Me and my wife have a 15 year old son and his girlfriend's parents we have known for years since they were little and they went out of town and so we said we would watch their daughter and she would sleep on the couch... well she has always been a very trusting and nice young lady and my son never gets into trouble but when I got up to check on her she wasn't on the couch and when I went in my sons room she was with my son having sex and I'm not sure how to handle the situation because I never did anything like that so my parents never had to say anything about sex or anything so does anyone have any adcive on what to do or say???
2007-03-15 10:04:03 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No matter how nice, polite, & respectful kids are that doesn't mean they're not having sex.
As far as what to say to him, tell him you're not ready to be a grandfather, tell him about diseases..... Tell him not to do that in your house anymore.
It really just depends on how you feel about the situation, are you angry, hurt?
2007-03-15 10:09:53 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough situation Jack,
Considering your son and his girlfriend are good kids I wouldn't get to bent out of shape over the situation. It is not uncommon for teenagers to start engaging in sex.
You do need to sit and talk to him about the situation, let him know you disapprove of it and that he risks losing his girlfriend all together..( assuming the girls parents would forbid them from seeing each other )
One thing that is very important is that you insist that if he continues to engage in sex that he wear protection.
I have a 15 year old daughter who is showing signs of curiosity. Her and I have a rather open relationship and we talked about sex and I told her it is just like doing drugs, it has the potential to be addicting, distracting and life altering. Most kids these days have sex as a status que thing, it's the in thing to do. They're bombarded with it on TV, on the radio it's like the world's saying if your not having sex something is wrong with you.
If your son does good in school, doesn't do drugs, has respect for others. Then you've done a fine job as a parent and this ordeal is just part of growing up.
2007-03-15 10:35:20 · answer #2 · answered by Rustb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do don't just set there and blame it all on the girl. She is still the nice and trusting girl. She just loves your son.It was eventually going to happen sooner or later. Just remember in your son's eyes she is probably the love of his life even if he is just 15. If your not careful what you say you could end up driving your son away. Just talk to him about protection and STD's. Hopefully this girl has been his only partner. By the way you should talk to him not his mom it could be embarrassing.
2007-03-15 15:55:22 · answer #3 · answered by Adam F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would address the two of them to let them know that you plan on filling the girl's parents in on the situation. And definitely, you should talk to the girls' parents. It's true that you cannot expect your 15 year old hormone driven son to stop having sex...that's what they do at that age these days. But you should definitely educate them and make sure that they are making smart choices such as using condoms, birth control, etc. But her parents need to know what's going on, it's your obligation as a parent to inform them now that you know.
2007-03-15 10:14:10 · answer #4 · answered by Andrea M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WOW that is a problem!!! If I were you, I would discuss it with my son and tell her parents.
I would talk with my son about why he did it and about moral standards.
I would also suggest that you let your wife handle the girl- like a girl to girl talk because i know i would feel uncomfortable talking to my dad or my friends dad about something like that.
If my son did that, my trust for him would be broken and i would have a VERY SERIOUS TALK with him!
Hope I could help!
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2007-03-15 10:11:53 · answer #5 · answered by kitsune_rose_chan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would sit down with both of them and tell them both that sex is a sacred thing. They are both two young anyway and let them know what could happen if they were to continue. Talk to them about teen pregnancies and the diseases out there..etc.. Good Luck to you
2007-03-15 10:10:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thier is nothing you can do welcome too the real world lol
2007-03-15 10:08:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋