He's hot and really fun to hang out with. But he does cocaine (and some other stuff). Every time we've hung out, he always lets on how badly he wants to get in my pants. He even whipped "it" out.
I brought my friend over and he ended up kissing her (not on the lips). After that happened, he said I was the one he liked and wanted to be with.
I think he only likes the way I look. And I really really like him. I forgot to mention that he is three years older than me. And I can't tell my Mom. But I find myself wanting to be near him. I want to be with him and I shouldn't.
2007-03-15 09:37:20 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you are attracted to him physically, and you may be attracted to some of his anti-authority streak. There's nothing wrong with being anti-authority (I am a lot like that, and I think it definitely makes people more attractive to me), but I think it is important to recognize bad things--cocaine use is very scary, and him wanting you for strictly sexual reasons. It sounds like you already understand that you don't have a particularly deep connection with him, and you know what's best, you're just asking how you can do it.
My biggest piece of advice for you is to focus on your other friendships and on meeting other guys, and finding other guys that you can relate to and are attracted to. It's hard to make yourself stop wanting to be with another person--you can't just stop, you need to replace that person with other social activity (it doesn't necessarily need to be another guy you like, although that sometimes does the trick). It will be a lot easier to give up this guy if you feel you have other options out there...whether it's another guy you like or just friends you enjoy hanging out with.
You also need to make a conscious decision to stop hanging out with the guy. This is going to take some self-discipline. Don't let him talk you into hanging out...just be firm, and once he realizes you aren't interested in him he'll eventually go somewhere else.
I hope this helps. One solution that you can always do, if you decide that you really want to stop hanging out with him, is to talk to your mom about him. She may be able to offer some useful advice and it may be easier to stop hanging out with him with her support. It's not always a good idea to hide things from your parents. But again, it depends on your parents--sometimes it is better to keep things to yourself if you think your parents would overreact.
Good luck.
2007-03-15 09:54:24 · answer #1 · answered by cazort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No reason to slow down. Intimate relations are celebration of love. the legalities of marriage have nothing to do with it. To keep having sex will only strengthen your relationship, and also teach you both about how compatible you are in bed. To give it up now is like giving up kissing or even holding hands, why would you do this?? There's no shame in it and it's very healthy in a relationship. There's no reason to "wait for marriage". You became married when he entered you for the first time. That is when your commitment began. It's done. The church service is now a mere formality.
2016-03-29 00:15:58 · answer #2 · answered by TueLom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me he is no good for you and sounds like an ex of mine. He was fine and had a hot body and we dated but found out he was a big flirt and drank alot and did coke as well. We argued alot and of course broke up with each other.Sounds like you may be under age. Leave him alone today. If he is like this now, he may not get any better when he gets older. The guy I was with was 23 and acted like this. I wanted him alot too, ended up living with him and kept telling my self he was no good. Leave him alone today dont be with him.
2007-03-15 09:42:43 · answer #3 · answered by llexiann30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...you seem to already know the answer to your own question...you know that he's not good for you but yet you still want him. Well if you want less drama in your life then I would ignore him and move on....but if you like drama then by all means go for him
2007-03-15 09:42:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know the relationship would be a bad choice for you then don't do it! If he is ino drugs, there is a possibility that you could start too and become addicted. If you think that it isn't a good idea, then follow your instints, that why they are there.
2007-03-15 09:42:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think its more curiousity on your part! well that killed the cat honey!i hope you take my advice and find someone else to admire!he has no respect for you at all! sorry, and good luck, it isnt easy likin the bad ones, but you dont have to choose them!!and plus i think you know if you should ask us then you know in your heart what you should really do!!
2007-03-15 09:42:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
stay away. cuz if u dont, u gon end up pregnant and he probly aint ready for a kid. hes gon get u into bad stuff 2 if u stay wit him, like he migh try 2 make u do coke. trust me, he aint good for u.
2007-03-15 09:46:38 · answer #7 · answered by herimos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouuu....someone is attracted to bad boys. You seem young, and it may be a fun, you're going to do what you want to do. Just know when it's time to separate yourself from him.
2007-03-15 09:41:02 · answer #8 · answered by -J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I tell you that you can't enforce your mind to not see him, but i tell you don't be with him will not be very good for you.Try to find somebody else
2007-03-15 09:56:53 · answer #9 · answered by anamaria g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU WANT A BAD BOY GIRLLL.....BUT HE'S NOT GOOD FOR YOU... REALLY
2007-03-15 09:40:23 · answer #10 · answered by Hello Kitty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋