Could you forgive someone who killed your loed one?

Question

Just want to share info when i get enough replie's.

I lost my brother,sister and father to murder and plenty to suicede.And i hated till it almost cost me my life cause i wanted to end it as well as those others.But i learned to forgive by constantly praying and believing in good.And i believe the Lord helped me immensly.Thank you Lord

Answer 1

"To err is human to forgive divine"
"Forgiveness is the fragrance a violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it" And I will leave you with this.
The prayer of St. Francis says it best............

Lord, make me an instrument of your peace,
Where there is hatred, let me sow love;
where there is injury, pardon;
where there is doubt, faith;
where there is despair, hope;
where there is darkness, light;
where there is sadness, joy;
O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled as to console;
to be understood as to understand;
to be loved as to love.
For it is in giving that we receive;
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned;
and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.

Answer 2

Well first let me say it is hard.... I have a daughter that would have been turning 19 this June but she was killed at 5 1/2 by a drunk driver and I was 8 months pregnant with my Son. who is now 13. It took several years for me to be able to forgive him but when I did it was as if a heavy burden was lifted off my chest.. I couldn't breathe grief and hate had really connsummed me. But now I am beginng to chip away at the pain and heal. this past year I even had a cake made for her Eighteen birthday and all my Family celebrated and tried to imagine what she would be preparing for if she were here. But we also thatnked GOD that he is a forgiving and Merciful GOD and He brought me out of a very dark place. ANd now I thank GOD for every day that I have with my Son and I never leave without saying I love you... I pray for you and what you may be going through... YOu are in my prayers.....

Answer 3

I would try my best to forgive them, not so much for their sake as much as it would be for mine. Carrying around hurt and anger doesn't help you heal. Forgiveness helps you move on. I don't think it is possible to forget, but forgiveness clears the anger and hurt that keeps the events fresh in yor mind. Forgiving someone for killing a loved one isn't a betrayal to their memory. Remember the good times with your loved ones and don't let their death overshadow the great things about their life. Live your life happy and to its fullest because life is precious and that will be a great honor to the memory of your loved ones. Take it a day at a time and your faith will help and your church can help you as well. Be strong.

Answer 4

That’s a tough one. Ideally I would like to do it, if it happened to me, just to get on with my life and not harbor any bad feelings, but I’m not sure if I would be able to. I’ve heard stories about people forgiving the killers for killing their parent, brother, wife etc. and I think it’s a great thing to do- show them that you are better than them in a way, but I don’t think I could do it.

Answer 5

Yes you can; it may take a while to let all that anger out; but yes you should be able to forgive someone that kill someone even if it hurts inside! You dont have to be friends with that someone but it is always good to not hold grudges; and to learn and forgive; even tho it might be hard...what happened???

Answer 6

we have to forgive to be forgiven. even though you may not feel like you can the word says we dont walk by the way we feel but we have to do what god instucted us to do and that is forgive our enemies , i believe that even though we dont feel it if we pray about it and speak that we forgive that person often enough then the feeling of forgiveness will come. i know your head is saying there is no way but i can assure you that your heart if its a heart after god is saying yes forgive them because unforgiveness is harder on you that it is on them.

Answer 7

boy, that's tough. depends on the circumstance. murder? never in a million years - i would see that they were put in jail for the rest of their lives and make sure they were reminded every day of the life they took.

but there are circumstances - there are accidents that are purely accidents that you can't blame someone for, and if you find it in your heart to forgive them, that shows you are a strong and kind person with a lot of things that are right inside of you that aren't right inside of a lot of people.

Answer 8

All should be forgiven...however it is very hard to forget. Once you release the anger with forgiveness it makes forgiving feel good.

Answer 9

Well, some people can, but it takes a strong person to do that and forgiveness rarely happens.

Answer 10

I wouldn't is I were you...I mean they killed someone that you loved very dearly. Don't Do It!!!