-16 03:22:40 · answer #3 · answered by ~~Ashleii Marii~~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No harm in dating. Keep in mind that there is a different outlook on relationships between your two ages. You would be smart to postpone sexual activity, a legal problem after a breakup would be your problem to handle. That is not to say that a breakup will occur, it is just always smart to keep trouble out of your life.
2007-03-15 12:09:53 · answer #4 · answered by brenda c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is a good idea. It is OK to be friends but this person is older and has a more developed Brain. Meaning you could be easily manipulated. Though I am not you mom and you are going to do what you want. Just be careful.
2007-03-15 12:07:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not even legal, is it?
But if u guys really love each other, go for it.
2007-03-15 12:02:14 · answer #6 · answered by Dr Fernando 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's fine that you are going out. As long as u are truly in love what's the harm?
2007-03-15 12:01:48 · answer #7 · answered by Shelby N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh, if you like the girl, then you should be dating her. Is sex all that matters to you?
2007-03-15 12:01:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no dont she too young shee cant handel it you'll break her haert if something goes wrong espically since you've known her so long
2007-03-15 12:03:16 · answer #9 · answered by ??????????? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if u are in luv then u should stay together
2007-03-16 03:37:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋