I've miscarried twice since the birth of my last child who is now 6. I'm only 27 and would love to have more kids but I wonder if maybe my biological clock has run out or maybe that God is trying to tell me that two is enough for me. I'm also terrified to try again only to be disapointed and heartbroken. Any success stories or words of wisdom would be much appreciated!
2007-03-15 09:29:55 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
No. My sister and brother in-law miscarried 8 times before they had my nephew. My niece was 8 years old when her brother was born, is an awesome (if not possessive big sister) and my nephew is perfectly wonderful and healthy. Never give up. If your doctors have indicated that nothing is physically wrong, then don't give up. You're way to young to have your dreams dashed. Speak to your doctor - Speak to a grief counselor (yes, you have experienced the most painful type of grief - the loss of a child) and that fear of repeating it can add stress to the body).
If all else fails....and you really want another child; adopt. They need mommies too and as the saying goes - it's not the birthing process that makes a parent. It's how you deal with the results.
Big hugs and please don't give up.
2007-03-15 09:40:36 · answer #1 · answered by Allison S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have the means to and haven't already, try seeking a medical answer as to why you may be having miscarriages. If you are healthy overall, there is no reason to think your biological clock has run out.
I'm not one to attack people's beliefs, but invoking God to explain something that doesn't have an obvious clear explanation isn't always the best route.
Try again after ruling out any serious condition that may be causing the problem.
2007-03-15 09:37:06 · answer #2 · answered by humanteethproductions 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your doctor. Why did you have those miscarriages?
Before writing off having more kids, figure out WHY you are having trouble. What part of your system isn't working. Were the miscarriages caused by genetic problems? Was it a uterine problem? What?
Also, in the end PLEASE don't ignore adoption. So many people find out they can't have kids and can't cope, and to many adoption isn't the same. BUT you are going to be a wonderful mom to a child who NEEDS you as a parent.
2007-03-15 09:45:54 · answer #3 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex-Mother in-law had several miscarriages and was told by her doctor that she would never have children. She gave birth to 3 very healthy sons. So, there is HOPE! If you are trying to concieve then please take good care of yourself by getting plenty of rest, no heavy lifting, eat well, and avoid alcholic beverages and even over the counter drugs. Nap when necessary and try to alleviate stress as much as possible. You may even want to get a complete physical just to assure that you are healthy. I hope you will soon be pregnant and give birth to a beautiful, healthy baby. God Bess you!
2007-03-15 09:38:21 · answer #4 · answered by ceegt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend had a healthy first pregnancy and then 2 miscarriages after that. She then had another beautiful girl and she just had a boy in November. I can understand you being terrified to try again and bein heartbroken, but it can happen and you can have have several other healthy pregnancies.
2007-03-15 09:48:53 · answer #5 · answered by Blondi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give my body a little time to heal (3 months or so) and try again...I miscarried 3 times and it was 10 years before I got pregnant again...and I carried it to term and 18 months later had another baby...have them to check your progestrone level....if you dont have enough progestrone in your body when you get pregnant you will miscarry that was my problem.. Good Luck
2007-03-15 09:53:52 · answer #6 · answered by jhutchens 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should never stop trying... i have a friend that the doc told her she couldn't have more kids so her and her husband decided to adopt well now she is having a baby due in august and a adopted child coming by the end of the year and a 3 year old at the house... so keep trying and ask ur doc about fertility pills....
2007-03-15 09:35:19 · answer #7 · answered by veggie753 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that this happened. The question you need to ask yourself is how strong are you. My miscarriage was so soul scarring that if I had had another one, I would not have tried again. If you have the courage to try again, please seek out your ob/gyn first and discuss what has happened. He or she will be able to advise you on your options. Good luck.
2007-03-15 09:37:15 · answer #8 · answered by Sharon M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't necessarily mean that you will be unable to conceive again. A friend of mine had two miscarriages before her first child and one before her second child. I would advise that you go to your doctor for a complete physical before you try again. He/she should be able to determine if you will be able to safely conceive again. Good luck and remember you are still young.
2007-03-15 09:37:27 · answer #9 · answered by juicie813 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way, I'd wait 3 months and then try again. If you have more then I'd look into other ways of having a child.
2007-03-15 09:33:50 · answer #10 · answered by Melissa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋