Okay, I obviously won't be basing my final decision on this but I would just like some opinions as to whether we should stop at two kids or try for one more. We have two beautiful children that my husband and I adore. Our little boy is 7, and our daughter is 3. I am 28 and my husband is 32. We are very content with our family, but wonder how adding one more would be. My husband owns his own business and I am a teacher turned stay at home mom. We can afford a third child, but I wonder how three children changes the makeup of a family. How does my little girl who is now the baby feel as the middle child? Any opinions would be so greatly appreciated. Thank you!!!
2007-03-15 09:57:43 · 14 answers · asked by MommyX2 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
two children would be more likely to get along. It is easier for two to play than three for a lot of things. Other wise one feels left out. Your 3 year will feel like a middle child, left out in ways. won't be able to do the things the older one does, yet won't be babied like the younger one will.
I always liked the thought of three for parenting, but doesn't seem to be the natural number for the kids. Good luck whatever you decide. Sounds like your giving a lot of thought to things before you do. More need to do that.
2007-03-15 10:24:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough question to answer. I'm not sure it is one that anyone can really answer for you. Perhaps you and your husband should sit down together and write out all the pros and cons of having a third child. I have 5 beautiful, lovely children and there is not one of them that I regret having, but I would not be honest if I said that it has not been hard financially. Keep in mind that the economy is getting worse with each passing year and things happen in life that change a family's situation (without notice)...Although this seems rather cold to say, it is reality. Having a 3rd child will be a blessing...how could it be other wise? But, even so, these are still things that need to be considered in your decision. Good luck to you and your husband!
2007-03-15 10:09:41 · answer #2 · answered by ceegt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have four children, although my first child is from my husband's first marriage and is 6 years older than my first baby. I don't think having a third child changed things that much. Once you have two it's not too big of a deal to add more. The biggest adjustment would be getting used to a baby again. Especially with your other kids so spread out. I guess it really depends on how much you want another baby. I say, if you really want one, go for it!!! PS your little girl will love having a baby around, just make sure to help her feel special!!
2007-03-15 10:15:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't think it would be too big of a deal. My daughter's 7, my son is 2 and my baby's 7 months. It's an IMMENSE change. If your husband is a big help, that's good, and different from my situation, but if he doesn't, it's such a huge change, I couldn't believe it. My daughter feels so completely left out and really does NOT want to help at all and my middle child does not like having another baby in the house. I would at least suggest babysitting a few times first. If you have a friend, reletive, etc. that has a baby, see if you can 'borrow' thier baby for a few hours (which no doubt they will love) to see how your kids are going to react to having one more person to divide the attention between.
2007-03-15 10:10:28 · answer #4 · answered by bonnitais 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At one aspect I had 3 young ones below the age of two (22 month old twins and a newborn), there is no longer some thing incorrect with it in any respect. As somebody else suggested: did having the 2d infant eliminate from the first? The older ones will love helping out with the newborn and could be sufficiently old to play at the same time at the same time as the youngest is born. in case you may deal with 3 young ones, then you definately shouldn't provide up the youngest because of a "what if".
2016-12-02 01:38:55 · answer #5 · answered by declue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 boys and I always said I was stopping at two. I thought it was the perfect number. One kid for each parent. Our car seats both of them and us comfortably. A third would mean a mini van. But everyone kept saying to me, "You have to have a third!" A friend of mine only had two and now she wishes she'd have had a third. Now I'm pregnant (unplanned) with the third and am getting used to the idea. There are a lot more costs involved to have a third child through adulthood. But as one of the children, it's always nice to have 2 siblings to be friends with. One to play with if the other is sick or not at home. Just depends on if you and your husband would like a third. I am a middle child, but I liked having two sisters to play with vs. just my older sister if my parents had stopped after me.
2007-03-15 10:07:09 · answer #6 · answered by mom2beof3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Should you decide to have another child, will you choose its gender? Are you willing to accept what you get? Then you know how to introduce BOTH children to their sibling. You let them know it's coming and it'll be a surprise little brother or sister. Don't ask what they want. How will the oldest feel with the added responsibility? You need for both of them to know you love them and they have given you so much love, you feel it's only right that you share with another. There will be questions, sibling rivalry, accusations through the years, but they'll probably make you proud and happy. (I have 5.)
2007-03-15 10:15:42 · answer #7 · answered by jelesais2000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, it is quite personal ... and it is how God will provide for you. I personally believe children are a blessing, and if you can afford another one you will only add to your happiness. Families with more children have good kids. Growing up kids learn important social skills at home, they are less selfish and more loving towards their parents and siblings.
I see no drawbacks in having another child, and wish you all God's blessings.
2007-03-15 10:09:05 · answer #8 · answered by Kalistrat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie it does change but not for the worst.Yes of course the little girl will feel like the middle child because she will be.But as long as you keep her and the bigger brother included then it doesn't really effect them.good luck
2007-03-15 10:03:30 · answer #9 · answered by Sunshine 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I love the idea of 3 children. 2 is too predictable, and for me, it's too even (if that makes any sense, hehe).
I think 3 is ideal. If you treat every child the same, you don't have to worry about the "middle child syndrome".
2007-03-15 10:03:27 · answer #10 · answered by *Logan's Mommy* 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋