Since we were little, she has always gone into my room and taken stuff without my permission. My mom made her promise she wouldn't do it again, but of course she would. When we both got into high school, it finally stopped. But now all of a sudden, it has started again. She makes excuses like "well I needed it for this one thing, and I was going to put it back" I've asked her many times to not take my stuff without my permission, but she still does it. She's almost 23 years old, shouldn't she understand that she shouldn't take my stuff?
2007-03-15 11:11:52 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
she is my older sister (i'm 20) and it's not clothes, oddly enough. It's stuff like magazines that she wants to read and scissors, and stupid little stuff like that, but really it's the principle of the thing
2007-03-15 11:32:11 · update #1
She is old enough to understand that she is violating your space. Remind her about respecting your belongings and your space and continue to do so until she gets the point. If that doesn't work, put the things away that she continues to borrow and that way she will not have easy access to them. Good Luck!
2007-03-15 11:17:47 · answer #1 · answered by Million C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have three little sisters and we are all grown. I'm the oldest at 26 the youngest is 22. They still come into my house and take things without asking. It's so bad that I do a bag check before they leave. I guess they feel since I'm the oldest sister that what's mine is theirs since they have been getting my hand-me downs all their lives. I deal with it by not getting too upset. If they come in and want clothes I go with them into my closet and help them pick one or two items I don't wear that often out. It also gives me an excuse to buy more clothes since I'll probably never see it again. Just act like adults because it's never going to stop.
2007-03-15 11:21:49 · answer #2 · answered by GirlsDeadMonster 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't know why she does that... my sister's 12, and she's always taken my stuff too. It's mind-boggling, because I tell her that if she'd just asked me, she could have borrowed it.
I guess you can try to explain it to her again... and if she still doesn't get it, refuse to let her anywhere near your stuff. She's can't come over to your house/apartment/whatever... or if you live with her, refuse to allow her into your room, or to use anything you own (even a tv or something). Maybe then she'll get it.
I wish I could help more!
2007-03-15 11:18:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 22:31:13 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She looks up to you. It's really annoying but you should take it as a form of flattery. Someday you will look back at this and laugh.
My sister is 9 years older than me and when I lived with her a few years ago, she used to come into my room and take my stuff ALL THE TIME, and she used to say "but your clothes are cooler than mine, I admire your taste" so as annoying as it was it was flattering to. I still find things of mine that she took in her house when I visit her.
It could be worse.
2007-03-15 11:23:03 · answer #5 · answered by Honestly 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes. she should be able to understand. she should also understand that she needs to ask for permission before taken somebody else's stuff. Talk to her and/or your mom about it. You can also try putting a lock on your door or something.
2007-03-15 11:18:22 · answer #6 · answered by KU! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people just don't care and it sounds like your sister is one of them. put a lock on your door and if this doesn't work then i would look for another place to live. if your are to young to move out then i would have another talk with mom and just let her know that if your sister doesn't respect your things then you will have to take further action
2007-03-15 11:22:38 · answer #7 · answered by halcry_4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it`s difficult.. very hard.. I had the same problem.. but now I don`t have it anymore.. my sister.. the girl that always was taking my new clothes, put on my new shoes, used my makeup..ate my food... yeah.. she.. was diagnosed with cancer.. and it changes our relationship a lot.. now.. we`re the best friends.. she`s still the same.. (they never change..) I think it`s part of their personality.. tobe like that, but now I love every day that she`s with me, unfortunately she had to travel to treat her disease, now we are separated, but closer than ever.. I hope this helps to you.. love your sister.. it doesn`t matter how is she..it`s better to have one sister that no one..!
2007-03-15 11:18:45 · answer #8 · answered by JEAN B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats what sister's do, when she moves away or when you do, believe me, you will miss her going into your room and taking your stuff. I moved out of my parents house last year, and now i miss my sister soo much, even though i used to complain about her brattiness all the time.
2007-03-15 11:15:28 · answer #9 · answered by Bubba 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to go shopping, lol.
Clearly she's taking your stuff to make herself look decent and wants your stuff cuz she doesnt like anything of her own. She's probably extremely used to taking your stuff and she probably thinks its okay now just cuz you're both older.
2007-03-15 11:17:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋