talking back getting loud when i say something to him about cleaning up his room. or doing anything at all.I cant take it any more. he will make me hurt him .I am not trying to do that.
2007-03-15 09:50:58 · 28 answers · asked by latonya w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well, military school comees to mind. Sounds from your description like he's a normal teen though. You need to draw the line and stand your ground (deep down inside believe it or not, they want guidelines and rules). Where's his dad? Lay down the law and let him know who's boss, take away any privleges or extras. How old a teen? Tell him to get a job. Lots of things you can do without hurting him.
2007-03-15 09:54:33 · answer #1 · answered by Mickey 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
There is a place called Job Corp. I don't know what part of the country your in but I think they have places all over. It is a place for troubled teens to finish highschool, get their diploma. Look it up on the internet. Don't hurt your son, then you'll end up in jail, what good would that do? Does he have a father figure? If not maybe he needs to talk to someone. Maybe an uncle or try getting him a Big Brother. I am a mother who had an unruly son. My son is grown now with a child of his own. They do grow out of it but at the time I felt like I would go nuts. I can sympathize.
2007-03-15 17:00:22 · answer #2 · answered by SusiQ 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My friends son was like that. They tried everything and nothing worked but the military.
He had stolen a bunch of money and credit cards from family members (Not the brightest kid) and that was the final straw. The family offered him jail or the Marines. He took the latter.
He shaped up very quickly in the Marines and he has recently decided to make a career out of it.
He too is a good kid at heart but he was in desperate need of some serious discipline that his parents failed to provide.
2007-03-16 14:38:27 · answer #3 · answered by mufflerbearings1967 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before doing anything to him invistigate several things and get your options like ducks in a row before you do anything.
Check on Military School.
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If you go to Church Talk to the Preacher.
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Do you have other adults in your immiedate family that you could talk to and have them talk to the teen.
Then when you have decided on the correct option make your move. Don't be winny or a ******. For instance you could say if you don't follow my rules under my roof I'll be sending you to military school. Then follow thru. However they maynot put up with this teens actions either.
2007-03-15 16:59:18 · answer #4 · answered by Scott 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think you should necessarily send him away. I think, by the sounds of it you may need family counseling. This will teach you how to speak to your teen and how to deal with your teen without hurting him. It might also give you an insight on how their brains are working. I think it is awful you want to send him away. By the sounds of it, he just needs a little love and encouragement and some counseling and things could get better. I think that is what is wrong with the world today. If people do act or do what we want them to do, we are ready to send them away instead of investing time into making things better.
2007-03-15 16:55:49 · answer #5 · answered by fastdrver27 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are a member of a church, talk to the youth pastor. He may be able to help. Teenage boys are difficult, I lived through 5 years of rebellion with my son. It isn't easy. The way I survived was through prayer with other moms and staying in touch with the youth pastor. Now my son is a hard working fine young man. You have to be strong and get some support.
2007-03-15 16:55:39 · answer #6 · answered by Tatochka 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's just talking back and you're willing to send him to a place that is guaranteed to hurt him?
There are a lot worse things in this world than a kid who doesn't want to listen to you. In fact if that's all he's doing, count your blessings and don't make the problem worse.
2007-03-15 17:32:51 · answer #7 · answered by seanturtledove 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to persevere. Its ablut demanding respect. He is your child and I believe parents should never give up on their children. Perhaps if it was life or death.....drugs, depression....not talking back, every kid does that, that is normal, you just have to know how to handle it. If you create a child you cant just try to get rid of him as soon as things go sour. Thats wrong in my eyes.
2007-03-15 17:01:18 · answer #8 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to back off for a bit; restore yourself and endurance. Then, take it little by little, step by step. Start finding ways to get him to listen to simple, Little, things. Keep building on that. You left him go wild, now you have to put in the time you didn't before. Little by little!
Every so often back off, and take a break from it.
2007-03-15 16:57:15 · answer #9 · answered by kasar777 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"ah ha, I understand ....now clean your room". Let him know it's your house and he can decorate his room any way he likes minus garbage and dirty clothing. If he doesn't want to change his sheets he needs to learn the difference between wants and need by direction so that he begins to grow towards adult self-sufficiency. Set a sheet set at the end of his bed with a copy of this:
http://www.ehow.com/how_2002459_clean-bedroom.html
or
http://wehow.ehow.com/how_2003898_clean-bedroom-dormroom.html
2007-03-15 17:50:04 · answer #10 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋