ok so i'm 14 years old and i'm have the biggest crush on my step brother who is 16 years old. the deal is my mom and his dad arent really married yet there engaged about to get married so my question is is it wrong for me to like my step brother i would like any and all opinions. thanks
2007-03-15 10:21:08 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well, its not good because you will be brother and sister. And being that you are only 14, I will say even if you two did start something theres a 99.9999% chance it wont last and it would just be akward afterwords. Plus since you will be living together you are probably about to find out how undersirable he is. ie burps, farts, smelly room, annoying friends, bad habbits. I suggest you turn your attention to something else. Some one else will come along for ya! Good Luck! and remember youre only 14 and this too shall pass.
2007-03-15 10:30:24 · answer #1 · answered by Ashley 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good question. The best advice I think I can give is to look at the bigger picture in life. Look beyond your crush and start looking at consequences of indulging a crush you have on the boy who will soon be your brother-even if not by blood relation. It could make for a very akward, uncomfortable situation and could have some long-lasting, far-reaching negative consequences.
Notice I said "brother" and not "step-brother." I have 2 daughters (roughly the same age). One of them is "technically" my step-daughter, but I don't think of her-nor do I treat her-any differently than my biological daughter. Imagine the hurt it would cause within the family if I did!
Soon you will have a moral and social obligation to look at him as a "brother" and not a "step-brother." To do otherwise will be plain wrong on so many levels because you'll be living as a family.
It's not a direct comparison, obviously, because of the generational difference, but I think you get the general idea. It would be a bad idea to indulge the crush. Turn your attention to another boy.
2007-03-15 11:19:34 · answer #2 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like Ashley's answer.... I might also say that...that it's very common for peple to be infatuated with certain members of the family... I use to have a crush on my cousin..... of course I grew up.... You're only 14...a lot of growing to do...physically and emotonally... You'll get over it eventually once you know the real HIM. If your mom marry's his dad...you will in fact be step brother and sister.... for as long as the parents remain married...why complicate things... and if it didn't work out.... your stuck having to be around him...cuz you will be sort of related...
2007-03-15 12:06:13 · answer #3 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly it is'nt wrong to feel how you feel; but you can't show it to him that you feel that way; because that would be an awkward situtation; becasue pretty soon he will be like a brother to you...and come on can you picture yourself having a crush on your brother! Sorry- but you have to put a stop to this because...well in some wayz it is kind of wrong...Hey you'll learn and live..you will fine other crushes to crush on!!!! I know u will
2007-03-15 11:39:47 · answer #4 · answered by *~*Glamorous1750~*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋