my 3 yr old wont stop wetting herself?

Question

if you put carly in a nappy she fine but wont wer it so i puther back in pants which she loves and shewets herself again
we also have a few poos in them and she does it at pre-school to which they are complaining about but shes fully potty trained and love the big gurl loo but how can i stop thishelp please

she is potty trained she just cant be botherd to usethe loo

Answer 1

Hi i know how you feel. I would watch my sisters kids and they would not stop it. They knew where to go but never did, so i tried a lil experiment. I bought some really cheap candy and toys. they kind that dont last that long and get lost easy.

I told them every time they used the potty they got a toy or candy. At that age they get excited about lil things so that helped. start mixing is good girl and praising her alot when she goes, after awhile she will forget the treat system and use the bathroom on her own.
On school dont you have other ages to start as well? Is the youngest age to start 3 or can you wait a lil more to start her. CAuse the school system cantolerate a few accidents but constantly no they wont. So you may have just started to early for the school. Here you can start at 4 or 5. They could possibly tel you to keep her home until she is trained if they wont tolerate it anymore.

Answer 2

You can buy training nappies that pull on like pants. Put her in these. Then explain to her that when she is a big girl she wont need big pants as she will use the toilet. Then dont mention it to her again except when you change her.. I f she soils the pants -fine. change them. Dont sit her on the potty throughout the day. Leave her. Sooner or later she will either sit herself on the potty or come to you and say I want to be a big girl now.
Putting children under pressure to perform can create anxiety which affects there abiloity to hold on and sometimes it becomes a sort of challenge between child and parent and conflict of wills.

Answer 3

Don't let her see you get upset with this, praise when she done good, how much are you giving her to drink? and when are you giving her a drink, also what? I know with my kids, and girls seem to be worse for some reason, but i cut down on the drinks towards bedtime, and school time, I'm not saying don't give her any but watch the amount, and when you give it, also make sure you give her plenty on time on the potty have some fun with her whilst she is on, don't just leave her, and no matter how much if she does anything in the potty make a big fuss about it, what a big girl she is, it just takes time, and don't worry about the school if they don't like it take her else where

Answer 4

please do not spank her..and i notice you removed your earlier question which was really disturbing! by doing that you will create an even bigger problem as you will be putting cruel pressure on her at an early age. maybe try a star chart..every time she goes to the toilet or stays dry at preschool give her a star and when she has five, allow her a small treat as an incentive.. all children are different and do things when they are emotionally and physically ready to.. the more stressed and impatient she sees you become the more it will hold her back. please try to be patient and carefree about it and she will be too.. i know it can be extremely trying time as i have a 3year old who has only just become completely dry and has had a few accidents at preschool too. but it does not worry me as he hates to be wet or messy and is quickly getting the hang of going to the loo to avoid it. i tell him that it is not good to go in your pants and next time he must use the loo or no stars and he understands and now knows to use the loo to get the star. good luck xx

Answer 5

Just be patient and give her lots of praise when she gets it right. Don't make too much of the odd slip, after all she's only three.

My dear old Grandma used to tell me... "when baby's ready, baby will" What she was trying to say was that Children are individuals and develop different skills at different times. You shouldn't compare Carly to any other children because they are all different. Maybe she can read or paint better than the other kids.

Above all, Don't give up Show her how much you love her

Answer 6

she is trying to control the situation... you say she doesn't like diapers but yet she does not pee or poo in them, however she does pee and poo in her pants... well you have to take control.... put her in the diapers and tell her she has to wear them because big girls don't go in there pants... make her were the diapers even when she throws a fit... she will soon understand that if she wants to were big girl pants then she can't pee in them... it doesn't sound like she is fully potty trained yet... she has to know that you mean business...

Answer 7

No more diapers. only big girl underwear. Reward the good. When she has an accident tell her she has to go potty but dont punish. have patience. be consitant. She will get it sooner or later and wether its sooner or later depends on her.

Answer 8

She possibly can't be bothered to use the bathroom ,she is being lazy . If there is nothing bothering her at pre-school and she is toilet trained ( is she really) I would tell her she is not going to school unless she is able to go to the bathroom. Did she ever have a bad experience in the bathroom that has frightened her ,she is only three .

Answer 9

Maybe you need to give her an incentive. Or take her to the bathroom whether she wants to go or not. If you interrupt her playtime when she is occupied she might just get the picture. She is 3 so she is manipulating you to see how far she can get.. Obviously it is working.

Answer 10

I used the m & m method. Go in the potty and get an m&m