I have heard that it is most difficult when you have your second child, and that the children after that are easier because they are used to sharing and having siblings. But when you have your second child, it is hard on the first child because they are used to being the only one. Have you found this to be true?
2007-03-15 10:29:37 · 10 answers · asked by Bomb_chele 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
This wasn't true for me. My daughter was excited to have her sister come home. She loves her with all her might. They share everything. They are only 18 months apart so the age difference probably makes a difference.
2007-03-15 10:33:42 · answer #1 · answered by ncc742 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I found difficult about having my second (and final) child was the financial burden and having to juggle time between the two children. It's important to make the first child feel involved with the 2nd child. I let my oldest (who was two years old) help feed, change and bathe the baby. I didn't force it, I would say "mommy is going to feed the baby, would you like to help?". Letting them bring you diapers, wipes, towels, toys, etc is making them feel involved but remember to ask, not command. If you command the oldest to help it could cause resentment. I also bought my oldest a doll to "take care of" before the second one was born and would say things like, when the baby comes, this is what we will need to do and let the oldest "practice" with the doll. I also reassured my oldest that mommy would still have time to play games, read and do all the things we used to do together. They are now teenagers and very close. So, to answer your question, when it comes to children, it's never easy, just take in to consideration that the oldest needs to be involved with the baby too. Good luck!
2007-03-15 10:43:18 · answer #2 · answered by itsjustme 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my experience, I am the oldest of four children and I couldn't wait for my mom to bring my sisters and brother home from the hospital.
I am also a mom of three and both my two older boys were excited about their little brother being born. So no I don't think its hard. Some people have a misconception that you need to give alot of attention to the newborn but thats not true. Its the older ones who need the attention so they won't feel jealous or left out. Having a new addition is precious and everyone involve espeically the older brother or sister should be included.......
2007-03-15 11:24:02 · answer #3 · answered by Yvette D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me twice over. I was an only child until I was 12... and then my mom decided to have my brother. I had mixed emotions... I just thought it was cool to finally have a baby around, until I realized I was at the *perfect* age to be his babysitter LOL. It worked out fine though, I was a huge help to my mom... although my brother and I aren't very close (due to our 12 yr age gap). The same thing happened to him too, though... our youngest sister is only 8 lol.
As a mom, my daughters are 15 months apart. Dealing with a pregnancy that close to the first one was extremely difficult. I was exhausted the entire time. Now that I have them, though... I wouldn't have it any other way. It actually wasn't a difficult transition for us b/c we were still pretty much in baby-mode... so we just kept the ball rolling, so to speak. :)
Either way, it always works out in the end :) Little ones are soooo precious!
2007-03-15 11:19:14 · answer #4 · answered by Jemmie Vee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am scared of the same thing. My son is 6 and I am due in a month. But he seems more excited about having a sibling than anything else. I think it really depends on the child and the age difference. My neices and nephews never seemed to mind but they were so close in age like less than 18 months.
2007-03-15 10:34:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, yes. The transition from 1 to 2 was the hardest- NOT on the kids, but on me. It was a lot of work. When I had my third child, the transition was a ton smoother. (again, on me)
I am now expecting twins- and I'm hoping and expecting the transition from 3-5 will be smooth as well.
2007-03-15 11:34:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mother of three is was much harder to go from one child to two children than from two to three. It also depends on the first child's age and personality
2007-03-15 10:37:29 · answer #7 · answered by mommiie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like it was that way for us. After the 2nd one it was smooth sailing. The difficulty wasn't so much for the older sibling...I had to adjust to dividing my time.
2007-03-15 10:35:57 · answer #8 · answered by zinntwinnies 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The hardest adjustment is from NO children to 1!!!!
2007-03-15 10:43:14 · answer #9 · answered by Michele B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I found it easier
2007-03-15 10:39:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋