My fiance and I have been living together for 8 years. My fiance's father had some problems with his wife, she is an alcohloic and can't keep a job. We live in a duplex and when the duplex next door bacame availible my fiance's father and family moved in, but it elimitated 2 children, one move in with a friend and the other ended up movining in with my fiance and I. My fiance's brother has been living with us for over 6 months and has only paid 200 dollars. Meanwhile we are struggling with the bill increase. I now work 2 jods and my fiance has one demanding manager job. I 've asked my fiance to talk to his brother about paying something and doing his share around the house. He also has no car so we end up picking him up from work and he never offers gas money. I want to be fair about things but he only makes minimum wadge. I thought 1/3 of all house bills is fair but that would put him at a little over 300 and he makes about 500 a month. is that being fair? any advice?
2007-03-15 11:04:23 · 6 answers · asked by confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
be prepared for some whining and complaints, as you have let him sponge off you for this long, Just tell him you can not afford to keep him so either pay or leave, it is that simple, you can only be walked on if you lay down.
2007-03-15 11:49:55 · answer #1 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you own the duplex that you live in? If so sell it and move on with your life, If not then find a place to live with your fiance that is just you and your finace so that you two can work on your live together. Don't let your fiance's family tell you and your fiance how to live your life. You guys have to do what is best for you.
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The fiance's brother needs to get a better job. You are working 2 jobs maybe he should get another one and pay his share. I would cost him much more to live on his own. 300.00 is not alot to ask.
Good Luck
2007-03-15 11:11:08 · answer #2 · answered by justwondering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is your husbands brother? If he is of age and is not in school then yes you are totally correct. If you have to work 2 jobs to make ends meet and he isn't contributing than something is wrong. Maybe if he contributes more you could lessen your workload and be able to relax a little more. It sounds like your husband's brother is doing all the relaxing and you and your husband are doing all the work.PS-You don't owe him anything you are giving him a safe place to live and that is enough!
2007-03-15 11:24:09 · answer #3 · answered by cat12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um...i think of somebody's fiance is attempting to tug the wool over your eyes....it is ridiculous! to truly inform you that she "has to stay living as a roommate in the comparable domicile as him, so as that their grandchildren could have a"'known'" Christmas? what's 'known' approximately that??? confident, it extremely is unquestionably known so you could be indignant approximately this. i'm making of venture that she isn't divorced from him. i might ask to work out the divorce decree considering the shown fact that sound like bullshi* to me. chuffed holiday trips!
2016-10-02 04:38:44 · answer #4 · answered by nicholls 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If in fact he is an adult...that is not an unreasonable amount of money to ask for seeing as you are the taxi also. If he refuses evict him.
2007-03-15 11:23:54 · answer #5 · answered by Million C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good luck...
2007-03-15 11:27:24 · answer #6 · answered by sayasyoulike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋