There is this girl, and she is absolutly perfect. I love being around her, and she has changed me as a person. She has made me care for other creatures and showed me to a religious path thats easy to follow. She also inpired me to do better in school , because if she can do, so can I. We are good freinds, but she doesnt have the same feelings for me, which is heartbreaking, but I have excepted that she may never have the same feelings for me. It is so increidible this feeling I have for her. Sometimes when I talk to her, she will flirt with me a little, and I will flirt back of course. I don't understand why she does this if he says she doesnt have the same feelings. What should I do? It just confuses me, she say's one thing, then turns around and acts another way completley.
2007-03-15 10:37:56 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow I have sure been in your shoes before ;)
The BEST thing to do...is to not let your feelings or emotions control you...regardless of if you know she likes you or not, or gets to like you. Give her some time and some space if you've approached her a lot. If you haven't talked to her how you felt though, then do so right away. Tell her what's on your mind. Don't be scared, every guy has had to do this. Its a great experience and feeling afterwards too. Just be honest with her and communicate what's on your mind. If you still get a negative response...move on quickly. Find a girl who likes you for you...and don't give up because she isn't the one. I thought a girl liked me for a long time, and it never worked out. There's so many girls out there, just be patient until you find the ONE ;) Good luck! :)
2007-03-23 08:51:47 · answer #1 · answered by Joshua R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing that is confusing about flirting is that it doesn't always mean something. Some girls flirt just to be flirtatious. I personally always had a difficult time flirting because I was afraid that it would be taken seriously so I was really bad at it! But some girls will flirt all the time, any time just for the fun of having the response of someone flirting back. Go figure! It's hard to tell so don't read much into it.
2007-03-23 07:34:54 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just keep your friendship where it is. If she says that she does not have the same feelings for you then that is probably the truth. Some women have a natural flirt and that could be what is happening. She may also care for you as a person but you are not what she wants in a man. That is perfectly normal. Dont beat yourself up about it. Just continue to enjoy the relationship that you do have with her. If it is meant to be then things will work out for you.
Good Luck
2007-03-23 09:21:08 · answer #3 · answered by queentasha26 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough situation you are in buddy... but I think right now she is only thinking of you as a really good friend. However, she might also not want to ruin the relationship you guys have with each other right now. Also, she might not be ready to move to the next level. Only time will tell, be patient, but also keep an open mind. There are other girls out there that can make you feel and effect you in a positive way.
2007-03-23 03:54:55 · answer #4 · answered by soccerchick14 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! I have the same problem but with a guy. I hate the mind games and that needs to stop. Personally I think you should ask her out on a date, and make in so fun she wont want to go home. Keep having fun with her and after about a week tell her how you feel and dont hide it. If I could get this guy to do that I would be in heaven. Good Luck!
2007-03-23 09:58:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone around us changes us and makes us who we are. Sounds like you guys have a meaningful relationship . Dont think about it too much as I used to just do it . Flirting is one of the best signs of flattery !! It also sounds like she is and has shown you the right path. She may say she doesn't have the same feelings for you but only time will tell. I know some girls thought I didnt care for them but I did . Life is often confusing and those who say they know things for sure are often times fooling themselves. As the adage goes only a fool is really sure of anything ?
2007-03-23 09:56:34 · answer #6 · answered by johnnydee3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is your friend from what i can tell. Flirting is a natural and fun thing. It sounds like that is all she wants from you though. Your going to have to determine if being around her like that is going to have you going crazy. If you want a chance, be her friend and dont press things. You can comment on her beauty and stuff but dont beat yourself up over her not being into you except as friends. Its very hard to have a friend that your interested in to that level, especially when shes not into you that way. Its very frustraiting. It is however a good thing that she feels comfortable enough with you to flirt. Just have fun and be yourself and let go of the parts you cant control. If you cant handle being her friend if shes not going to be interested in you, you only have one real option, lose her as a friend. I dont suggest that one unless you really just cant handle being around her anymore. I just broke up with a girl that is really into me. She wanted me back, but i always felt like we were just better friends than anything. She is now upset at me because i enjoy her friendship and she expects more.
2007-03-22 22:40:06 · answer #7 · answered by David Parker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, friendships rarely become love interests. Love interests usually start out as love interests. You will probably end up remaining in her "good friend" category. I'm 52, I know what I'm talking about. I was in your position plenty of times and it is very difficult. Ask your friends who have love interests or who are married and see if they started out as just friends. That way you will know if I am right or I am wrong.
The good news is, true love is as easy as pie when the right one comes along. When it happens for you, you will know that it was well worth the wait and that God seems to know exactly what He's doing. When I look back on all the girls that didn't work out for me, I realize it was for a good reason! God is great at saving us from our own poor judgement!
A good sign that you may be decieving yourself about this girl lies in your own description of her. She is not "absolutely perfect". Strangely, the more perfect a person is, the harder it is to feel close to them.
Good luck, my friend.
2007-03-15 10:53:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound very intense...she might like you but not as intense as you do. She will flirt because she likes to do that ...and she gets response, flirting make people feel good about themselves and help others feel good and makes everyone leaves with a smile on their face.
Do not rush, enjoy her company...and enjoy flirting with her...allow her to make the first move so you do not loose her friendship....she already notices you but might not want to get hot and heavy.....light flirting...and stuff is her cup of tea for now...do not build castles in the air behind it....my friend....
2007-03-23 04:29:57 · answer #9 · answered by Ariana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 04:37:28 · answer #10 · answered by nicholls 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋