My 3 yr old son complains that this one child at daycare keeps hitting him?

Question

i told him to tell his teacher and not to play with him anymore and if he had to, then hit him back.was this the right advice.

Answer 1

Ha i love it when a parent says "don't condone violence". if your kid is gettin hit in school heck yeah tell him to hit back. my son is 17 months old and he would never hit anyone first but his father and i are the type that believes if someone has the balls even if they are a girl to hit you first whoop their *** so they'll leave you alone. i even get snickers from parents occasionally if we're around other kids and one hits my son and runs to tell me. i tell him to turn his butt around and whoop that little kids ***. just remember you won't always be there and if your kid need to defend himself he should never be made to feel like that is wrong.

Answer 2

I think that is the right advice. He should try and work it out first - tell a teacher, use his words - "Don't hit me, I don't like it when you do that" etc - if that doesn't work then I don't see anything wrong with your son hitting the other child back - IF he's done all the other things and the child is still hitting. Good luck to you!

Answer 3

telling your child to hit isn't good, but my son (now 7) has always had a problem sticking up for himself. he's come home from school with marks on his body (bruises and stuff from being hit by the other kids) and i just told him to tell the teacher and if need be, then yes to hit. i let him know that if he got in trouble for it, i'd deal with it when i picked him up. i finally got so angry with the whole thing that i talked to the teacher myself and also the parent of the child. let's just say that i know where the kid got it from (the parent wasn't much of a role model).

i would definitely talk with the teacher and if it continues, change daycares.

Answer 4

Yeah tell him to hit him back!! LOL No I'm kidding. If your child hits him back then it is going to be your son to get in trouble. Talk to the teacher and let her know that you don't like it or maybe even talk to the parents of the other child.

Answer 5

Personally I dont think that was the right advice. I know your trying to teach your child to stick up for himself, but at just 3 years old, its a little early for this lesson.

I think you should speak to the teachers at day care and explain what is happening. They would have procedures in place to discipline children at the centre and this child who is hitting your son deserves to be shown just what they are.

I know when its your "baby" its hard not to get mad, but the most sensible action here would be to take it to the teachers, and if you dont get any satisfaction there, wait till the other childs parent comes to pick him up and speak with them.

Answer 6

NO - my husband told my son to defend himself because he was getting picked on. I did not know this message was relayed to him and generally, I would say that's okay. But in school, if you hit or slap, even if you are 4 years old, you are a bully and a bad child and don't think the teacher and principle will let it slide - they will call you in and have a big meeting about it. A child stepped on my childs hand, but because my child was seen pushing him down, even though you could see the shoe marks on his hand, he got in trouble.

Answer 7

No, if your child is being hit at school then it should be brought to the attention of the care givers. In other words YOU should go to the care giver in charge and tell them that your son has been complaining that another child keeps hitting him and that you would like the issue resolved.

Answer 8

I would tell my son to hit the kid back too just for some self-respect and honor. where was the daycare person? Tell her to watch your son!!!
Just some warnings though. Be careful of any racism going on. if the boy who is hitting your kid is white- it could be because of race issues. talk to the caregiver about that. there is nothing worse than your son having to deal with racists at his age!

Answer 9

Yup thats good advice, His him back! Then the other kid will learn that hitting kids has consequences, like at home. Most little bullies smack all the kids around and the kids just take it, but if one of them hits back, he'll learn to stop, Just make sure you teach him never to hit girls no matter if they are bullies or not.

Answer 10

Talk to the Director and teacher at the preschool and make them aware of this. Maybe they can change the other child to another class or rely this to the child's parent's so they can tell thir child that what he/she is doing is not right.