Me and my boyfriend are both over 19 and still virgins. We are really close and have decided 'its right'. We have gone on holiday together and tried to have sex, and have tried many times since then. It always goes really well right up until the point 'he goes in me' it all just stops- just like that. Is it me, I’m not sure what to do or confidant to do it. What could help because its not close and intermit anymore, just horrid and embarrassing, it just doesn’t seem to be happening for us.! Any ideas?
2007-03-15 11:47:37 · 14 answers · asked by Bex 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Me and my boyfriend are both over 19 and still virgin’s. It feels right for us to start having sex, I completely trust him and feel that I want to. We have tried lots of times, foreplay goes really well until its time for him to go 'in me' and its all over,( he goes limp) .! Its so embarrassing for both of us. We both really want to do it because its a loving connection we want to make. I could understand the first time we tried because of nerves, but its been a while now, its not intermit or close anymore, but horrid and unromantic. Any Ideas anyone?
2007-03-15 12:05:02 · update #1
Some guys aren't all that rigid. And many of them can have great sexual intercourse anyway.
And in many case it's an attack of nerves.
Finally, once the condom goes on there's a LOT less stimulation, and some guys need more ongoing stimulation than that.
I suggest that you two give the intercourse a break, and get active in things like oral sex. Not only will you learn about each other's responses, you'll each learn about your OWN responses.
Then try again with the intercourse!
2007-03-15 14:52:31 · answer #1 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you saying he goes limp?? If so, sounds like he's nervous. Poor guy! lol The bad experiences prolly aren't helping his confidence. Just tell him not to worry, and that there is no reason to be embarassed. Soon enough he will not be so stressed out, and it will all work out.
2007-03-15 11:52:40 · answer #2 · answered by phxchik07 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just embarrassed. Help him. The more he feels comfortable and your not judging him the easier it will be. The first time is always hard.
2007-03-15 12:04:28 · answer #3 · answered by casper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow... that sucks... I don't get it...
If it was with me... we would have done it the very first try... because up until that point... that's all I would be thinking about... so it would have been amazing all that anticipation... I would have ravaged you...
maybe your guy needs a bigger pair? I'm lost? I think most guys would feel the same... it's not you... the guys weird.
2007-03-15 11:53:51 · answer #4 · answered by David 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to sound vulgar, but why don't you just try some oral sex until you are both comfortable with each other and then move on to intercourse. Or just use your hands.
2007-03-15 11:53:59 · answer #5 · answered by samootch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds that u r a guy too? r u both guys? if u r a girl im sorry, i didnt really understand whats going on....if u r scared,dont be...it should hurt THAT bad,just a little bit.
2007-03-15 11:55:57 · answer #6 · answered by Mystery_gal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not time
2007-03-15 11:50:21 · answer #7 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're lacking the boat. adult men want romance, only as much as females. possibly a number of them only have a humorous way of exhibiting it, reason they enable their sexual stress override ordinary experience.
2016-10-18 11:48:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow at 19 hes having hard on problems....he just nervous help him work it back up and go for it again
2007-03-15 11:51:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep trying, what do u mean it stops? He's not up anymore? thats not your fault. it comes natural.
2007-03-15 11:50:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋