My first three children were closesly spaced and all planned. I had a heart condition and knew we wanted a big family so we really focused for a few years on building a family. Well, last May I gave birth to our third child and had heart surgery in June.
In October, we bought a 3 bedroom condo. It was the perfect size for our complete family. Less then a month later, I learned I was pregnant (unplanned)- and at my 7 week ultrasound (as fate would have it!) learned it was twins.
Well I am 22 weeks now, with identical boys. I need a few baby items however do not wish to have a shower. On the advise of a few family members I went ahead and registed for a double breast pump ($350) and another crib.
I have toddler girls and my son is 9 months.
So my crib is currently being used for my son. So I know we will need at least one more crib. I wanted to buy everything ourselves, but my family pressured me to register. I fear some friends and other family may think this is tacky. Opinions?
2007-03-15 09:07:21 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Thanks so far for the info- never thought of asking insurance about a breastpump!
My new ultrasounds are on my blog. www.myspace.com/heathercarter815
Refer to "The Verdict is In"
2007-03-15 09:16:52 · update #1
People who love you are going to want to help out with with time or gifts. You don't need to have a shower for someone to think of you and your family. I think registering is a good idea, that way if anyone asks then you can say that you have a "wish list" at whatever store you choose and they can pick something out that fits their budget.
2007-03-15 09:21:26 · answer #1 · answered by kny390 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say take all the help you can get. But, maybe ask that family or friends don't plan a party before the babies are born. Maybe you can request if you family wants you to have a party that they have a "Welcome Babies" party instead. Just invite some friends and family over and you don't personally mention a registry. If someone wants to buy you a gift, they will ask your mom what they can get you.
Also, as for the $350 pump, check with your insurance. A lot of policies cover the purchase of a pump OR at least you may be able deduct it on your taxes or use your health savings plan to reimburse yourself.
Congrats on the big family! Good luck!
2007-03-15 09:13:07 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe 10 years ago it would be considered tacky, but today it is common practice, and family and friends will want to know they are getting something you need rather than something you don't.
I was once invited to a wedding and the card asked specifically for money only - 'that' was tacky! A gift list is not because it gives people an option.
Good luck with all the bubs!!
2007-03-15 09:25:09 · answer #3 · answered by *** me *** 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would that be tacky? There are no laws for babyshowers. Its for fun and for the baby and anyone who thinks its tacky is a stick in the mud. You are having twins and need things. Its ok. I have had 3 boys and am pregnant with my first girl. We had a shower for her too. Every baby deserves a celebration and its not at all tacky. I say have an actual shower and dont worry what anyone else things about it.
2007-03-15 09:12:16 · answer #4 · answered by Blondi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not tacky at all. I personally would rather go to a registry and pick the things you want to use to raise your child with. Just because you have a large family doesn't mean you shouldn't have a shower with every pregnancy!
If someone thinks it is tacky, then they don't have to come...
2007-03-15 09:16:32 · answer #5 · answered by Hot Momma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then dont tell your friends you registered. Also get a used pump, and just buy new attachments. Thats perfectly hygenic. Also look into a group called Mothers of Multiples. Ours has a yearly sale, and has a preview day for members. The next day it gets crazy with women in there fighting for double strollers.
2007-03-15 09:13:22 · answer #6 · answered by lillilou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree each birth is special and this one is even more special because your having twins. What better way to celebrate something so beautiful than with friends and family?
I say to heck with what others will think if they thinks it's tacky they shouldn't come. No one is forcing them to.
I say make this the most enjoyable pregnancy possible, how many people get pregnant with twins. without help.
2007-03-15 09:18:40 · answer #7 · answered by ~Skittles~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a baby shower five months after a wedding shower. i felt like a mooch or that I was putting my family out. I found out that at both parties everyone wanted to anything they could to help me out. (almost like by buying me stuff they had a hand in raising the baby) Lots of love and luck to a fellow mother. God bless
2007-03-15 09:18:19 · answer #8 · answered by Crash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not tacky at all - your family is obviously wanting to throw another shower, so graciously accept and enjoy. It'd only be tacky if you dropping hints that you wanted them to throw you one.
2007-03-15 09:39:32 · answer #9 · answered by chicchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think most people will think it is tacky. You need extra help now, and if they they want to buy you gifts, I would say smile and thank them profusely. Best of luck with your pregnancy!
2007-03-15 09:14:11 · answer #10 · answered by MissM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋