i cant stop crying coz all the memories and everything i knew have been taken away from me.. everything i ever felt for my ex and more all the dreams we had are gone and i am left with this hole where my heart used to be.. noone feels the same.. i cant get over him coz i really did and i think still do love him.. and i can see what everyone says he is mental and a lier and he treat me wrong but he even now its over he still playing me..
i want him and he knows it.. he is still seeing girls even the ones im friends with and he says he is confused about his feeling so he doesn't know if he wants/loves me.. i cant go on like this anymore.. not seeing him kills .. seeing him kills..
i smile all day long pretend that everything is perfect but on the inside it all falls apart.
why cants i let it go...is it because he was my first true love..
will i never let it go..
i cant seem to imagine myself with anyone else.. its strange
all this free time that i used to see him in.. feels so alone.
2007-03-15 10:22:54 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Move on...he was a jerk, and you'll find someone better as soon as you stop feeling sorry for yourself and look around.
2007-03-15 10:26:28 · answer #1 · answered by a kinder, gentler me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every person that loves too much and then break up felt the same that you are feeling right now. I was hurt a long time ago because of a jerk too! Maybe it was ignorance... You are depressed and you need to get some help! You seem too sad and you are so young... You need to do things that makes you happy NOW! Dance, Gym, Sing, Go out with some true friends, write everything that you are feeling, cry too because it helps to heal. God gave you the world to enjoy it... every morning the sun comes out for you!!!
You'll see, everything is going to be OK. He does not deserve you! and you know it! You are so much better than any other girl that he may have now. And you know what? He is going to pay every tear of yours. Love and care yourself, believe in you, and remember you are not alone.
2007-03-15 18:05:10 · answer #2 · answered by drummergirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on...he was a jerk, and you'll find someone better as soon as you stop feeling sorry for yourself and look around.
GO OUT HAVE SOME FUN HAVE SEX AT LEAST
It sounds like you need a lot more help than a forum can give you.
Try talking to a close relative or friend about how you feel - letting out this bottled up emotion may help you. Hearts are broken every day, sadly, and you will have to learn how to deal with it properly. Sometimes, you just need somebody to listen.
2007-03-15 17:26:35 · answer #3 · answered by Amber C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out you. Just reading this kind of takes me back to when I felt like I would never get over someone. Please believe me when I say you will. Like everyone says, it's going to take time. If he hurt you, please keep those moments in mind and realize that letting him go is the best thing you can do. This is your time to use some of your friends. Release a little on them if you can, but also let them help you take your mind off him. Find a some new things to keep you busy, like exercise or something. If that is your picture, you're very pretty, so you don't have to worry about that. Just hang there. Know you are going be ok and then find different things that will help you get there.
2007-03-15 17:49:41 · answer #4 · answered by the anomaly23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
darlyn i understand ur pain i have been there before. u may think now that u will never find the true love again. but i tell u it can happen. one day it will happen. right now your in pain. and theres not much anyone can do for you to make it better. the friends of yours hes seein aint your friends. so chop them up as losses. cause u dont need friends like that anyways. im sorry for ur loss. we have all been there. next time u start dating be alittle more guarded. find out alot of the person. cause u dont want a repeat. i promise u will love again. and one of these days the man of ur life will come into it. and the love you feel for him and the love he has for u will far surpass any you have had before. and when that happens u will know it is him god put u here to be with. dont give up hope. and keep ur true friends close to help u threw this. good luck and i hope it all comes clear and works out for u.
2007-03-15 17:37:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. The only time I started to finally feel better was when my roomate PHYSICALLY DRAGGED me from my bed (lying there crying as usual) and forced me to get dressed, do may make-up and go to out dancing, whether I wanted to or not!! I totally did not want to go, didn't feel like it, but she was trying so hard, I just went not to hurt her feelings. I had a great time! Met a hot guy! Made a date with him... Didn't get over my ex in one night, but that was the START... started dating again and within a few weeks had a new man on my mind and in my life (even tho I wasn't still totally over the old one). It s a gradual process. You HAVE TO start hanging out with other guys, even if they dont measure up to the one u love. You'll see...
2007-03-15 17:32:43 · answer #6 · answered by F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While the story sounds very troubling (note only jogging or swimming can mitigate that type of pain), consider that many women "fall in love" with dozens of lying, controlling, cheating abusive jerks during their lifetimes and sometimes even marry one - you just need to find a new one
If you can accept that most men have a natural need for lots of sex with lots of women - you can concentrate on finding the least-worst jerk for you - maybe one that only cheats a little here and there - and otherwise is decent and non-abusive
Many ladies follow this strategy today - and it works out OK
2007-03-15 17:37:17 · answer #7 · answered by JET99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need a lot more help than a forum can give you.
Try talking to a close relative or friend about how you feel - letting out this bottled up emotion may help you. Hearts are broken every day, sadly, and you will have to learn how to deal with it properly. Sometimes, you just need somebody to listen.
2007-03-15 17:26:51 · answer #8 · answered by Laurie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your young like me a teen or someone in the twenties it's natural to feel these feelings because were so young and can't quite get over our fisrt love, You have to be brave through this don't worry when you see him, either stare at him cause hell know what he did was wrong or walk away toshow him you are over him and maybe he'll come back. (If you want to). Good luck with him sista.
2007-03-15 17:43:58 · answer #9 · answered by Maysia. [[funcky-chic]] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting on here and telling us is a good start to get over him.Try to meet new men,starting with friendships and let the old saying take hold.Time heals all wounds.Good luck and I am truly sorry that you are unhappy at this point.But I know there is better times ahead for you.
2007-03-15 17:28:54 · answer #10 · answered by Honest Injun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did you break up? maybe it was a mistake. if you really love him maybe he still really loves you. you can't go on like this, you should ask him straight out. i know it's awkward, but you should. you'll feel better once your done, and maybe things will work out. if not, try your best to forget about him. you may still be in love with him, but you need to move on if he doesn't feel the same way about you. i'm sure you WILL find someone who fills that hole, sooner or later.
good luck and don't give up
2007-03-15 17:28:12 · answer #11 · answered by julesrules714 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋