Am about 5 weeks pregnant, had a weekend rendevous with a guy, we are not together and are just friends, but am now pregnant, i'm having an abortion but do I still tell the guy that I'm pregnant and what I'm doing about it or should I just leave him out of it?
2007-03-15 11:43:27 · 16 answers · asked by heavensent090502 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
To let you all know, I told him (stupid mistake) and he now wants nothing to do with me, he doesn't even want to talk to me ever again. He said it isn't his problem so goodbye. Thnks for all your advice. It seems I took the wrong advice.
2007-03-17 21:13:54 · update #1
If you were married, and you planned on sharing the rest of your life with this man, then this is the type of decision you should make together.
If he were just a boyfriend and may not even be AROUND to be a real father 10 years from now, then I would say he still should not be involved in this decision, which will effect every second of YOUR life forever.
A weekend rendezvous??? No way, do not tell him. You made a mistake, don't complicate it with another mistake. DNA does not make a man a father.
Take care of this yourself, and take a vow to be more responsible. At least keep some Plan B on hand.
Good luck.
2007-03-15 12:20:22 · answer #1 · answered by who me? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very hard question! I personally really feel like you should tell the father because he may want the baby. It is his baby as much as it is yours even though it is in your body its his child. Make sure you really want this abortion and do some research on it. Also research how people handle it AFTER they have had an abortion. Some go through regret and depression. If you are dead set on having the abortion and you know for a fact that you are 100% sure and nothing will change your mind and you do not tell him I would not tell him AFTER the fact. But... I really think you should talk to him, though. He is your friend, right? Good Luck.
2007-03-15 18:54:11 · answer #2 · answered by jon jon's girl 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not telling him about this child is not fair to him. His DNA helped in creating this child. Abortions are not a easy fix. You think it is now, but your only kidding yourself.
Just friends, just anything, he has the right to know that a child has been created! This child did not ask to be created! Your being selfish, there are people in this world who cannot have a child naturally and would most likely LOVE to adopt this child too! Think it over!
2007-03-15 18:52:09 · answer #3 · answered by PSYCHO DAISY MAE 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I totally think you should tell him, like they already said abortion is NOT a form of birth control. He has the right to know. I myself would never have an abortion! Good luck!
2007-03-15 19:05:20 · answer #4 · answered by Claudia-Elena's Mommy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He has the right to know.. and if he wants the child he can make sure you do not abort it. How about Adoption.. you can respect yourself alot more if you let the baby live a life.. you got pregnant for a reason and I am sure it was not to kill it.
2007-03-15 18:52:40 · answer #5 · answered by luvthbaby2 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He is the father and has a right to know. Abortion is not birth control consider adoption or keep your legs closed in the future.
2007-03-15 18:47:45 · answer #6 · answered by J&A 3 · 9⤊ 1⤋
depends on your age..if you have already made up your mind and booked in for the procedure, tell him about it. Why you made the choice, and hopefully he'll support you and be there for you the way my bf was for me in my time of need. Good luck honey . A word of advice, talk to someone about it, even a counsellor, coz you may not think anything of it now, but believe me in 20 years time you'll still be thinking about it.....
2007-03-15 18:53:18 · answer #7 · answered by mamabear_45 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
it a question of morals but i thik you should tell him abortion is hard and emotionally draining you may want to have him there to support you and who knows maybe if you have his support you might want to keep this baby
2007-03-15 18:52:29 · answer #8 · answered by infinate_angel 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I went through that with my husband. It is only right to tell him and see if he wants to keep the baby.
2007-03-15 18:51:39 · answer #9 · answered by nancyshannon53406 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
yes he does have the rigth to know.. personally i also think he should help in making the desision of wheter or not you abort it is he's baby too!!
2007-03-15 18:50:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋