it will be an outside wedding. i have seen family wear jeans for a wedding. but i also dont want to offend anyone. just want it to look semi-formal but comfortable.
2007-03-15 10:39:27 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
all your answers have helped me alot!! we both have a farmers in our family and i know some of them would be more comfortable in jeans. but it would be nice to see everyone we love look nice since we're hardly together for a big day like this.
2007-03-16 04:42:13 · update #1
Garden Party Attire!?! there is such a thing called semi-formal, our wedding!!
2007-03-16 04:48:28 · update #2
Even though it is an outside wedding, I understand that you don't want that farmer jeans look with the plaid shirt. It is so gross. But because it is a semi formal wedding, you cannot say "formal dress" on the invitation. An idea is that try to get the word out before the wedding that you would appreciate people not coming in jeans. It is a little hint, and it will get through the grapevine. Make sure the invitations are formal looking, and that also will be a form of a hint that this is no cowboy/cowgirl wedding bash..it is a semi formal outdoor wedding and appropriate dress is appreciated.
2007-03-15 10:49:41 · answer #1 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as semi-formal. There is formal, informal, and casual.
If it is outside on a lawn, you may put the words "Garden Party Attire" at the bottom of your invitations to indicate that women should not wear heels b/c they will sink in the dirt-- it's a safety issue.
But by etiquette, you really can't tell people what NOT to wear-- it is not polite to mandate what people wear to your event. You just have to trust them to know that even an informal wedding is "dressy." The only things you can say are Black Tie to indicate formal, or like I said above, something that they need to know for safety reasons.
ETA: No, actually, semi-formal is a made-up nonsense term which etiquette does not recognize. Something is either formal, or informal, or casual. There is no semi-formal. You are planning an oudoor, informal wedding. However denim is not informal-- it is CASUAL and it would be inappropriate for someone to wear denim to an informal wedding.
2007-03-16 04:40:14 · answer #2 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe put it in the invites if you have not already sent them out..or if you have RSVP on them for those people who do RSVP send a letter back say that this is a semi-formal wedding and the groom and bride request that no denim be worn on our special day love what ever you guy's name is. Also if those people are aprt of your family and you probably did not send them an invite to save postage cause they new they were already coming, as you make plans and they are around you say " i can not wait for the wedding everyone is going to look so pretty in their dresses and tuxs" Say that a lot so even if they have the though of " i am going to weat those dark wash jeans" once they hear you say that sentence over and over they will get the idea and say I have to go get a dress or a tux.
2007-03-15 10:48:22 · answer #3 · answered by Danielle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow!! Jeans at a wedding?!?! Unless it is denim themed, that is a big no-no!! You can always put a note on the bottom of your invitations that says "Semi-formal attire requested" ... that way there is no question at to what you're looking for (or not).
2007-03-15 11:42:18 · answer #4 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Been to lots of weddings; never-ever saw anyone in jeans.
On the invitation, in the lower left corner where the info on the reception is, just include the words "Semi-formal dress code"
2007-03-15 11:06:28 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
May I suggest that in the invitation you list attire as semi-formal. Don't be surprised if someone comes in denim. For some folks pressed jeans are formal attire.
2007-03-15 10:44:06 · answer #6 · answered by david42 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Write semi-formal on the invitations and put out the word that you expect people to dress properly.
2007-03-15 10:43:16 · answer #7 · answered by notyou311 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I hope people know better to wear formal wear to a wedding, unless told otherwise.
2007-03-15 11:07:04 · answer #8 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not rude to state on your invitations that you want a more formal attire. Don't be afraid to tell your guests that they may wear what ever they want, but denim is not welcome. It's your wedding after all, and if you don't want something a certain way, your guest should be able to accommodate.
2007-03-15 10:45:29 · answer #9 · answered by devious805er 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't put anything about dress on your invitations You can make your dress request on the R.S.V.P. card. You'll find on your wedding day, it really won't matter. You probably won't even notice. Hey, they may be the ones that give you $200. If this is going to upset you, and you don't think they will change, don't invite them. It's a reflection on them, not you.
2007-03-15 18:04:31 · answer #10 · answered by Pat C 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋