I'm forty -- five years old, and I've never been married . I feel insulted and offended that not one of the women I've known has wanted me to be her husband . Am I wrong for feeling this way ? If I shouldn't feel this way, why not ? Why is it wrong ? If Jimmy Jerk and Andy the Abuser won't let themselves be unattached, why should I ? I hate being single .
2007-03-15 10:39:26 · 14 answers · asked by I_hate_being_single 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
there is a perfect someone for evryone -do not be insulted i am 30 yrs old and still not married-ENJOY YOUR LIFE-she will come when it is time
2007-03-15 10:44:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have much room to talk because I'm not as old as you or as experienced as you but ...it sounds like you haven't invested enough in yourself...you still seem to be unsure of yourself and the choices you make or have made...in my opinion it's a little late in the game for that...
If you're willing to take advise from a young 27 year old....I would write down all of the positive qualities you have...Whatever they may be...anything you view as a positive quality and post each quality in a different place in your home where you know you will see it almost everyday ...this will give you some personal affirmation and great help your self esteem ...then write down the things that you want most in your life and place them in a spot where you can see it and look at it everyday...this will keep your eyes on the prize...before you know it you'll be a changed man...
Good luck...
2007-03-15 10:53:33 · answer #2 · answered by Dave B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're still single coz you're thinking that way. I mean that doesn't mean that the women you know doesnt like you can make you feel bad about yourself. Why not go for someone who doesn't know you much? Find someone else that you would find interesting with, try to build something with that someone, exert effort (it's necessary), give time and have the confidence. Dont push yourself much though, just do it smoothly, I know it's easier said than done, but hey dont feel so down and too old, better yet have a young heart, by that your way of thinking would make you look and feel young. Positive aspects in life helps in doing something. In conclusion, dont get stucked up with the women around you, try to move around, you'll never know...GOODLUCK!
2007-03-15 10:46:22 · answer #3 · answered by mushy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should be proud you are not settling. Dont let society get to ya man. I was almost single for all my years. I just settled this past year and it lasted a whole MONTH!!! you know why.......Cuz I SETTLED!!!! I too started to feel the pressure from society that single makes you a nothing, but the truth be told, it makes you stronger on holding out for the one best for you. You just have to learn to know yourself first and enjoy yourself before you invite or accept invitation of a forever thing. Read that book out better single than sorry. It has a lot of feed back from people who are older and single, divorcies and married people. Hope it helps.
2007-03-15 10:47:19 · answer #4 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your situation and it's a difficult feeling. I'm not sure what to tell you. I wish I had a magic answer, but I can only offer my empathy and remind you that you're not the only guy who feels this way. Those words might be comforting, but I know they don't do too much to help fix your situation. It's all I've got, though.
2007-03-15 10:44:18 · answer #5 · answered by Eastern US Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been given married at 32. My husband did no longer prefer to get married. He replaced into afraid of dedication. it must be that the girls you have dated are afraid of dedication. economic insecure. I made him made a desicion on a month of December, because of the fact we had talked that we ought to truly like for this team to play in our wedding ceremony sometime. when you consider that this team replaced into going to be so bussy for the period of the Christmass holiday trips, he had to make a decesion because of the fact we mandatory a date. He gave me a date i began out making all preparations and it in basic terms got here gentle. Now married for 10 years this December. luckily married. have been boyfriend female pal for 11 years. I waited for him all this time. I enjoyed him and understood how he felt yet he in basic terms had to make a desicion already. I see you in the comparable boat, however the subject is the lady and not you. do no longer problem omit precise will prepare-up. the better of high quality fortune.
2016-10-02 04:37:36 · answer #6 · answered by nicholls 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think marriage is the answer? Why are you insulted? If I were you, I would be thinking about ways you can make yourself happy. Marriage is not the key to being happy - you are.
And if you wanted to be married so bad I am sure you would have found a way to do it.
2007-03-15 10:44:23 · answer #7 · answered by Ker Plunk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no no hun
its natural to feel this way
you feel kinda stupid to be single til yer 45
and the only reason why yer still single is cause you use words like this
jimmy jerk
andy the abuser
now that sounds retarded
good luck with yer wierd ways.
2007-03-15 10:45:43 · answer #8 · answered by &d. i. l. i. hawt; 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you feeling insulted? It's your fault-go out and make those girls want you. If you hate being single, then do something about it! Try online dating if you need to.
2007-03-15 10:45:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever asked anyone? I guess you've just been dating the wrong women.
2007-03-15 10:48:38 · answer #10 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋