I am doing this question for my friend she wish to stay anonis, so can you please anser me this.
Should i tell my BF that i had been cheetin on him? I still want to be with him, and i broke up with the other guys but i fell as if i should telll him, but i don't for i dont want to lose him... What should i do?
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2007-03-15 09:26:42 · 30 answers · asked by Nicole 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Trying to answer this question without judging. If he never finds out and you never cheat again, then no harm no foul, apart from your own guilt. So here's the problem, if you don't tell him and he finds out another way, you're going to dig yourself into a hole.
If it were me, I'd probably cop to it. I made a choice and now it's time to face the consequences. In a relationship, I'd expect the other person to cop to any infidelity.
2007-03-15 09:33:45 · answer #1 · answered by -J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just break up with him and spare him the details. Only tell him whats necessary to end it. Details only make it worse. If he really loves you and hears all these details it will damage him worse than you think. It will make him think he is inadequate. It will affect his future relationships and could cause him to 2nd guess everything his next girlfriend does or become an jealous freak. I'm sure all girls have experienced one of those. Not fun I'm sure. The damage has been done already. Either now or down the road it will leak out somehow. Might as well end it now verses hurting him worse down the road. If you didn't want to lose him you shouldn't have done it.
2007-03-15 09:37:23 · answer #2 · answered by randomfacts22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is 100% up to you but if I were in your shoes heres what I would do. Tell Him. Though you could lose him if you really loved him then you would do the right thing and if he really loves you he would forgive you though the consequence could be losing him I would still be honest it is a lot better for you to tell him then someone else because if someone else will tell him you'll hear the word PAYBACK!!
2007-03-15 09:38:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best rule, but you have already broken it.
Tell him and tell him the truth. Before someone else tells him and he is not only hurt but humiliated. Then he's going to be angry because you hurt him, so don't expect to much from him. Don't do it over the phone either or computer. Face to face is the best when this is going on. Do not expect him to be grateful. Just give him time to think things through.
2007-03-15 09:36:33 · answer #4 · answered by rainingonme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him. If you really love him and trust him, you wouldn't want to keep leading him on like that and have him thinking that you were completely faithful. If he really loves you back, he will be able to overcome it. If he doesn't, then that is sometimes what happens to people who cheat. I would tell him, though; imagine if you were being cheated on, and you never had a clue that your boyfriend was cheating on you. would you rather be told about it, or just keep on thinking everything is perfect in your relationship? usually there is a reason for cheating. Sometimes it means you aren't happy in a relationship. In that case, you should probably end it before something worse happens.
2007-03-15 09:32:04 · answer #5 · answered by daniellelaura118 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gurl do the right thing and talk to him because one day when your closer and things are getting alot better between you guys and something comes up about your past and then you have to deal with more of a heartbreak and possibly lose alot more than you would right now! best wishes gurl
2007-03-15 09:31:08 · answer #6 · answered by Lovable 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay you should tell him cause you don't want him to find out from someone else.... he might give you the benefit of the doubt.. If he doesn't then you shouldve known that there was a consequence you would hav eto suffer....don't lie be honest... explain to him why and tell him how much you crae about himm..... If he really cares he will let you slide but just don't do it again okay
2007-03-15 09:35:20 · answer #7 · answered by Hello Kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your friend to be honest and if he breaks up with her it's her fault. Trust me no one likes a cheater, I am guilty of it too. But keeping the truth from him because she wants to keep him. . . is just plain selfish. she should have thought about that before. It seems like he is a good guy, if she doesn't want to loose him. Maybe he deserve better than her. I know the guy I cheated on deserved better than me. Good Luck.
2007-03-15 09:33:30 · answer #8 · answered by steppy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion the truth always has a way of coming out. I would tell him if you truly respect him and love him and pray he forgives you. You do not want to spend everyday of your life feeling guilty. Just remember everyting doesn't always work out the way you think it should, but it tends to work out for the best.
Good luck with all of that.
2007-03-15 09:35:20 · answer #9 · answered by dragonfly7887 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look i been down that road already. U better hope he doesnt find out any other way.. u need to go ahead and tell him the truth and if he doesnt want a relationship with u anymore than its just on u your fault.. u hurt no one but yourself on this one..
u have to be honest with him and yourself
2007-03-15 09:35:20 · answer #10 · answered by Jadi12ineabc123pizza 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋